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Mom doesn't let you throw anything away, fills the whole apartment with junk
The era of minimalism in all its manifestations is flourishing. However, as a rule, people of Soviet hardening of any junk It seems necessary. And all the same, however, sometimes manic warehousing leads to family disagreements. What is the connection and is it possible to resolve this issue, read in our history today.
My husband and I recently got divorced. A 6-year-old daughter, of course, stayed with me. Except we had nowhere to go. Before the divorce, we lived in my father-in-law's house. My husband had no property, so he could not offer us any housing. I had to move back to my parents’ home.
I must say that my mother has been living alone in a 3-room apartment for several years. My father passed away 3 years ago and I moved too. So my mother decided to rent out my old room to a student, and the other two were herself.
When my daughter and I returned to this apartment, we settled in my tiny room. Repairs are old, furniture is old. So I decided to at least somehow update the appearance of the room. It was very cozy, but still very close. So much so that we sleep with the child in the same bed.
My mom didn't bother at all. Moreover, when I decided to hint to her that one person did not need two huge rooms, she began to put me in my place. Like, she's the hostess here, and I just have to obey.
Mom's room is full of unnecessary things. The rubbish has filled the entire space so much that it is literally impossible to push through the apartment. If I could, I'd throw everything away. Just think about it, there's some old clothes that belonged to my grandmother! Old dishes that no one has used for many years, and then on the list.
When I told my mom that it would be worth a little audit and get rid of unnecessary stuff, she started yelling at me again. She doesn't care that her little granddaughter lives in this apartment, breathing this ancient dust every day.
Ideally, I want to swap rooms with my mom and do some renovations in the rest. Otherwise it will be impossible to live there. But the mother won't want to. The last time I cleaned the house and threw away a few things that were clearly unnecessary, she started a scandal. Says I don't decide anything here. And even at every opportunity recalls my divorce: “I had to think first and hold on to my husband!”
My mother would be more happy if her daughter lived in an unhappy marriage. Well, I don't even know what to do next. I can't afford to rent an apartment alone. Living under the same roof as someone who doesn’t understand me is unbearable.
The funny thing is that I'm registered in this apartment, and part of it legally belongs to me. I don't know what to do with it. Have you experienced such problems?
The passion for storing unnecessary things is a wake-up call. A mentally healthy person would not do that. Anyway, if the mother of the heroine was all right, she would perceive the proposals and words of the daughter adequately. And that, apparently, never happened.
Of course, perhaps motherly feelings will wake up and mother and daughter will be able to establish a relationship. But can the heroine herself live in such conditions and wait for a miracle? At stake is the growing up of her little daughter!
Share your thoughts and advice in the comments. We'll be interested to hear your point of view. Do you know any Plushkins?
My husband and I recently got divorced. A 6-year-old daughter, of course, stayed with me. Except we had nowhere to go. Before the divorce, we lived in my father-in-law's house. My husband had no property, so he could not offer us any housing. I had to move back to my parents’ home.
I must say that my mother has been living alone in a 3-room apartment for several years. My father passed away 3 years ago and I moved too. So my mother decided to rent out my old room to a student, and the other two were herself.
When my daughter and I returned to this apartment, we settled in my tiny room. Repairs are old, furniture is old. So I decided to at least somehow update the appearance of the room. It was very cozy, but still very close. So much so that we sleep with the child in the same bed.
My mom didn't bother at all. Moreover, when I decided to hint to her that one person did not need two huge rooms, she began to put me in my place. Like, she's the hostess here, and I just have to obey.
Mom's room is full of unnecessary things. The rubbish has filled the entire space so much that it is literally impossible to push through the apartment. If I could, I'd throw everything away. Just think about it, there's some old clothes that belonged to my grandmother! Old dishes that no one has used for many years, and then on the list.
When I told my mom that it would be worth a little audit and get rid of unnecessary stuff, she started yelling at me again. She doesn't care that her little granddaughter lives in this apartment, breathing this ancient dust every day.
Ideally, I want to swap rooms with my mom and do some renovations in the rest. Otherwise it will be impossible to live there. But the mother won't want to. The last time I cleaned the house and threw away a few things that were clearly unnecessary, she started a scandal. Says I don't decide anything here. And even at every opportunity recalls my divorce: “I had to think first and hold on to my husband!”
My mother would be more happy if her daughter lived in an unhappy marriage. Well, I don't even know what to do next. I can't afford to rent an apartment alone. Living under the same roof as someone who doesn’t understand me is unbearable.
The funny thing is that I'm registered in this apartment, and part of it legally belongs to me. I don't know what to do with it. Have you experienced such problems?
The passion for storing unnecessary things is a wake-up call. A mentally healthy person would not do that. Anyway, if the mother of the heroine was all right, she would perceive the proposals and words of the daughter adequately. And that, apparently, never happened.
Of course, perhaps motherly feelings will wake up and mother and daughter will be able to establish a relationship. But can the heroine herself live in such conditions and wait for a miracle? At stake is the growing up of her little daughter!
Share your thoughts and advice in the comments. We'll be interested to hear your point of view. Do you know any Plushkins?
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