10 women's desires that are not in a hurry to come true

When your other half wants, and the other is afraid, the desire to "freezes" in the middle. The internal contradiction of "I want it, but don't want to change anything" ruined not one wish. Women especially tend to play it safe, stick with stability and doubt. As a homemaker she has a keen survival instinct. It complicates her path to desires.

Remember, everything that does not pose a threat to your life, is not an obstacle for the implementation of your desires. Let's look at some of them and understand what prevents them to exercise.

1. Want to get married - can You imagine yourself in a beautiful white dress, a ring on your finger, happy faces, flowers, smiles ...and then picture freezes.

What gets that deep inside yourself you realize that not everything is happy and beautiful. Dress hangs in the closet, and you fear the onset of "everyday life". If you have the sad experience, he also reminds himself and prevents believe in personal happiness. You're so scared, "cheat", "change", you will be a bad wife, a bad husband select will disappoint or be disappointed. This information and reads your subconscious.

What to do: Inspire yourself for a happy marriage, turn their attention from failed marriages, to bright and warm relationship. Read and watch inspiring stories about love. Tell yourself every day "I love you!" Watch happy older couples, if possible, communicate with them. Feel like a "wife" the best men in the world, even if it is not yet near. Let yourself make mistakes and you will open a wide road for his happiness.

2. I want the child - Desire is there, but you take the time to take action. Can it somehow happen?

What prevents This desire encompasses not even the sea and the ocean of fears. Change in appearance, fear for their health and the health of the child, fear of childbirth, the probability not to cope with the role of the mother, to be thrown, lose yourself, the prospect of regime change of the day, sleepless nights, crying babies, all of it lay deep inside.

What to do: Go on a healthy diet, go to the doctor before the test will show two strips. Fear, usual "turn away" from the problem, resist the impulse to slip past kids and moms with strollers. You have nothing to lose, and only multiply. Watch how other mothers cope with their responsibilities. If the relatives has young children, talk to them, hold your baby in your arms, try to feed it. Sign up on the forums for moms, find those who are experiencing the same feelings as you. Focus on the birth of your baby, on the positive side. Imagine how you read him in the evenings, tale, walk, you slim, beautiful and happy mom...it's all over. Improve your knowledge in this field, anxiety and fear will subside and will be replaced by pleasant emotions.

3. Want to divorce - you Can continue to live in hell, to suffer the humiliation, burst into tears, but gently every day to come home.

What prevents the installation of "at least some, but my" fear "to be one", the helplessness, the possible deterioration of living conditions and the loss of material security in the complex with an absolute unwillingness to take responsibility continue to Rob you of a bright future.

What to do: If you complain about life last year, the reason is only your laziness. So start with that. Ask yourself, why would I continue to live with this person? What do I need to be free? The fear of loneliness in General has no basis, because you have been lonely. Analyze your situation at the moment. You may have to defend their decision and not everyone will be happy about it. Save your strength and energy to communicate with those who successfully went through a divorce and regained a happy life. You need to be sure that this is not the end but the beginning of your new life. Start preparing her with a "cool head". Take your mind is not "rehashing yesterday's insults", and finding suitable accommodation, employment, building up funds, examine the laws and their rights, the manner of payment of alimony, etc.

4. I want to move to another city (country)- beautiful town with beautiful homes, walk the streets of beautiful men. You'd go there, but the suitcase suddenly broke the wheel and today you picked up a cold.

What prevents: Large desires give birth to great changes, and you feel "not prepared". Fear of change of environment, failures, unemployment, lack of funds and support, unpredictability, hunger, change of habits, it all adds up to make a decisive step.

What you can do To become a resident of "beautiful city" need to feel that you already live there. Find the website "your town", read the news, but not for tourists, but for "their" local. Be aware of the events. The Internet can take you anywhere in, tune to a local TV channel, radio station, watch, listen. Get yourself a pair and you can and a dozen friends from the desired city, chat, see how things work with payments, with the removal of housing. Go to "live" there on vacation. Don't associate yourself with a tourist, make an effort to understand local features, pricing, communicate with employers. You do not have to urgently break the usual life, very soon the universe itself will tell you the time when to move in a way. Just show her that you are ready for a change. You'll soon see that hunger and cold are not afraid of you and you now walk the streets of a beautiful city, with beautiful houses and you have the most beautiful family.

5. Want to break away from parents 'Adult children' feel better in their own territory, but you still wtites in a one-room Khrushchev, remembering his school years.

What hinders: How would you not outraged that a mother interferes with you to establish an independent life with her you are comfortable and calm. Separate living space implies not only the absence of "favorite mom's Breakfast", but 100% responsibility for your life. Perhaps you are anticipating a decline in living standards and "solitude", especially if you are used to discuss TV shows with my mother.

What to do: to Grow up! But the parents in this world, there are many other interesting people. Start to look for suitable accommodation, not tomorrow, not next year, but now. Write down the recipe "mom's favorite Breakfast" and cook for themselves. Stop watching soap operas and sit at home. If you don't learn to live outside the parental home, your loneliness may last until a great age, and the salary is to remain forever only a modest addition to the parent pension.

6. Want a lot of money – money I love all of them, but they love and seem to have spared.

That prevents a Large amount of money generates a large number of problems of where to store, how to store and how to use. It gives you greater responsibility and risk, which you clearly do not want. If we add to this vague idea of how to change your life and life in General, wealth in the near future does not threaten you.

What to do: do Not plan an increase in income from 10 times. Get used to the money gradually. "Dream" to increase income first 2-3 times, it's not so significantly affect your life, but are taught to dispose of bigger amounts. If you know any technicians, such as "pulling money", we will gradually be able to "stimulate" the emergence of more money. In any case, patiently and persistently move towards your desired income, be attentive to developments and emerging opportunities.

7. I want to change my occupation, You continue to dream about the free chart and the "author's fair", but from year to year go to work in the office on a strict schedule...

What prevents: are You afraid of lowering of the material level. Perhaps not everyone in the family enjoy your new occupation, and you will have to defend its decision. Image change is also not included in your plans. If you get out of the office into a free work, it is a more pleasant option, but sometimes on the contrary, we change the "freedom" to "office" and "jeans" to "suit". The reluctance to pull over, slim skirt, and jacket can also serve as an obstacle to the realization of desire.

What to do: If you want to go in the free swimming, start with the painless steps. On vacation plunge headlong into new activities, limites to work independently or try to devote "his case" as much time as you intend to give in the future. Move on to a new activity gradually, through the creation of interest groups, keeping a group in their spare time. Anxiety subsides, you will feel confident and will acquire the right connections and be able to step into a new job, already having a solid Foundation. If you want to move to a more rigorous regime, begin to organize themselves. Work, even if you're not in the office, in accordance with their work schedule, get on with, get used to the new schedule. Communicate with those who are already working as you would like. And learn...always learning! This will significantly reduce your fear and uncertainty and will help in further promotion.

8. Want to travel Far from his "I want" you are gone and are not on the vegetable market near the house...

What prevents: You don't want change, fear for the health, afraid to lose, robberies, aircraft, "overseas" speech and all that "knocks" you out of habitual environment.

What to do: Identify a specific route or country, where would you like to go. Do not procrastinate the "little things", examine the cost of tickets, tours, possible options for settlement, recreation and visits to historical sites. Find a place that will make you happy. Except if the word "thank you" you do not have mastered, then start learning at least one foreign language. When you decide on your route, explore local cuisine, customs, read reviews, contact those who have already visited the country of your dreams. If you do not have other, special services can find a "fellow –travellers", it will reduce your fear during a flight and when visiting unfamiliar places.

9. Want to be healthy – Shalit Pressure, allergies tortured, dream health is a dream.

What prevents : to Be healthy means to you to take responsibility for their lives. You are not ready for the change of scenery, the extinction of "pity", increased the pressure at home and at work. "Disease" allows you to control others. And while the world revolves around you, you can easily manipulate it.

What to do: say to yourself: "I am healthy and happy!" Start to fill our lives with "healthy". Go for walks, move, laugh. Learn to give attention and care to others. When you stop noticing "disease", "illness" will cease to notice you.

10. Want to be fashionable, beautiful, well-groomed - Again look at your broken nails and expired cream ?

What hinders: If your family except Laundry soap other cosmetics are not recognized, it is for example the fear of "excessive grooming". Image change, habits, way of life requires courage. Simply the opinions of others about your timid "experiments" can also slow down the desire to change something.

What to do: Start with the overly simple but important habits. Regularly take care of hands, face, trim nails, wash your hair and remember about hair removal. It's all achievable at home. If this stage is passed, it adds to the care of other cosmetic procedures. Constantly broaden your knowledge in the field of beauty and care. Eradicate the habit of buying clothes on the principle "cheap and generic". Learn the features of your figure, try to store things that you had not allowed himself to even touch it. Don't forget that "charming and attractive" is not only the appearance, but also your mood, your ability to hold yourself and relationships with others.

Now you can calculate that interferes with your desires to fruition. Do not sit idly by and wait for "resolve." If you have something does not work, show your unconscious that you are ready to follow your dreams, start with the easiest action and it is sure you will hear and help.

Source: pavel-kolesov.ru/article/raznoe/10-zhenskikh-zhelanii-kotorye-ne-speshat-sbyvatsya