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My mother-in-law was moving in and my left eye started twitching.
When and why there are family disagreements about living together, and how to resolve them, or better, avoid them? They say that it is better to learn from the mistakes of others. We hope that the bitter experience of the heroes of today’s history from life will help you avoid such problems.
My husband and I have been saving for our own home for years. Literally saved every penny. Valera went to work abroad, and I ran two jobs at home, trying to combine this with graduate school.
And finally, our dream came true. We reached the goal of saving enough money to buy a small apartment in the city and even to repair it. However, there was no money left to pay for the services of working personnel. All the repairs had to be done on their own. So we put not only all our savings into this house, but also our soul.
When the repair was completed, Valera offered to invite relatives to visit and celebrate the housewarming. My mother-in-law and sister-in-law gladly accepted the invitation, but unfortunately my parents could not come.
On the appointed day, I ran like never before. She covered the festive table, cleaned the apartment to shine and even prepared a small gift for little Diana, her husband’s niece. Not that I was expecting much praise, but when, instead of being grateful for the hospitality, I had to listen to criticism all evening that the chicken was overcooked and the mashed potatoes too unleavened, it became insanely hurtful.
However, I adequately accepted the barbs of my mother-in-law and did not even pretend that I was offended. It would have ended peacefully if Valera's mother hadn't joked about moving in. “What if I lived with you? Maybe Nastenka will finally learn how to cook deliciously under my careful guidance, she said, and then began to count all the advantages of her move to us.
At some point it became clear to me that the matter had taken a serious turn, and if I did not intervene, the husband would indeed invite his mother to live with us. I couldn't let that happen. I could not stand such a life, which I directly stated, interrupting the babble of my mother-in-law.
How it all ended
My mother-in-law said that I have no right to vote, because most of the money for this apartment earned her son. I reminded her that in addition to the money invested in this house a lot of effort during the renovation. As a result, a small verbal spat ensued between us, after which the guests left. My husband is still angry with me for hurting his mother. And I resent him for not standing up for me. I don’t know what will happen next, but I’m 100% sure I’m right. I will not be the first to apologize for anything.
Which spouse is right in this difficult situation? What would you advise our heroes to resolve the conflict that has arisen in their family?
My husband and I have been saving for our own home for years. Literally saved every penny. Valera went to work abroad, and I ran two jobs at home, trying to combine this with graduate school.
And finally, our dream came true. We reached the goal of saving enough money to buy a small apartment in the city and even to repair it. However, there was no money left to pay for the services of working personnel. All the repairs had to be done on their own. So we put not only all our savings into this house, but also our soul.
When the repair was completed, Valera offered to invite relatives to visit and celebrate the housewarming. My mother-in-law and sister-in-law gladly accepted the invitation, but unfortunately my parents could not come.
On the appointed day, I ran like never before. She covered the festive table, cleaned the apartment to shine and even prepared a small gift for little Diana, her husband’s niece. Not that I was expecting much praise, but when, instead of being grateful for the hospitality, I had to listen to criticism all evening that the chicken was overcooked and the mashed potatoes too unleavened, it became insanely hurtful.
However, I adequately accepted the barbs of my mother-in-law and did not even pretend that I was offended. It would have ended peacefully if Valera's mother hadn't joked about moving in. “What if I lived with you? Maybe Nastenka will finally learn how to cook deliciously under my careful guidance, she said, and then began to count all the advantages of her move to us.
At some point it became clear to me that the matter had taken a serious turn, and if I did not intervene, the husband would indeed invite his mother to live with us. I couldn't let that happen. I could not stand such a life, which I directly stated, interrupting the babble of my mother-in-law.
How it all ended
My mother-in-law said that I have no right to vote, because most of the money for this apartment earned her son. I reminded her that in addition to the money invested in this house a lot of effort during the renovation. As a result, a small verbal spat ensued between us, after which the guests left. My husband is still angry with me for hurting his mother. And I resent him for not standing up for me. I don’t know what will happen next, but I’m 100% sure I’m right. I will not be the first to apologize for anything.
Which spouse is right in this difficult situation? What would you advise our heroes to resolve the conflict that has arisen in their family?
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