What the daughter says in her defense, not caring for the lying mother

Now let's bring up a hard topic. We all love our parents, but there comes a time when they need our help. And then it begins — some are not eager to watch the old. In this article, we will voice the opinion of one woman about who should carry out motherhood.



Editorial "Site" in strange attempts to decide for whom, in fact, the truth, because to any definite conclusion and did not come. We believe that parents should be cared for no matter what the relationship was. But who knows, maybe we're wrong?



The woman who wrote this message says that I would rather be judged than understood. In any case, we only have her word. Why did we pay attention to this? For some reason, it seems to us that this is not an isolated case and there are quite a lot of such situations. Let's tell you what it is.

“I know that often in families where there are two or more children, this is the case. One of these children becomes a favorite of mom, dad or both parents at once. Another child. remains in the shadows, without special moral support, because all the strength goes to the pet.



It was the same in our family. Everyone loved Jora, and I was like a minor outcast. My mother once told me that I was not a desirable child, it was because of me that they divorced my father. I asked my mother how I could be guilty. She didn't ask my opinion when I got pregnant.

In general, Jora was on the first roles, and I constantly remained in the shadows. After a while, she sent me to my grandparents, my father’s parents. It was as if they wanted to make amends for my dad and took me to their place unconditionally. So I grew up with them, I saw my mother occasionally.



She's been doing her Jora the whole time. She excused the police when he got into some poop, paid debts for him, even exchanged a large four-room apartment so that he had his own living space. Anyway, he's been kicking his ass all this time. As a result, both ended up in the dormitory, only Jora “lives” there with some neighbor.

I live in the country, married a long time ago. In the apartment of grandparents lives our grown-upI'm married too. I have a baby. I've been living my own life for a long time, I'm fine. Neither my mother nor Jora ever spoke to me. To be honest, I did not break off contact with them myself. And this happened.



When the mother broke her hip neck, it turned out that they did not have the money for surgery. I took the money out of my own family and basically paid for the surgery out of my own pocket. However, it turned out that doctors insist on long-term rehabilitation and the mother needs care. Jora tried to put me on the case, but I insisted that I would not do it.

Is it worth mentioning what I have heard about myself? They both muddyed me for refusing to help. But I was adamant and reminded my mother that she chose her favorite, invested her resources in it, gave him all her love, just got rid of me. So why should I take care of her now? Here's Jora, with arms, legs. Yours. darling.



Everything in life always falls into place. I am so glad they both remembered my existence. When trouble came. No one asked me how I felt. I've got nothing all this time. Nothing but disappointment. And let them say I'm offended. That's true. I resent my mother.”

It is difficult for us to give an opinion. On the one hand, a woman can be understood. And then there's the ethics, the connection with the parents, in this case the mother. We'll probably think about it for a while. And you can safely share your opinion in the comments. What do you think is right?



Mother care It's never easy. It always exposes the deepest feelings. We are in favor of such situations, as described above, happening less in the world. This is why children tend to blame their parents for their failures. It's also a tricky topic. Thank you for staying with us!