And how much will you pay me for a fiver? Bashny.Net

The measure of knowledge and successful training activities have always been est. Its objectivity has motivated students for self-development, bias – caused anger, resentment, envy, created the preconditions for the formation of his inferiority complex. In any case, the assessment stimulated the creation of a competitive environment, a child's desire to be in a group with a high rating.

And how the family solved the problem of school evaluation? Because the parents see how much work puts their child in academic performance. One of the "five" is easier than the other – the "Troika".





Needless to praise your child for high marks and blame for low? Whether it is necessary to punish "two"?

And if Yes, than to punish:

• belt?
• house arrest?
• ban doing?
• limit sweets?
• boycott?
• deprivation of pocket money?

 

You have found the list his own version of punishment?

 

And that's how it happens in the family of our friends:

• for "five" — well done,
• for the Quartet — the well
• for "three" — and this happens,
• for "two" — set the table, buy a cake, light candles – we have a holiday "rare guest".

 

Analyze:

• buying, but all the same praise for success – otherwise, it can not be, because you created all the conditions;
• for the failure – "romantic evening" as the manifestation of a universal sympathy and support, faith in the fact that defeat is accidental, it happens to everyone! And even if the child deserved a "d" that flawed, skipped, did not try, it is unlikely he will want in the future to repeat this "holiday".

 

In this family the children have high demands, but not overstated. Successes are praised, but not glorify. And the failure is not abused, although not conceal his grief. And always provide support, confidence in the successful future, find the words that the child has no doubt that he is loved as he is.

And one more delicate moment want to stop. Is it necessary (possible) to pay a child money for grades? After all, school is work, and the evaluation fee. But the school pays for stamps in the store do not buy. And the parents agree with the child, how much they will pay for a particular assessment. Set even the prices, considering the complexity or usefulness of each item. A business plan!

The establishment of such market relations - an occasion for discussion, but every family has the right to make a choice. And the result of such forms of education can become a financial success grown child, and its moral ugliness. For in the beginning are two behaviors:

a) protective,

b) constructive.

 

Protective behavior model based on such principles - it is necessary to learn well:

• you praised,
• not to be ashamed,
• in order to get a prestigious job.

 

Constructive behavior model operates with such concepts - it is necessary to learn well:

• because I'm interested to learn new things,
• because I love to share knowledge with others
• because it will help me to find a favorite thing.

 

A constructive model of behavior is hardly in need of financial support, and in protective – money increases the motivation.

We believe that pocket money the child needs to allocate, but link them directly with the estimates – is unlikely. Better to show progress healthy interest, not playing down its importance, but not raising the rank of the tragedy, temporary setbacks. Life will put everything in its place! History knows many examples: I have never been in the number of diligent students, neither Pushkin nor Einstein nor Winston Churchill...

The ability to learn – it is only the ability to learn, it does not define neither the ability to think, no ability to work, no ability to live. And these abilities are the most important, and they manifest themselves much later, when determining the success of a person in life.

 

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The famous American poet Walt Whitman, influenced the worldview of Americans with the philosophy of the intrinsic value of the individual, saying, "Yeah, I'm no better than the worst, but, thank God, is no worse than the good." By the way, for 40 years, he achieved nothing – not chose a decent profession, not making a fortune. From time to time, he did not know what his destiny and calling. Just lived cheerfully and happily, content that gave it a earnings. And only in adulthood, he realized his gift and began to work hard on its development.

It is useful always to remember that true love not those whom we admire, and admire the people you love.published

 

Author: Lyudmyla Andrievska

 

P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©

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