What awakens in men fatherly feelings for children from the first marriage

Can it? son Do you have any influence on your fate? Or are these ordinary experiences that can be caused by simple everyday troubles and uncertainty in the spouse or in the future?



No one can say for sure. One of our readers has this problem. In general, she is satisfied with everything, but there is, as they say, one “but”.

Like my husband, I am married for the second time. And they both have one child. In general, I do not complain about anything: money we earn both, romance in marriage is present, even though we are over 40. There are no bad habits or any too big disadvantages in character.

My daughter, who recently turned 9, respects her stepfather but understands it's not the father. By the way, her father did not put a hundredth of the effort into her upbringing, but this is a completely different conversation.



So, Misha, my husband, spends almost all day at work. Unfortunately, we cannot change that. He comes closer to the evening, tired, but I see that he wants to be at home with us, and I am very happy.

On weekends, we sometimes walk, go to the movies or bowling. But to be honest, I try not to bother him too much, because I understand that he is a grown man and he needs a banal rest on the couch with the TV or at the computer. Physically. Then I try not to touch him, and even my daughter.



Michael is not an open person, that’s true. But, you know, he shows his feelings like that, like a man. For example, if I want to buy something for myself, he's going to fight all day and I'm going to keep demanding it. Because I can see that he agrees, but you need to groan a little for decency. And I already know that in a couple of days my desired purchase will be made.

On the other hand, no means no. I can sometimes hear that in his tone. Same with my daughter. He can forbid her to watch cartoons until the night, and she will go to her room without talking. On her birthday, she will give her whatever she wants. But, as if not in his own name, but just give me the right amount and pretend that he does not even know what she wanted there. That's the character.



All I know about his old family is that they broke up badly, and his son was only a couple of years old. He obviously doesn't remember his dad. And he does not like to talk about his wife, it is clear that this woman hurt him in his time.

She called him at our house recently, and I even heard her voice. It turned out that the son managed to get into some bad company and she needed help to bring the young man home. After a brief argument and my request, Misha did so. It turned out that his son Grisha was hanging out with some high school students in the basements of a neighboring house. What they did is unknown, but clearly nothing good.



The father and son had a long conversation, and after that my husband was replaced. He started calling his son every day. They went to the rink together. Then I went fishing a couple of times. And recently Misha took weekends to spend the night with his son in the forest with tents. Ski, dry rations, all right.

He no longer responds to my words, apparently thinking only of his son. The daughter was treated if not cool, then probably superficially. I even caught him looking at old album photos of him, his little son and that woman. Now I don't know what to do. Can his son bring his father back to the family? Misha does not remember her wife in front of me, but I will not be surprised by anything. I don't know what to do.



The situation is really not the most pleasant. There are suspicions, of course, that the man missed the family that he had before you or he just lacks something. However, it can still be assumed that the father wants his son to stop walking with strange guys and thus wants to raise him. In any case, we should not lose hope.