Why live in separate rooms with your spouse?

The principles of a happy marriage are known to everyone. At least on an intuitive level.

After all, it is no secret that without trust, mutual understanding and support it is impossible to build harmonious marital relations. No close relationship with a person at all.

Whether it is love or friendship, any relationship requires establishing and respecting certain personal boundaries. They, in fact, become a confirmation of trust and mutual understanding in the union of two people.



Today's edition. "Site" Talk about how to learn to respect your partner. And most importantly, how to show your partner readiness to build healthy family relationships.

The Principles of Happy Marriage, and here are three main questions.

  1. How do you learn the principles of a happy marriage and apply them to life?
  2. Why do some people decide to separate after their first year together?
  3. And how do others manage to live in peace and harmony until they reach old age?


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An inspiring answer to these questions was the story of one of our readers.

“Nazar and I have been married for more than five years. And it so happened that we spent most of our life together in one-room rented apartments, says Ksenia.

“In the beginning of married life, we could not afford more spacious housing. In this regard, to be alone with their thoughts and quietly engage in personal affairs, none of us could almost never. Because of this, my husband and I constantly had various conflicts.



Of course, serious scandals were extremely rare. But small domestic quarrels happened everywhere.

What just had to agree on whether the window should be open or closed, smiles our narrator.

“But just a year and a half ago, our financial situation improved significantly. We had the opportunity to move into a two-bedroom apartment. We were finally lucky enough to get a breath of fresh air.



Before we moved, my husband and I agreed to live in separate rooms. From the outside, such a decision may look ridiculous, but it really helped us later. We learned to listen and became much more attentive to each other.

We also agreed that we had to knock before entering the room. If one of us wants to be alone, you don't have to open it, but you have to respond to a knock to make it clear that you're okay.



It may seem to some that we have drifted away from each other. But this decision, on the contrary, helped us to get closer and learn to be more sensitive to the time spent together.



We were able to withstand all the difficulties of life and in the end received our reward. I am sure that every couple should at least occasionally practice “shared pastime” – summed up the encouraged Xenia.



And it's true how often we ignore the fact that everyone should have their own space. Everyone has the right to their own corner, where you can hide from everyone for a short time. And absolutely everyone needs a place where you can just relax and gather your thoughts, without being distracted by external stimuli.



Of course, we do not urge you to immediately move to another room and sleep with your husband (wife) in separate beds. We just wanted to remind you that even loved ones can sometimes cause stress or fatigue.

Therefore, from time to time it is necessary to give the second half the opportunity to rest from their company and even make her a little bored. Marriage will never be a burden to either partner.