How to remove a son from the neck that in 30 years asks for money from parents

Children raised wealthy parentsThey can grow up spoiled. From a young age, they get used to the fact that they always have everything. But when it comes time to go free swimming, a mountain of problems appears on the horizon. Of course, there are those who take responsibility for their lives. But it also happens that an adult child in 30 years waiting for help from his father and mother. Whether to indulge your child, read in our today's history.



I am 56 years old and work in construction abroad. My wife and I live in prosperity and have never denied ourselves anything. When we had a son, we did everything we could to make him feel happy. I can't say he was spoiled too much. Maybe my wife and I were wrong somewhere.



Andrey is now 30 years old, but he is still asking us for money. Moreover, my wife seriously believes that we have an obligation to provide for him, even if he is already grown up. I don't understand that. When he returned from the army, he married a woman who was his senior. I was against it, but I never put pressure on my son. I just knew that if he made up his mind, he would.

A year after the wedding, the young had a child. But they had no idea how to provide it. Andrey didn't even have a job back then! For the first few years, our son and daughter-in-law and granddaughter sat on our neck. I believed that Andrew would take up his head, even offered him a job. But you see, the construction didn't suit him.



What upsets me most is my son’s ingratitude. My wife and I have provided him with housing. Now he lives with his family in a spacious 2-room apartment, which I got from my mother. I never asked him for anything, I just gave it to him. And I wanted to put an end to that. However, Andrew did not like this arrangement.

Now every week he calls us and asks for money. And all under the pretext of "for the granddaughter." The son just puts pressure on us, knowing that for the sake of the baby, we are ready for anything. But I know that's wrong. Although Andrew has already found a job, his salary for all needs is still not enough.

The daughter-in-law had no plans to return to the office. However, I soon realized that we can not wait for help. She returned to work, and her son’s family’s total income rose. I know what the prices are and how much they pay for utilities. They should have enough, but they're still begging for money from us.



Nobody thinks about how we live. Now we need to make repairs at home, the car is often broken. My wife and I also want to go on vacation. The other day, Andrew called and “rejoiced”: they will have a second child. No, I certainly don't mind expanding their family. But I think you have to think with your head before you have another baby.

We didn’t do it because we knew we just couldn’t. We need more money, more time and more energy. We did not have this, however, as we do not have Andrew and his daughter-in-law now. But that doesn’t stop them at all.



I could not stand it and told my son that the freebie was over. I have a life of my own and I don't want to spend it making money for my son, who is 30. I told my wife not to give him money. If I find out, I'll block her access to the map. This can't go on forever! My wife is angry with me, and my son doesn’t talk at all. Am I right?

They say that you get used to good things very quickly. Andrew lives according to the model that his parents built for him. Perhaps if they had taught him how to handle money, he would not have grown up a freeloader. A sense of responsibility does not appear out of nowhere. It should be vaccinated to the child from early childhood. And now the main character of the story and his wife is left to reap the fruits of his upbringing.



Do you think it is possible to somehow reason with Andrei or will he beg for money from mature parents? Boldly share your thoughts in the comments!