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5 Ways to Deal with the News You Have Been Cheated
What should not be done if you find out about the cheating spouse
How people deal with the shocking news that their spouse is cheating on them by meeting their mistress/lover behind their backs determines how they will recover from such betrayal with the least damage to themselves. There are 5 ways not to fall into despair and not lose your dignity in such a situation.
Don't panic.When we feel threatened or threatened, our bodies produce excessive amounts of stress hormones and adrenaline, we become inflated and rush into battle. Despite the chemical processes in our bodies that cause us to panic and push us to take immediate action, What we really need to do is take a breath. Take a break, don’t panic, and don’t throw your partner’s belongings out of the house. It's not worth moving, either. Find an opportunity to calm your feelings, calm down a little and recover. No one has ever managed to make reasonable decisions in a state where one wants to “break and throw”. You just need to pull yourself together, then you can finally think things through.
Don't stop taking care of yourself.Learning about cheating, you experience a shock, as a result of which you forget about everything that pleased you in life. You stop taking care of yourself, although right now you just need to pay more attention to yourself in order to recover from the shock and restore peace of mind. Treat your condition like a severe form of flu. Treat yourself with all kindness and tenderness. Boil yourself broth, eat light/healthy food, and remember to drink enough water. Try resting even if you can’t sleep. Walk down the street every day. You can sit on a bench in your yard, sit and calmly reflect, feeling the warm rays of the sun on your face. Tell yourself over and over again that your partner’s cheating is not evidence that something is wrong with you or that you are worse than someone else.
Don't blow it to the world.The feeling of resentment makes many immediately tell others how badly they were treated. Your indignation is a call to people to stand up for your honor against treachery. Sure, you need support, but refrain from wanting to tell your mom, co-workers, or neighbors immediately. It will take some time to think about what happened, and you may regret that you rushed to share and said too much. Many people manage to cope with situations related to infidelity and intrigues, it even happens that they manage not only to maintain relationships, but even improve them.Over time, it will be unpleasant for you to realize that you have shared with others something that concerns only you and your partner. In such cases, it is better to share your trouble only with a reliable friend, so that it becomes easier on your soul. Don’t be in a hurry to tell others until you have decided what to do next.
Don’t be in a hurry to file for divorce.If you are married, then this thought will inevitably arise in your head, it will be really difficult to contain anger and not to divorce. Well, the courts are not going anywhere, if necessary, you will have time to go there. But in good time. You will only make yourself worse if you go to extreme measures in a rash, absolutely reckless way, which will eventually destroy your marriage. In addition, a divorce will not immediately relieve you of painful feelings and confused thoughts. In fact, it's only going to get worse.
Don’t try to figure out who the rival is.Do not give in to the desire to know what is the one with whom your husband cheats. You should not use Facebook or other social media to collect information about your husband’s mistress.This will only make your pain worse. You already have enough problems and you have to deal with them. The image of your husband’s mistress standing before your eyes, thoughts about her that do not go out of your mind, all this will not help you cope with everything that has piled on you, but will only interfere. In addition, the problem is not at all in the mistress with whom your husband cheats, the problem is in your husband and that he is so unfair to you.
Written by Jill P. Weber, translated by Svetlana Bodrik
P.S. And remember, just by changing your consciousness – together we change the world!
Source: mixstuff.ru/archives/125851
How people deal with the shocking news that their spouse is cheating on them by meeting their mistress/lover behind their backs determines how they will recover from such betrayal with the least damage to themselves. There are 5 ways not to fall into despair and not lose your dignity in such a situation.
Don't panic.When we feel threatened or threatened, our bodies produce excessive amounts of stress hormones and adrenaline, we become inflated and rush into battle. Despite the chemical processes in our bodies that cause us to panic and push us to take immediate action, What we really need to do is take a breath. Take a break, don’t panic, and don’t throw your partner’s belongings out of the house. It's not worth moving, either. Find an opportunity to calm your feelings, calm down a little and recover. No one has ever managed to make reasonable decisions in a state where one wants to “break and throw”. You just need to pull yourself together, then you can finally think things through.
Don't stop taking care of yourself.Learning about cheating, you experience a shock, as a result of which you forget about everything that pleased you in life. You stop taking care of yourself, although right now you just need to pay more attention to yourself in order to recover from the shock and restore peace of mind. Treat your condition like a severe form of flu. Treat yourself with all kindness and tenderness. Boil yourself broth, eat light/healthy food, and remember to drink enough water. Try resting even if you can’t sleep. Walk down the street every day. You can sit on a bench in your yard, sit and calmly reflect, feeling the warm rays of the sun on your face. Tell yourself over and over again that your partner’s cheating is not evidence that something is wrong with you or that you are worse than someone else.
Don't blow it to the world.The feeling of resentment makes many immediately tell others how badly they were treated. Your indignation is a call to people to stand up for your honor against treachery. Sure, you need support, but refrain from wanting to tell your mom, co-workers, or neighbors immediately. It will take some time to think about what happened, and you may regret that you rushed to share and said too much. Many people manage to cope with situations related to infidelity and intrigues, it even happens that they manage not only to maintain relationships, but even improve them.Over time, it will be unpleasant for you to realize that you have shared with others something that concerns only you and your partner. In such cases, it is better to share your trouble only with a reliable friend, so that it becomes easier on your soul. Don’t be in a hurry to tell others until you have decided what to do next.
Don’t be in a hurry to file for divorce.If you are married, then this thought will inevitably arise in your head, it will be really difficult to contain anger and not to divorce. Well, the courts are not going anywhere, if necessary, you will have time to go there. But in good time. You will only make yourself worse if you go to extreme measures in a rash, absolutely reckless way, which will eventually destroy your marriage. In addition, a divorce will not immediately relieve you of painful feelings and confused thoughts. In fact, it's only going to get worse.
Don’t try to figure out who the rival is.Do not give in to the desire to know what is the one with whom your husband cheats. You should not use Facebook or other social media to collect information about your husband’s mistress.This will only make your pain worse. You already have enough problems and you have to deal with them. The image of your husband’s mistress standing before your eyes, thoughts about her that do not go out of your mind, all this will not help you cope with everything that has piled on you, but will only interfere. In addition, the problem is not at all in the mistress with whom your husband cheats, the problem is in your husband and that he is so unfair to you.
Written by Jill P. Weber, translated by Svetlana Bodrik
P.S. And remember, just by changing your consciousness – together we change the world!
Source: mixstuff.ru/archives/125851
