It is not necessary to catch up, to bind and hold Bashny.Net

Probably need half of his life to understand that it is not necessary to catch up, to tie, to hold someone to be with you wants. And because a lot of statuses walks on the network with the statements of the classics on this subject, but those in painful relationships, it does not help. “I understand, but can not do anything”, as they commonly say.

It seems that everyone is necessary to survive, to transfer their share of suffering, to understand that we must live in joy and not in pain. Or “I don't need it” comes after “enough is enough”?

 





Probably, understanding that passion from the word “suffer”, but love is something completely different comes when it becomes not funny and not funny is a weekly (or daily) showdown with the obligatory threat of rupture of relations, with women's tears and tantrums and the male nervous breakdowns. Worth walking in relationship to the fact that feelings were only fatigue and emptiness, in order for the relationship to end. While in passion there is energy, people holding on to her last strength. Emotional outbursts and explosions are very similar to feelings of love, even inverted, even perverted, but it is not love.

It is clear that the choice of a partner, relationships we do unconsciously. But if you're feeling bad, stop and think, why in these relations you feel bad and you do bad things. Why you choose unavailable partners? Why are you trying to be good and to deserve love? Why you can't live without each other, although I feel that you dislike? Sometimes it's hard to understand and accept yourself — you need to go to a specialist. Just trust me that it is not “life is pain”, are you out of your life the pain did.

If you explain its existence in the relations of the different common sayings, like: “beats – means loves”, “relationship is a hard work”, “passion gives inspiration, and who is easy?”, “everything is live”, “for the children” and so on, know that you are sitting as the needle on the energy of destruction. And destroy, first and foremost, yourself.

If all that you and your partner were able to build in a relationship, became the nightmare that is happening now, it means you are wrong for each other people who are trying to attract in life that in it the call of your essence, should not be. You – people from different couples. Even if you are a whole person, even if you are very traumatized psychologically, when you meet a person with whom the jigsaw puzzle of your personality will match. You touches one, the other indifferent to it. It touches something else, it doesn't bother you, and you're ready to give in. Your injuries do not collide with each other like icebergs.

People always know that the person is not the one — from the very beginning of the relationship.

At the entrance to the relationships include arguments of convenience, expediency, “it's time”, “better find”, “over time he (she) will change,” and so forth, but not based on “me with this person well,” “my life with him (her) will be better,” “I'm with her (him) to grow old”.

And the problems start immediately: someone someone not calling, disappearing without explanation, ernichat about your experiences trying to manipulate your affection.

Call once a month is not a relationship.

Sex on somebody else's territory without the other joint time –it's not a relationship.

Coolness about your problems and joys, and indicates those relations.

When people still don't even like, but at least interested in each other, mutually interesting, everything is different. When people can be paired, they can talk from the beginning. They are able to move away from conflicts and to forgive inconsistencies, they understand that this is normal. They don't break up because of any disagreement with his point of view.





They act like adults who want to get closer, and are looking for direction and opportunities.

When people love each other, they understand the value of these relations and do not stop the dialogue. Feelings, doubts, misunderstanding is possible and necessary to clarify words, no ultimatums, and no threats. “Tell me what you don't like, I'm ready (and) to listen” – it is normal practice. “I'd rather be silent so as not to become worse” – that's a distressing symptom.

Difficult, very difficult to accept that everything in life happens the best way for you. If a man is not what happens in your life, don't pull it, so he's not supposed to be. You must be those people with whom you are compatible.

Don't call the aliens on their planet, they still live in it can not. published

 

Author: Lilia Ahremchik

 

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Source: www.b17.ru/article/ne-zovite-inoplanetjan-na-svoju-planetu/