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How to find the way out of the impasse
Each of us many times heard this phrase – "desperate situation." Usually in such cases we are talking about something very unpleasant, which, as it seems impossible to avoid. By itself, the "desperate situation" extremely convenient: here the situation is "hopeless" — and everything, and nothing can be done. She's like that, she's "desperate," and I, good, white and fluffy, nothing to do with it.
No questions, it is sometimes true, but in this case, this does not mean that You are exempt from the elimination of the consequences of the ill-fated "hopeless situation", and may be prerequisites for such. In the end it turns out that Your "desperate situation": first, is not so hopeless, and secondly, it largely depends on You. Ilya Pozhidaev specifically for offers to consider this question at more or less typical examples...
Imagine the situation: the company where You work, it was the new leadership and announced a massive "reduction" in the number of employeesand in the number of accidents "reduced" — You. Write "own" and out of the company.
The first reaction – of course, the shock and feeling of hopelessness.But then you can pull yourself together and understand what is really going on. If the new boss still at least minimally adequate, then it is possible to speak on the subject of what You can to get back with him. You'll see, everything will be fine. You will be left without quarrels and scandals.
If the newly ohamevshy head right in the eye You said that Your place is planned somebody's son (like his), and the office You still need, pressure them with your Your new boss Prosecutor's office, labor Inspectorate and something else like that. Especially if You are punctual and responsible person without any complaints. The boss is terribly frightened and won't take up any warranty – 146%. And the situation, at first glance seeming fatally insoluble, very soluble, and in a favorable direction.
Consider a hypothetical second "desperate" example – betrayal. No matter whose: wife, mistress, friend, relative, business partner, or anyone else. No matter what exactly is the betrayal expressed. Just a fact: You are faced with meanness and injustice is not a foreign person.
The situation seemingly hopeless, incorrigible, etc. etc. But... first, this is a good lesson: people need to be at least a little Parasporos. Second, it might have a chance finally to get rid of not suitable or even not suitable to You people. Maybe, and this is the third, You were doing something wrong – then just understand that and try to continue in relationship with people not to do that.
The third hypothetical "no-win" example – You were mugged or robbed. As You know, the likelihood that law enforcement agencies themselves to find the culprit to put it mildly, small. Stupor gives way to panic, panic smoothly into a tantrum. Stole a million.It would seem that a complete deadlock. But no!
First, it depends on You whether You will stir up the corresponding competent law enforcement authority or not (believe me, complaints to the Prosecutor they are afraid!). Secondly, when the thief finds (and in the competent bodies is provided, including You, the villain will certainly find) You can demand from a thief stolen money from You. More activity – and it turns out that the situation again is more or less favorable way.
In principle continue indefinitely. The General meaning is: if you understand the ins and outs of a so-called "unsolvable" situation, particularly the causes of such, and actively and competently to act in a constructive way – impossible in reality is not enough.
Really, totally, and obviously a desperate situation, only one – death, including violent (although in some cases also depends on You, wander down dark alleys or not). Well, sometimes there are other, extremely small, processes that develop according to its own internal logic, and from us, respectively, are completely independent. To say that everything in our hands, probably still somewhat presumptuous.
The one who ruined your mood, did that...the Pain cause NOT other people
But in General acceptable for You there is a solution in 99% of cases, no matter how catastrophic You may appear to be a problem. But even if the development hard you hit the very unfortunate 1%, still, if you wish, even it can be retrieved from the share of positive. At least in the form of life experience. And, for God's sake, do not rush to declare the situation "desperate": "desperate situations" is actually very, very little!
Author: Ilya Pozhidaev, especially for
Source: Ilya Pozhidaev
No questions, it is sometimes true, but in this case, this does not mean that You are exempt from the elimination of the consequences of the ill-fated "hopeless situation", and may be prerequisites for such. In the end it turns out that Your "desperate situation": first, is not so hopeless, and secondly, it largely depends on You. Ilya Pozhidaev specifically for offers to consider this question at more or less typical examples...
Imagine the situation: the company where You work, it was the new leadership and announced a massive "reduction" in the number of employeesand in the number of accidents "reduced" — You. Write "own" and out of the company.
The first reaction – of course, the shock and feeling of hopelessness.But then you can pull yourself together and understand what is really going on. If the new boss still at least minimally adequate, then it is possible to speak on the subject of what You can to get back with him. You'll see, everything will be fine. You will be left without quarrels and scandals.
If the newly ohamevshy head right in the eye You said that Your place is planned somebody's son (like his), and the office You still need, pressure them with your Your new boss Prosecutor's office, labor Inspectorate and something else like that. Especially if You are punctual and responsible person without any complaints. The boss is terribly frightened and won't take up any warranty – 146%. And the situation, at first glance seeming fatally insoluble, very soluble, and in a favorable direction.
Consider a hypothetical second "desperate" example – betrayal. No matter whose: wife, mistress, friend, relative, business partner, or anyone else. No matter what exactly is the betrayal expressed. Just a fact: You are faced with meanness and injustice is not a foreign person.
The situation seemingly hopeless, incorrigible, etc. etc. But... first, this is a good lesson: people need to be at least a little Parasporos. Second, it might have a chance finally to get rid of not suitable or even not suitable to You people. Maybe, and this is the third, You were doing something wrong – then just understand that and try to continue in relationship with people not to do that.
The third hypothetical "no-win" example – You were mugged or robbed. As You know, the likelihood that law enforcement agencies themselves to find the culprit to put it mildly, small. Stupor gives way to panic, panic smoothly into a tantrum. Stole a million.It would seem that a complete deadlock. But no!
First, it depends on You whether You will stir up the corresponding competent law enforcement authority or not (believe me, complaints to the Prosecutor they are afraid!). Secondly, when the thief finds (and in the competent bodies is provided, including You, the villain will certainly find) You can demand from a thief stolen money from You. More activity – and it turns out that the situation again is more or less favorable way.
In principle continue indefinitely. The General meaning is: if you understand the ins and outs of a so-called "unsolvable" situation, particularly the causes of such, and actively and competently to act in a constructive way – impossible in reality is not enough.
Really, totally, and obviously a desperate situation, only one – death, including violent (although in some cases also depends on You, wander down dark alleys or not). Well, sometimes there are other, extremely small, processes that develop according to its own internal logic, and from us, respectively, are completely independent. To say that everything in our hands, probably still somewhat presumptuous.
The one who ruined your mood, did that...the Pain cause NOT other people
But in General acceptable for You there is a solution in 99% of cases, no matter how catastrophic You may appear to be a problem. But even if the development hard you hit the very unfortunate 1%, still, if you wish, even it can be retrieved from the share of positive. At least in the form of life experience. And, for God's sake, do not rush to declare the situation "desperate": "desperate situations" is actually very, very little!
Author: Ilya Pozhidaev, especially for
Source: Ilya Pozhidaev
