We decided to buy a daughter and son-in-law an apartment, thought they would be happy, but it turned out the opposite.

The problem with rental housing for young couples is a long-established fact. This is probably the largest devourer of finance from the family budget. Therefore, to whom Parents gave their daughter an apartmentThey feel much easier and happier. You can save money for repairs, travel, children. Anything!



For this reason, such gifts are not accepted to refuse. But it's life. In life, as we all know, everything happens. Our reader sent us an example of how some people categorically refuse the housing given to them. They can even explain the reasons for their refusal. Who, after all, is right in this situation?

My daughter got married three years ago. Now she is 26 years old and she and her husband are still huddled in a rented apartment. I don’t think it’s mature, but my thoughts probably don’t interest anyone. Moreover, as it turned out, something is generally perceived as bayonets.

With her husband Pasha daughter met at the Institute. As she thought at the time, their relationship would not lead to anything serious. High glasses, rather silent, however, gave hope for a good career. They had different faculties, but he got lucky and got into a profession related to programming.



When we were first introduced, Paul was restrained, his husband even thought he was stewing. Looking around, looking at the walls with our photos. We are not a very wealthy family, but we were so lucky when we were young that we ended up in a private two-storey house. Beautiful, spacious, but believe me, in practice it is a lot of flour: all life is repair and fuss about the house.

Then he came to us in person, without Oli, and said he wanted to live with her. In a rented apartment, though. He wanted us to bless them or something. Well, it's a book knight. Then my daughter told me that for a day or two he had hinted that he would do something like that, but she didn’t pay attention to it. He was serious. However, we gave the go-ahead without any problems.



After they began to live together, Olya began to get to know her future husband better. Turns out he's really quite a strange person. Very careful, disciplined. But, at the same time, quiet and can be silent all evening, as if there is no one around. I asked him about his family and he was from the village.

After a while, my daughter began to complain that there were big problems with housing in our city. At that time, they had already changed several apartments and not even because of the high price. It was more about living conditions.

In the first case, the owners of the apartment had a key and did not disdain to come to the rented room as to their home. A couple of times even took something from the refrigerator while the tenants were away. I heard about it on TV, but I never thought it was possible in real life.



The second case was due to the neighbors. There was a family who had a huge drinking problem. They were constantly fighting, shouting, beating dishes. On New Year’s Eve, they started a fire. But this is even nothing, since the far-sighted owners who rented the apartment made double doors, with good sound insulation. So it was tolerated.

The problem came from where they did not expect: the neighbors from above began to rent their apartment for rent. And now that's not possible. Each new “guest” seemed to compete in the one who behaved disgustingly. So that option, too, had to be discarded. That's how my daughter and Pasha moved in for the second time.

Then they found a good “two”, although I did not like the area. Neighbors are nice, some repairs. But the rent is a horse price. What do we do? I had to save money. Keep in mind that during these months, young people were planning a wedding. So there was a real tension with the money.



Then my father and I decided to give the young one a good gift. Scratched through the bars, sold some property and collected the necessary amount for an excellent two-bedroom apartment. The area is not in the center, but quiet and green. After all, in the future it will be important for children and peace of mind in general.

There was not enough time to complete all the documents, so the gift itself, namely, the keys, was handed out later. On the other hand, what's the rush? I still had to buy furniture, furniture and so on. I didn't see any problem with that.

But when my father and I went home to our daughter and her husband, it turned out that our gift was not welcome. Actually, Paul didn't accept him. And categorically. He did not explain the reason for his refusal, just quietly went to the other room, said that he was tired. He doesn’t like the idea, though he’s very grateful.



Peels We sat silently for another half hour, had tea. My husband even wanted to go talk to his son-in-law. Okay, my daughter stopped in time. I promised to find out, because they're family now. I thought maybe he was worried about such a great gift, but his mother didn't even give him anything. Well, who doesn't.

But the next call from my daughter put everything in its place. Turns out Paul just figured it out. Naturally, we arranged the apartment for ourselves. And they said it right away. And he, you see, even in a free apartment, doesn't want to feel like a guest. Said he'd be thrown out in case of anything. And he has no guarantees.



I personally believe that if you have been thinking about divorce since the beginning of your marriage, then something is wrong. Think about how much your family will save on rent. You should kiss your hands, not your nose. I don't think it's better than a gift. But the son-in-law is categorical, and the daughter will not contradict him. What to do in this situation, I do not understand. The problem, however, remains in the same place. We're already thinking about renting out that apartment to strangers. That's what ingratitude is.