How to get your husband's relatives to fork out

Autonomy and responsibility The qualities that parents must instill in their child from an early age. After all, if the child does not grow up independently, then it is the parents who will have to take care of their problems. And from a person who does not know how to take responsibility for his actions and his life, too, good to expect.

Today's edition. "Site" She shares the story of a young woman who resents her husband’s parents. They do not help the young family much. As a result, the husband, and father-in-law, and mother-in-law. But does our heroine have the right to react so violently?



For six months now, we have been walking or using public transport. There is a car, but it broke down in the winter. My husband initially tried to fix it, consulted with friends. But then it turned out that the repair needed a tidy sum, and we did not have such money. So I had to walk, complains 31-year-old Ksenia.



“Of course, if we had savings, we would spend what we need. But where do these savings come from? And so raising a little daughter, barely enough for all the necessary. My husband worked alone until recently, but when my daughter turned 3, I was able to go to work. It's useless.

The father-in-law initially promised to help with the repair of the car. I even asked how much it would cost. But then somehow quieted down. Now he is silent and shows no interest in our problem. Although the money in the father-in-law and mother-in-law is definitely available. But help is slow.”



I put pressure on my husband, but he refuses to talk to his parents. He says he's uncomfortable asking them for money. But what's the big deal? Because my relatives help us, my husband does not mind. And then he suddenly became uncomfortable!

The apartment we live in is also from my parents. They also ordered new furniture (and even paid for it). And now they're asking me for money to repair my car? ?



“Yes, we got the car from our father-in-law and mother-in-law. Every time a man fights, he hastens to remember. But I think that's too little. They do not live in poverty, and they do not rush to help the only son’s family, as if they have no duties before us.

After the birth of our daughter, we wanted to expand, because the three of us live in a one-room apartment closely. But even a loan we can not afford, and from the parents of the husband such help and should not expect. Probably, we will huddle on 30 squares, collecting a penny for the repair of the car, said Ksenia.



Strangely enough, a young family counts on everyone but themselves. And quarrels over the fact that someone’s relatives help less or more are surprising. Isn’t it time for young people over the age of 30 to count on themselves?



If parents can help their children (and want to), there is nothing wrong with that. But if a fully mature and family person requires such help from elderly parents, then it seems that independence and responsibility are completely unfamiliar to him. And perhaps, instead of forcing all sorts of relatives to help you, it is worth learning. solve their own problems?

Or is Xenia’s indignation understandable and parents should help the young family more if they have the opportunity? Share your opinion in the comments.