I drive my son-in-law and daughter to rented housing, I believe that my son-in-law should earn his own property, I want to teach children a lesson.

Parents are always sure that they know better how to live their child. And the more resources they have invested, the more often they are absolutely sure that they have every right to decide and make decisions for their child, even if he is already quite an adult. This often leads to serious conflicts in the family.

Today's edition. "Site" She will share the story of a subscriber who first bought her daughter an apartment, and then began to make strange demands. The woman seems to be motivated by good goals towards the child. My daughter doesn’t understand why. Parents donated an apartmentA place she can't live in.



When our family had free money, my husband and I decided to invest in the purchase of an apartment so that my daughter, when she grows up, had her own corner. Such a place where she will always be able to return, no matter how her life developed, Tatiana Sergeevna writes.



“I arranged the apartment for myself. She told her daughter that she could not sell the house. She will not be able to live here with her husband. And if he decides to marry, then let him move to his chosen one, as is customary, as it should be.”

“Yes, it may be that her young man will not have a home of his own. No problem, let him rent, let him earn to buy housing for his family. But don't even look at her apartment and count on this property.



“So my 28-year-old baby got married. Relations between Katya and Ruslan systematically developed, so everyone was ready for such a decisive step. Civil marriage does not suit them, and I strongly support this. It remains to be seen where they will live after the wedding.”

“All these years Katya lived in her own apartment, the one she had bought. Of course she got used to it. And she does not want to move to the rented apartment of the groom. Although I visited him, and the conditions there are quite good, you can live quite comfortably.”



What to do with your apartment "As for the daughter's apartment, it may well rent it, and spend this money at its discretion. But my perfectly reasonable plan was met with disapproval from both Katya and other close people.”

“For example, my sister thinks I’m just making things harder. He says that renting a house is only worth it when there is nothing of his own. And I should step back from my principles and let my daughter live with her husband in her apartment.



“How then will they learn responsibility? If Katya and her chosen one are such adults and independent, then let them gather for housing themselves. Let them earn, develop, break into people, save. You don't need a lot of intelligence to live on everything ready.”

How can Ruslan live in this apartment that he has nothing to do with? The wife’s parents refused everything, bought it, and he is only happy? asks us worried mother.



It is really strange when people rent their apartment, and live in a rented one. Perhaps Tatiana Sergeevna came up with too complex a scheme to teach children responsibility and frugality. Perhaps you should simply leave your daughter and son-in-law alone, and they will somehow sort it out themselves. After all, what good would it be to buy a daughter an apartment if she could never live there?



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