The main enemies on the way to a slim body

The therapist and the psychiatrist Natalia Stilson is working with disorders of body image and eating behavior. She is sure that the main enemies on the way to a slim body and a healthy mind — shame and self-loathing..

Instead of torturing your body with strict diets and punish yourself for each failure exercise stress, you need to accept and forgive their own food errors and tune in to long-term cooperation with your own body.





— What is the psychological reason why many people are unhappy with their weight, but no matter how I try, I can't change the situation?

You need to understand that working on oneself, in particular, weight loss is a long and gradual process. With solutions quickly and urgently to change something in your body usually start eating disorders. Very dangerous the desire to "fix" themselves to lose weight as soon as possible, and to this no one knew. In addition to clinical cases, (e.g., anorexia) desire for quick solutions leads to a large number of hidden disorders. People years drink laxatives or diuretics, hoping to lose weight. Typically, these patients first and foremost be a psychologist or a psychiatrist, and nephrologist — they begin with kidney problems.

To find a quick solution in this matter is dangerous: people sit on a hard Express diet, which essentially boil down to cleaning the intestine and the withdrawal of water from the body. After such diets usually all the lost weight back and even more. It is impossible to solve the weight problem quickly and forever.

— In this case, change your weight without risking to earn an eating disorder?

First and foremost we must realize that a healthy diet and maintaining body shape is a long one. Coming from a long time. In this way there are setbacks, frustrations and disappointments: not able to get into your favorite dress, could not resist in front of a festive table. The breakdowns in turn cause the feeling of shame that only worsens the situation.

The most important thing when losing weight to remember if there was a breakdown, that's fine. Failures — an expected phenomenon. The brains of people who used to eat a lot and programmed to receive pleasure from food. If you adjust your diet, expect that the brain will be hindered you in this. Broke down and ate? Nothing terrible, exhale and continue.

Very harmful in such cases to torture: a "punish" myself for overeating additional exercise. According to the principle: ate a plate of salad "Olivier" — 30 times download press. No need to do so. If the failure leads to guilt and an influx of negative emotions, high risk that very soon everything will repeat again.

— What threat of shame and guilt?

Because of the shame many people who are unhappy with their weight, don't do any rational work for its change. They just sit at home, and they are ashamed. Including a shame to start exercise, I'm ashamed to go to the gym, where everyone will probably laugh at them. From shame and hopelessness people are still eat more. It is a vicious circle, and this relationship forms a Foundation to ensure that in the future these people develop a more serious eating disorder.

Sites and forums dedicated to the fight against obesity, full of negative epithets. People are trying to improve their motivation, calling himself "fat pigs", "cows" and other insulting words. Whether hatred and disgust to your own body to tune in to weight loss?

On the contrary, these feelings form a negative setup. In modern society, people think that overweight people must try to your body hatred and disgust. The default assumption is that fat people have to hate themselves. To be ashamed of themselves are taught from childhood, and this is very bad. I'm sure you cannot tell the child to full of people, explaining: "look, he is so fat because it eats a lot. If you have, will become as nasty."

I had one client, who is the father of the child said, "You eat too much, become fat, nobody will love you. You sit in a chair and watch TV". In 50 years people did what the Pope commanded.

It is not necessary to associate the shape of the body with the possibility of happiness, as do the modern media. It just leads to food disorders: of course, everybody wants to be happy. People who had recovered from anorexia say that during his illness, an inner voice kept saying to them, is to lose another few pounds, and everything will be fine.

A healthy and positive relationship with their bodies significantly helps in the process of weight loss.published

 

Interviewed By Tatiana Krylova

 

P. S. And remember, only by changing their consumption — together we change the world! ©

Source: theageofhappiness.com/posts/natalya-stilson-chtoby-spravitsya-slishnim-vesomizbavtes-otchuvstva-styda/31egji6bbg5

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