What to do if the daughter-in-law rips food from her hands and asks not to eat the family

“While I was at university, I lived in a dormitory. Then began to combine work with study and moved to rented housing. My younger brother was living with his parents at the time. I have to give Artem credit for looking after my mom and dad while I was trying to make money. But a couple of years ago my parents were gone. We have a complicated relationship right now. The quarrel with his brother over the division of property became decisive. Then I was proud, and he stayed in a two-room apartment, writes Elena.



My brother said, “That day he hurt me a lot.” Said I didn't help my old parents at all, and he was there all the time. In a fit of rage, I shouted to keep my apartment, and I moved to another city, tried to start a new life. Four years later, I got married. There was no family left but my brother, so I decided to call him and make up.



He came to my wedding empty-handed. He said he opened a business and sold his parents’ apartment. Now he lives with his wealthy fiancée and soon they too are going to get married. My husband and I were not invited to our wedding. When I saw his new wife, I knew he was married for money.



Two years later, I broke up with my husband and got fired from my job. There was nowhere to go. Suddenly my brother came, comforted me, brought me a cake to cheer me up. If he hadn't invited me to live in his house with his wife, I would probably be living on the street now. But the life of his brother was not fabulous.”



Uninvited guest “I was given a room, but Ana could see that she was not enthusiastic about this idea. And this house belongs to her. At first it seemed like everything was fine. I tried to help with the housework, cooking. Gradually, this became the default task. Then it turned out that the room in which I was placed was for a governess. I did all the housework, and when it started to warm, I had to clean the garden. Occasionally my brother would give me some money for food, as they had everything separately in the fridge.



I never got along with Anya. She didn't like everything I did. I recently made a sandwich with a piece of meat that I made myself after cleaning. So Anya flew into the kitchen and scolded me for eating after six o'clock in the evening, and in general she was tired of my snacks, they say, I was completely insolent.



I am 40 years old and have no home, no job, no children. I’ve made many mistakes in my life, but now I need more support than ever. Where can I get it? I work for a penny as a servant for my brother.”



Perhaps Elena needs to find a common language with Anya. Of course, it is difficult to get along with two housewives in the same house, but Elena needs the support of these people to find work and rent a house again. What would you advise in such a situation?