My future husband did not admit that he lived in his apartment.

When two people in a relationship move to a new level, there is some financial responsibility. For yourself and for your loved one. Therefore, important issues should be resolved as soon as possible. And even residence certificate It has to be a normal curiosity. There is nothing reprehensible or reprehensible about it. It's an adult life.



Our reader, on the contrary, reproaches herself. No, not for being too interested in your husband's money. Quite the opposite. She was not honest enough with her husband. Do you think she should worry about that? Interesting story from life.

My mother always told me that for self-realization as a person, I must arrange my personal life well. In our world, it is very difficult for women to find themselves from the creative side and therefore you need to rely on a reliable shoulder.

Now I'm in my early 30s, and I'm still single. This is not the whining of an adult confused woman. Everything in my life is relatively calm. There's a man. Got a job. Even the plans for the future are quite realistic and I am satisfied with everything. But at the moment there is a problem with trust.



To begin with, I do not work in a profession. All my life I've been drawn to art. As a child and a young age, I gave good hopes for a career as an artist or at least for the then new-fangled current, about which almost no one knew. Designer. But, you know, for development in this direction should be a good financial cushion. I didn't find one.

So I had to ignore my ambitions and devote all my time and effort to learning something useful and relevant. Financially, I'm completely uninvolved. But I became an accountant. Over time, I figured out some subtleties and even became a good professional who simply can not stand his job. I think that's why there's a rumor about our brother that we're all evil snakes. We don’t really like sitting in the office every day.



When I decided the situation with housing (yes, money and a small loan was enough even for my own apartment), there was a new problem. Many men saw me as an uninteresting person or even a pretty girl. No, they saw me as a residence stamp. Believe me, it's worse than it looks. How to find yourself dignified Do you have a 100% confidence in them?

Misha appeared out of nowhere. I just met him, and he was so funny and funny. Then, when we stayed with me, probably for the fifth time, I jokingly said that the apartment is not mine, but a relative who has now gone to another country to work. I have no roof over my head.



His answer surprised me pleasantly. Mikhail said that he has been collecting for an apartment in the city for a long time and has already collected a considerable part of the money. A man who knows what he wants, attracts respect and becomes even more attractive. Anyway, I fell in love somehow.

It's about the wedding, and it's about the wedding. But I am constantly gnawing at the thought that I lied to my fiancé. That I live in my apartment. He opened up to me with all his heart. Ugly, you know, from myself. To tell the truth now would be very stupid. To find out before the wedding that your woman has led you by the nose and even took some money for her own apartment (believe me, only to maintain the “legend”) is a big blow.

But my mother tells me that this, on the contrary, is a very successful circumstance. And Misha doesn't need to know the whole truth. Let him save up, it'll be his incentive. Now we don't get too tight because we leave some money. There. So let a man be a man and lead me into his A cave, not content with mine.



But my apartment will be for me the same pillow, a backup option, so that in case of something not to start life with a clean slate. My mother even suggests that I rewrite the apartment for her, so that no force majeure happens during the marriage. I have to cheat a little bit on my husband all my life.

This is it. I don't know what to do. She's trapped herself. On the other hand, if Misha knew about my apartment, could I love him and trust him completely? Don't know. So, maybe this deception for good will really help us in life's difficulties? And if I have to, in time I'll tell him the truth. Who's going to get worse?



Questions of ethics and morality are always very difficult. Everyone thinks in their own way, subjectively. And if for one such situation will be more than acceptable, then someone, on the contrary, will only spit in your direction with anger and annoyance. Everyone can't please, but something needs to be decided. That's a really tough choice.