Disease as a way to get what you want

Some practice unconsciously running away to a disease to meet the demands that are difficult to implement directly. For example, disease as a way to get the attention and care, as a "legal" holiday, inadmissible in "ordinary" life, as a way to finally pay the attention as an opportunity to defer the questions that I do not want to solve, and more. Oh, with what pleasure I was sick as a child! The school does not need a whole day to lie around and watch cartoons around all the fuss, attention guaranteed. I still remember the magical fragrance and special taste of raspberry jam that was only available if someone was sick.

And I also remember the stories of colleagues about the "great vacation" in traumatology. What trouble was she in the thoughts did not notice a red traffic light. On the work of Abraham and the timing of the projects are burning, and she had a good reason and rest, and she asked the doctors longer not to write. Said finally I'll sleep, and even with relatives. In General, solid bun.

If needs are not meet directly, they can begin to be satisfied themselves, but crooked. If it does not keep track of the disease on request. For example, the same parents, receiving care of children, only if I'm holding a heart. And people are not coming from doctors in which the doctor is sometimes the only person willing to listen to them. The children receiving the full attention and friendly parents only when sick. If the disease provides tangible secondary benefits, recovery becomes more complicated.I remember a couple years ago the web was wandering the video about the dog who seeing the opportunity to be fed, started to limp and pretend to be the most patient dog in the world. When long before, she hurt her paw, compassionate people began to feed her more than usual. And the dog realized that limp you can get more food. When in sight of the people was not, she frolicked and looked completely healthy (it's filmed hidden camera). In General, the buns from the disease is a separate issue.

How to work? Consider and write a list of the bonuses it gives your disease. Write everything that comes to mind, uncritically, even the most absurd. Perhaps making a list will take more than one day, and you will periodically get back to it. Then get into the feeling of each item, try it — not it, if you do, it is important to adopt this method of obtaining secondary benefits without judgment, with gratitude for your understanding, because it was a way of getting you something important.

Knowing the causes, you can try to change the ways of obtaining the desired. If the cause was lack of rest, it is important to organize it if the attention is to openly inform those whose attention it is important that you want to be closer. The chances are that having ascertained the reasons, you will hit the wall of the impossibility of obtaining the desired in the usual way. And it will be a different story, the unwinding of which will have to get an even deeper reason that makes it impossible to obtain the desired. Therefore, more productive to work with specialists: a psychologist or psychotherapist in tandem with your doctor.published

Author Julia Shipacheva

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