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Extra person in your life - 6 signs
Signs of Extra Man in your life or how to rid your life of the vampirism of others
My mother used to tell me, “Get rid of the extra people out of your life, they suck your energy.”
From her point of view, these were completely useless people to me, but I had an incredible “usefulness” for them, like a Duracell battery, charging their sluggish bodies and souls with my ineradicable energy.
Back then, energy vampires were not talked about or written, the Internet was not yet, and my mom intuitively said everything that today can be read, typing in the search box “energy vampires are” and “there are no other people on the Internet.”
As I said, a lot of interesting things have been written about these “energy-sucking” today, but they are also frankly stupid. Stupid texts about energy vampires talk about malice. He's gone. Also, there is nothing mystical here. And we can be both a donor and a vampire. It is only good when there is an equal exchange. That's harmony.
It's bad when you're really sucking. Sometimes for years. Why not? Let's not talk about loss of energy and other turbulence. We're wasting time, and that's what matters.
So, the signs that distinguish the Extra Man:
1. He always calls you.
You have a friend who starts the conversation with you with the phrase: “I just wanted to call you, and you call!” Got it? Be sure that you have an equal exchange with this person, this is your full-fledged life partner. He's not an extra person. The extra person calls himself and you almost never call him. Surprisingly, as a rule, the person sucking you always calls at the wrong time. You either have your hands in the soap, or you watch a movie or park. You are doing your own thing, and then there is a call. You end up wasting your time.
2. He always keeps you waiting.
Or almost always. He often keeps himself waiting even on the phone. "Oh, wait a minute, I have a second line here." I'll call you back. And you look at the phone with sadness and realize that you will be called back, but you do not want it at all.
He keeps himself waiting when he comes to you. He's incredibly unpunctual towards you. Even upon arrival, the Extra Man finds some business, if he is at home, it can be an urgent and for some reason mandatory shower trip. Or a long phone conversation with someone for work or something. And you look at the clock with longing, and with all your being you begin to feel the loss of time. Yes! You end up wasting your time.
3. He's always in trouble.
The most common problems of the Extra Man, if it is a woman, health problems. It doesn't matter what gender you are. Whether you are a man or a woman, if you are a psychological donor, you will be aware of the health problems of the Extra Person. And they are monstrous, almost fatal ... All your attempts to advise just to solve the problem – to go to a good doctor, will be stopped at the root. No, you will be listened to, and even, God forbid, arrange a consultation with a good and very cool specialist, but it will not end. The result is a loss of time for your and your classmate.
Of course, people have problems at work. All this is told to you for months and years. And everyone is to blame – from a stupid boss to freight forwarders. All your attempts to comfort the unfortunate (unfortunate) and encourage him (her) to enjoy a good salary and other excellent conditions are also suppressed in the bud. An extra person should suffer before your eyes. He (she) does it great. As a result, you have lost time.
4. He's very hard to ask for anything.
Sometimes it happens that an extra person needs to ask for something. The request looks trivial. And you are surprised to know that it is extremely difficult for you to do this. Somehow. Later, when a request or requests are voiced, you feel some kind of stupor that occurs in your counterpart, and immediately understand your unwillingness to ask. He, the Extra Man, does not want to help. He goes for it, he'll do it for you, but he's so busy. He has such problems... And you lose the desire to ask him for something. You do it yourself, and as a result, you lose time.
5. He always needs you.
Extra man envelops you with his “love.” He is constantly telling you how much he needs you. He lives under your care and sometimes can not do without you even the simplest, seemingly, actions. Sometimes it surprises you, sometimes it angers you. The Extra Man makes the face of the Cat out of Shrek and says, “Please....” He's always asking for something. And you gradually get used to the idea that he can do nothing without you. But when he, in case of a serious problem, immediately mobilizes and does everything efficiently and as quickly as possible, you are amazed at such a rush and again realize that you are wasting time.
6. He's an amazingly uninteresting person.
And finally, the most important sign of the Extra Man in your life. He's amazingly uninteresting. At least for you. He is a bad storyteller, he is not enchanting, he is not associated with you with any hobbies, in fact, and he has no hobbies. This is an incredibly boring creature, really sluggish and boring. In other words, you are not interested in him at all.
As a rule, the presence in your everyday life of an Extra Man is explained by connections that are not dependent on you today. It is either a neighbor that is difficult to get rid of, or a relative, or a so-called childhood friend with whom you are forced to contact for some reason. Sometimes they are employees at work and even husbands and wives. Yes! They can be their partners’ vampires too, and they take time.
Summary
If you find that the Extra Man is constantly spinning next to you and this is not an annoying friend, “brought” from a Turkish voyage, with whom you can simply gradually stop communicating, and the relationship is more serious, try the following.
Begin to appreciate and appreciate your time spent with this person. This applies to telephone conversations, personal communication, and even correspondence. And finally start telling the truth.
"Yes, darling! I remember you wanted to come, but I have such a difficult project right now, I give it all my time. The answer is likely to be, “Please, I’ll be there for a second.” If you surrender, you will again sign the judgment of your time, which will be eaten again by this Longolier. A categorical “no” will save your imaginary project and real time. I don't think you're lying at this point. People who cling to the Extra, for the most part, are always busy with something. And projects too.
Phone call? “Oh, sorry, I can’t talk, let’s talk later.” That would be a lie. And we agreed to tell the Extra Man the truth. And the truth is, you're going to ask, "Do you have something urgent?" I don't have much time right now. It is unlikely that the Extra Man will tell you that he just witnessed an alien landing. He will have to accept that there is nothing urgent about his call.
Don’t take offense at your time, it’s the only thing money can’t buy. Good luck! published
Author: Evgenia Vasilenko
P.S. And remember, just changing our consumption – together we change the world!
Source: /users/1077
My mother used to tell me, “Get rid of the extra people out of your life, they suck your energy.”
From her point of view, these were completely useless people to me, but I had an incredible “usefulness” for them, like a Duracell battery, charging their sluggish bodies and souls with my ineradicable energy.
Back then, energy vampires were not talked about or written, the Internet was not yet, and my mom intuitively said everything that today can be read, typing in the search box “energy vampires are” and “there are no other people on the Internet.”
As I said, a lot of interesting things have been written about these “energy-sucking” today, but they are also frankly stupid. Stupid texts about energy vampires talk about malice. He's gone. Also, there is nothing mystical here. And we can be both a donor and a vampire. It is only good when there is an equal exchange. That's harmony.
It's bad when you're really sucking. Sometimes for years. Why not? Let's not talk about loss of energy and other turbulence. We're wasting time, and that's what matters.
So, the signs that distinguish the Extra Man:
1. He always calls you.
You have a friend who starts the conversation with you with the phrase: “I just wanted to call you, and you call!” Got it? Be sure that you have an equal exchange with this person, this is your full-fledged life partner. He's not an extra person. The extra person calls himself and you almost never call him. Surprisingly, as a rule, the person sucking you always calls at the wrong time. You either have your hands in the soap, or you watch a movie or park. You are doing your own thing, and then there is a call. You end up wasting your time.
2. He always keeps you waiting.
Or almost always. He often keeps himself waiting even on the phone. "Oh, wait a minute, I have a second line here." I'll call you back. And you look at the phone with sadness and realize that you will be called back, but you do not want it at all.
He keeps himself waiting when he comes to you. He's incredibly unpunctual towards you. Even upon arrival, the Extra Man finds some business, if he is at home, it can be an urgent and for some reason mandatory shower trip. Or a long phone conversation with someone for work or something. And you look at the clock with longing, and with all your being you begin to feel the loss of time. Yes! You end up wasting your time.
3. He's always in trouble.
The most common problems of the Extra Man, if it is a woman, health problems. It doesn't matter what gender you are. Whether you are a man or a woman, if you are a psychological donor, you will be aware of the health problems of the Extra Person. And they are monstrous, almost fatal ... All your attempts to advise just to solve the problem – to go to a good doctor, will be stopped at the root. No, you will be listened to, and even, God forbid, arrange a consultation with a good and very cool specialist, but it will not end. The result is a loss of time for your and your classmate.
Of course, people have problems at work. All this is told to you for months and years. And everyone is to blame – from a stupid boss to freight forwarders. All your attempts to comfort the unfortunate (unfortunate) and encourage him (her) to enjoy a good salary and other excellent conditions are also suppressed in the bud. An extra person should suffer before your eyes. He (she) does it great. As a result, you have lost time.
4. He's very hard to ask for anything.
Sometimes it happens that an extra person needs to ask for something. The request looks trivial. And you are surprised to know that it is extremely difficult for you to do this. Somehow. Later, when a request or requests are voiced, you feel some kind of stupor that occurs in your counterpart, and immediately understand your unwillingness to ask. He, the Extra Man, does not want to help. He goes for it, he'll do it for you, but he's so busy. He has such problems... And you lose the desire to ask him for something. You do it yourself, and as a result, you lose time.
5. He always needs you.
Extra man envelops you with his “love.” He is constantly telling you how much he needs you. He lives under your care and sometimes can not do without you even the simplest, seemingly, actions. Sometimes it surprises you, sometimes it angers you. The Extra Man makes the face of the Cat out of Shrek and says, “Please....” He's always asking for something. And you gradually get used to the idea that he can do nothing without you. But when he, in case of a serious problem, immediately mobilizes and does everything efficiently and as quickly as possible, you are amazed at such a rush and again realize that you are wasting time.
6. He's an amazingly uninteresting person.
And finally, the most important sign of the Extra Man in your life. He's amazingly uninteresting. At least for you. He is a bad storyteller, he is not enchanting, he is not associated with you with any hobbies, in fact, and he has no hobbies. This is an incredibly boring creature, really sluggish and boring. In other words, you are not interested in him at all.
As a rule, the presence in your everyday life of an Extra Man is explained by connections that are not dependent on you today. It is either a neighbor that is difficult to get rid of, or a relative, or a so-called childhood friend with whom you are forced to contact for some reason. Sometimes they are employees at work and even husbands and wives. Yes! They can be their partners’ vampires too, and they take time.
Summary
If you find that the Extra Man is constantly spinning next to you and this is not an annoying friend, “brought” from a Turkish voyage, with whom you can simply gradually stop communicating, and the relationship is more serious, try the following.
Begin to appreciate and appreciate your time spent with this person. This applies to telephone conversations, personal communication, and even correspondence. And finally start telling the truth.
"Yes, darling! I remember you wanted to come, but I have such a difficult project right now, I give it all my time. The answer is likely to be, “Please, I’ll be there for a second.” If you surrender, you will again sign the judgment of your time, which will be eaten again by this Longolier. A categorical “no” will save your imaginary project and real time. I don't think you're lying at this point. People who cling to the Extra, for the most part, are always busy with something. And projects too.
Phone call? “Oh, sorry, I can’t talk, let’s talk later.” That would be a lie. And we agreed to tell the Extra Man the truth. And the truth is, you're going to ask, "Do you have something urgent?" I don't have much time right now. It is unlikely that the Extra Man will tell you that he just witnessed an alien landing. He will have to accept that there is nothing urgent about his call.
Don’t take offense at your time, it’s the only thing money can’t buy. Good luck! published
Author: Evgenia Vasilenko
P.S. And remember, just changing our consumption – together we change the world!
Source: /users/1077
