How to understand the daughter that changed the locks and does not want to let her mother into the apartment

There is no perfect relationship between parents and children. Generational conflict, parenting methods, and personal resentment make themselves felt when children grow up. Parents do not always understand why children are separated from them in adulthood, communication becomes less. If you look at a story in which a daughter does not want to communicate with her mother, you can objectively see the reason for this behavior. But when you're a parent, you can't always follow your behavior and understand. Why does your child not want to talk to you?.



“It is the second year since my daughter and I have not spoken. In social networks, she publishes photos, communicates with friends. He doesn't call me or text me. Olya is an adult, she has a two-year-old daughter and husband, they live in their apartment. I've always been demanding, and Olga was no exception. Strictness is good for children, so I demanded that Olya study well, help around the house, take care of herself, says Maria Sergeevna.

Maria Sergeevna did not cease to be demanding, even when her daughter had her own family. Regularly visiting her daughter, Maria Sergeevna here and there folded things in the closet, saying how to dump everything on a pile. It was as if Ole was 10 years old again, and she reluctantly started tidying up to please her mother.

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The daughter does not want to communicate “The child is unattended, the dishes are not washed, and Oli’s husband is generally unattractive.” Who but my mother would tell Ola the truth? A year ago, Olya stopped answering calls, out of the blue. Yesterday I told her how my sister’s daughter had already learned to read. And Olga, of course, puffed up, they say, why I compare children. How not to compare if the difference is huge? That was our last telephone conversation.



Later it turned out that she changed the locks in the apartment and does not want to see me again. I didn't care, I thought she'd come back to apologize. It’s been a few months and it’s my birthday at the end of August. She didn’t even call to congratulate her mother.



The next day, I called her from another room and told her that if she didn't want to talk to me, she should get out of my apartment. I bought this apartment before my wedding, 6 years ago. Oli's husband is worthless, earns little, then I decided to help the young family, especially since the funds allowed.



But now that she doesn't want to talk to me, then she should look for a new home. Olya flatly refuses to leave, since all the documents are issued for her. Am I right? If she is so self-sufficient, let her find new housing”.

The editorial board of such conflict situations in the world is very much. That’s because children don’t talk about their grievances, and parents don’t want to put themselves in their shoes. As a result, there is a quarrel, misunderstanding. People do not communicate for years and reduce everything to material goods. It's a lot easier, though.



Openness and trust between parents and children should be formed from the first years of life. And just because parents didn't teach that, if they had different ideas about parenting, it doesn't mean they were doing the right thing. When conflict arises, inefficiencies only further alienate relatives from each other. Try to talk frankly, to tell you what does not suit you. If necessary, consult a psychologist together. Do not burn the bridges under any circumstances. We need to take care of our families.