Forgiving yourself is the most difficult type of forgiveness




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Why to forgive

You need to forgive yourself. The man who can not forgive myself and forget past mistakes, drags the burden of cares and grievances, not allowing himself to go forward. Looking back, it blocks the channels through which new.

To pour a glass of clean water, need to empty, wash, dry, and only then pour the new, clean, spring water. And then she will be clean. And imagine if you pour into a dirty glass of clean water, what will happen to the water? And if the glass already has water, then we will not be able do it pour.

It's also our soul is a vessel that we just need to regularly clean, dry and re-fill clean, spring water. The only way!

Frequently asked question: "can't forgive, what to do?" "It's hard to forgive, how to be?". I want to answer in the words of my respected teacher of Radislav gandapas: "do Nothing, stay in the ass!"

So after all it turns out. People come for advice, asking for help, and when I say: forgive yourself, let go of this mistake, forget that time — it starts whining. So why do you come and ask for help? And then solve their problems as you have solved them before.

You have to move forward. There is no happiness without love, and there is no love without forgiveness!

No one said that to forgive, especially yourself and your mistakes is EASY. I'm not promised. To forgive is hard, difficult, sometimes even too much. BUT. "If long to suffer, all will work out!"

So go ahead and suffer! As the saying goes: "Through the thorns to the stars!"

How to forgive

In order to learn how to forgive yourself or any other person you need to learn to understand others. To understand is to forgive!

Have to notch, to drive himself in the head and hack to death on your nose: the MOMENT YOU did EVERYTHING you COULD! AT THAT MOMENT YOU WERE JUST IN THIS STATE AND IN THIS SPIRITUAL LOCATION, AND YOU TRIED EVERYTHING YOU COULD!

You don't want to hurt anyone, and even if they wanted to, could not differently. Well, not enough that you have the knowledge and understanding at the time, get it!

THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT UNDERSTANDING ON THE PATH TO FORGIVENESS.

Important DESIRE, a burning desire to forgive yourself, get rid of resentment at myself. When you have the desire you will use all the methods, all the possibilities and all the resources, if only to forgive yourself. And you learn to forgive. The main thing — to learn it!

Write myself a letter.

To elaborate I won't. Already wrote about this. Let me just say that the letter can be written in any form, as long as you wrote by hand, and not on the computer. Re-read, and it is better to rewrite it until until you feel a relief throughout the body.

Listen to meditation for forgiveness yourself!

You can find online, and you can register yourself. A small audio file, duration 20-25 minutes, quiet music and words, and promotes forgiveness. To listen it must, too, until, until relieved, and in the shower will not work aching feeling.

The conversation with himself.
Daily if you experience discomfort in the chest saying to yourself the words that I wrote above. Your task is to convince the inner critic that YOU did THE BEST AT the TIME. You are not to blame, it all happened the way it happened. It happened for the best, because that's what the situation can teach you that, to show it to you and give you something.

Hoponopono.
This technique is versatile and very effective. At the memory of any unpleasant events for which you have no way to forgive yourself, repeat four phrases:
"I'm sorry!" "Forgive me!" "I thank you!" "I love you!"

I have myself added the phrase, because to me it was important to forget and let go of things past:
"I forgive myself!" "I accept myself!" "I approve of myself!" "I release you!" "I love myself!"

There were moments when this phrase does not just flew from my lips and shouted with all my internal state. After these phrases and repeating them 10-20-50 times at once I felt much better and then understood that more aching feelings in my heart towards this situation, NO.

Goodbye resentment! Forget the insults! Cleanse yourself of resentment. And go forward with a pure heart, a light spirit and an open mind!

istochnikami

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