Husband Gives His Parents a Quarter of His Salary

Children should help parents in old age. First, parents help get back on their feet, and then we support them to ensure a carefree old age. If the child was brought up correctly, he will not even doubt that you can do otherwise. But Zhenya, who married Yura 8 years ago, doesn't think so.



My husband and I have been married for eight years. During this time, I was never used to the fact that my husband always gives decent money to his parents. Yura is a very attentive, caring husband. He gives me expensive gifts and does everything for my comfort. He does not stop taking care of his parents.



I take care of the house, do not work, Yura's salary is enough so that we do not need anything. We are not rich, but we have enough to live. Since Yura earns well, he decided that he would help his parents who live outside the city. They're both working, so we could, frankly, do it ourselves.



Yura said that taking care of his parents is his direct duty. It is to them that he owes everything he has. My husband did not even consult with me about whether to help my parents and how much money they should allocate.



When I first married Yuri, he helped my parents build a house. I bought furniture, renovated the house. I thought it was okay because one day this house will be ours. But after the construction, the husband did not stop helping his parents. He gives them a quarter of his salary every month.



I don’t understand why my husband’s parents can’t live like everyone else. They are not poor, they do not spend money. So why give them a portion of their salary each month? But Yura is sure that parents will be able to afford more. I agree that parents should be helped, but not at the expense of their family.



I want to celebrate my birthday in Italy, it’s my dream. And the husband asks us to postpone the trip, as we will not have time to put aside the necessary amount. And I don't want to put anything aside, and if he hadn't given that money to his parents, we could have gone abroad this year. Is it possible to stop giving money to parents?



Care for parents is a consequence of good upbringing. All his life, his parents raised him, fed him, dressed him, gave him the opportunity to study at the university. The main thing they did was to raise a grateful, caring and loving person. Yura provides for his wife, who can afford not to work, and at the same time he does not forget about the closest people. It is obvious that Zhenya has no right to discuss the question of whether to help parents. But even if she believes that her husband is giving them too much money to the detriment of the family, is it right for an unemployed woman to demand that her husband stop helping her parents?