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My mother told me: "Get out of my life for extra people, they suck your energy...". From her point of view, it was completely useless for me, but I had an incredible "utility", like a Duracell battery, charging their limp bodies and souls of its indestructible vitality... Then about energy vampires haven't talked and wrote, and the Internet has not been...
Today about these "Energomash" is written as a lot of interesting and frankly stupid. Stupid texts about energy vampires talk about malice. It is not. As nothing mystical. And we ourselves can be both a donor in relation to one person and a vampire against another. But this is good only in the case when there is equal exchange. This is harmony. It is bad when you frankly suck. Sometimes it takes years. Why is it bad? Let's not talk about energy loss and other dregs. We're wasting time, and this is important.
Thus, the hallmarks of a Superfluous Man:
1. He always calls himself
You have a friend (girlfriend), with whom (which) the conversation starts with the phrase "I just want (wanted) to call you, and you called!" There? Be sure this person you are talking equal exchange, it is your rightful life partner. It is not superfluous man.
Extra Person is calling myself and you almost never call him. It is surprising that, as a rule, "sucking" you people always calling at the wrong time. You or hands in soap, or you are watching a movie or Park... in short, you do your thing, and then call. In the end you are a waste of time.
2. He always keeps us waiting
Or almost always. Often he forces himself to wait, even in a telephone conversation. "Oh, now wait, I've got the second line... I'll call you back..." And you longingly look at the phone and realize that you'll call back, but you do feel like...
He forces himself to wait, when he comes to you. He is amazing punctuality in relation to you. Even on arrival Extra Person finds some things if you have it at home, it can be urgent and somehow a mandatory hike in the shower... Or a long phone conversation with someone at work or even, for some occasion... And you longingly look at the clock and with all my being begins to feel the loss of time. Yes! In the end you are a waste of time.
3. He was always in trouble
The most frequent problems of a Superfluous Man, if the woman is a health problems. No matter what sex you are. Whether you are male or female, if you psychological donor, you will be aware of the health problems of a Superfluous Man. And they – a terrible, almost fatal... (according to him) All your attempts just advise to solve the problem is to go to a good doctor, will be nipped in the Bud. No, you listen, and you can even, God forbid, arrange a consultation with a good and a very good specialist, but it does not end. The result is a loss of time and a good expert.
From Superfluous Man, of course, the problems at work. All that you retold for months and years. And to blame everything – from the stupid boss to freight forwarders. All your attempts to console the unfortunate (poor) and call him (her) to enjoy the good salary and other excellent conditions, is also suppressed in the Bud. Extra People need to your eyes suffer. He (she) is doing great. And you have the result – a waste of time.
4. It is very hard about something to ask
Sometimes that Extra Person need something to ask. On occasion, the request seems trivial. And you are surprised to understand that you to do this extremely difficult. For some reason. Later, when the request or requests are made public, you feel a stupor, which arises from your counterpart, and once you understand his reluctance to ask. It, once a Man would not want to help. He goes for it, he'll do it for you, but it is so loaded. He has such a problem... And you no longer want him to ask for something... You do it yourself, and the result is a loss of time.
5. He always needs you
Superfluous man ensnares you with its "love." He gives you to understand how you need him. He lives under your care and sometimes can't do without you, even the most seemingly simple of actions. Sometimes it makes you surprise, sometimes anger. Extra Person makes the muzzle of a Cat from Shrek and says, "Oh pleeeeease...". All the time he asks for something. And you gradually get used to the idea that he is nothing without you can't do. But when he, when a serious problem occurs, immediately mobilized and doing everything efficiently and as quickly as possible, you affected a swagger again and understand that wasting time...
6. It's terribly uninteresting person
And finally, the most important feature of a Superfluous Man in your life. He is amazingly uninteresting. In any case – you. He's a bad storyteller, he's not enchanting, it is not associated with you any Hobbies, Hobbies and in fact had no no. It's incredibly boring being really sluggish and boring. In other words, you with him quite interesting.
As a rule, the presence in your everyday life Extra Person due to links from you today little can. Or a neighbor that is hard to get rid of, or relative, or the so-called childhood friend with whom for some reason have to contact. Sometimes it's the employees at work and even husbands and wives. Yes! They can also be vampires and they also take time.
Summary
If you found that next to you is constantly spinning Superfluous Man and it is not importunate friend, brought from the Turkish voyage, from which it gradually you can stop to chat, and the relationship more serious; try to apply the following.
Start to value and APPRECIATE your time spent on this man. This also applies to telephone conversations, and personal contact and even correspondence. To get started finally to speak the truth.
"Yes, dear (expensive)! I remember that you wanted (wanted) to go, but I now have a complex project, I devote all my time". In response likely to be – "Well, pleeeeease, just for a second..". If you give up, you will again sign the sentence to its time, which will again be devoured by this Longerterm. A categorical "no" will save your imaginary project and real time. I don't think you are at this moment lying. People cling Extra, for the most part always busy with something... And projects, too.
A phone call? "Oh, sorry, can't talk, later"... It would be a lie. And we agreed to say another Person the truth. And the truth is that you may ask: "Have you something urgent? I'm not very with the times." Hardly Superfluous Man tells you that he just witnessed the landing of aliens... He will have to accept that there is nothing urgent in his call.
Protect your time, it's the only thing then it will be impossible to buy for money. Good luck! published
Author: Evgeny Vasilenko P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! © Join us at Facebook , Vkontakte, Odnoklassniki
Source: fit4brain.com/9665
My mother told me: "Get out of my life for extra people, they suck your energy...". From her point of view, it was completely useless for me, but I had an incredible "utility", like a Duracell battery, charging their limp bodies and souls of its indestructible vitality... Then about energy vampires haven't talked and wrote, and the Internet has not been...
Today about these "Energomash" is written as a lot of interesting and frankly stupid. Stupid texts about energy vampires talk about malice. It is not. As nothing mystical. And we ourselves can be both a donor in relation to one person and a vampire against another. But this is good only in the case when there is equal exchange. This is harmony. It is bad when you frankly suck. Sometimes it takes years. Why is it bad? Let's not talk about energy loss and other dregs. We're wasting time, and this is important.
Thus, the hallmarks of a Superfluous Man:
1. He always calls himself
You have a friend (girlfriend), with whom (which) the conversation starts with the phrase "I just want (wanted) to call you, and you called!" There? Be sure this person you are talking equal exchange, it is your rightful life partner. It is not superfluous man.
Extra Person is calling myself and you almost never call him. It is surprising that, as a rule, "sucking" you people always calling at the wrong time. You or hands in soap, or you are watching a movie or Park... in short, you do your thing, and then call. In the end you are a waste of time.
2. He always keeps us waiting
Or almost always. Often he forces himself to wait, even in a telephone conversation. "Oh, now wait, I've got the second line... I'll call you back..." And you longingly look at the phone and realize that you'll call back, but you do feel like...
He forces himself to wait, when he comes to you. He is amazing punctuality in relation to you. Even on arrival Extra Person finds some things if you have it at home, it can be urgent and somehow a mandatory hike in the shower... Or a long phone conversation with someone at work or even, for some occasion... And you longingly look at the clock and with all my being begins to feel the loss of time. Yes! In the end you are a waste of time.
3. He was always in trouble
The most frequent problems of a Superfluous Man, if the woman is a health problems. No matter what sex you are. Whether you are male or female, if you psychological donor, you will be aware of the health problems of a Superfluous Man. And they – a terrible, almost fatal... (according to him) All your attempts just advise to solve the problem is to go to a good doctor, will be nipped in the Bud. No, you listen, and you can even, God forbid, arrange a consultation with a good and a very good specialist, but it does not end. The result is a loss of time and a good expert.
From Superfluous Man, of course, the problems at work. All that you retold for months and years. And to blame everything – from the stupid boss to freight forwarders. All your attempts to console the unfortunate (poor) and call him (her) to enjoy the good salary and other excellent conditions, is also suppressed in the Bud. Extra People need to your eyes suffer. He (she) is doing great. And you have the result – a waste of time.
4. It is very hard about something to ask
Sometimes that Extra Person need something to ask. On occasion, the request seems trivial. And you are surprised to understand that you to do this extremely difficult. For some reason. Later, when the request or requests are made public, you feel a stupor, which arises from your counterpart, and once you understand his reluctance to ask. It, once a Man would not want to help. He goes for it, he'll do it for you, but it is so loaded. He has such a problem... And you no longer want him to ask for something... You do it yourself, and the result is a loss of time.
5. He always needs you
Superfluous man ensnares you with its "love." He gives you to understand how you need him. He lives under your care and sometimes can't do without you, even the most seemingly simple of actions. Sometimes it makes you surprise, sometimes anger. Extra Person makes the muzzle of a Cat from Shrek and says, "Oh pleeeeease...". All the time he asks for something. And you gradually get used to the idea that he is nothing without you can't do. But when he, when a serious problem occurs, immediately mobilized and doing everything efficiently and as quickly as possible, you affected a swagger again and understand that wasting time...
6. It's terribly uninteresting person
And finally, the most important feature of a Superfluous Man in your life. He is amazingly uninteresting. In any case – you. He's a bad storyteller, he's not enchanting, it is not associated with you any Hobbies, Hobbies and in fact had no no. It's incredibly boring being really sluggish and boring. In other words, you with him quite interesting.
As a rule, the presence in your everyday life Extra Person due to links from you today little can. Or a neighbor that is hard to get rid of, or relative, or the so-called childhood friend with whom for some reason have to contact. Sometimes it's the employees at work and even husbands and wives. Yes! They can also be vampires and they also take time.
Summary
If you found that next to you is constantly spinning Superfluous Man and it is not importunate friend, brought from the Turkish voyage, from which it gradually you can stop to chat, and the relationship more serious; try to apply the following.
Start to value and APPRECIATE your time spent on this man. This also applies to telephone conversations, and personal contact and even correspondence. To get started finally to speak the truth.
"Yes, dear (expensive)! I remember that you wanted (wanted) to go, but I now have a complex project, I devote all my time". In response likely to be – "Well, pleeeeease, just for a second..". If you give up, you will again sign the sentence to its time, which will again be devoured by this Longerterm. A categorical "no" will save your imaginary project and real time. I don't think you are at this moment lying. People cling Extra, for the most part always busy with something... And projects, too.
A phone call? "Oh, sorry, can't talk, later"... It would be a lie. And we agreed to say another Person the truth. And the truth is that you may ask: "Have you something urgent? I'm not very with the times." Hardly Superfluous Man tells you that he just witnessed the landing of aliens... He will have to accept that there is nothing urgent in his call.
Protect your time, it's the only thing then it will be impossible to buy for money. Good luck! published
Author: Evgeny Vasilenko P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! © Join us at Facebook , Vkontakte, Odnoklassniki
Source: fit4brain.com/9665
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