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Disease out when there is no need.
Illness - a way to get that without the disease can not even get
Some therapists believe that nearly all diseases basically have a psychological cause. But traditional medicine is officially recognizes seven diseases in which the psychosomatic factor is leading. They are isolated in the "Chicago Seven".
The disease appears as a way to meet the needs of that so it happened - otherwise it is impossible to satisfy
. So what is keeping the disease?
1. Take care of yourself without feeling guilty
Drugs all sorts of means of care, expensive tests, procedures, inspection - all this is provided to you, simply because you're
. Try the same amount to spend on the services of a stylist or a massage course. For several generations of women - this is unacceptable. There is always something that they need money.
2. The right to rest
The paradox is that most modern women, even as freelancers or with a free schedule still live by the principle, which states - "A woman has only two cases in which it can not do anything - it's pregnancy or illness"
<. br> And our whole system is built on this principle. A child can not go to school if he does not want. There is only one reason why he can skip school - it is a disease. Well, no nonsense if?!
3. The right to be cared for close
The ability to feel like a woman, which cared for.
As it is not accepted, we take care of the "strong, smart and successful," especially for those who can take care of themselves. "Took up the plow, do not say that a pound." Illness gives the right to receive the care and tenderness.
If we continue to ignore even close these unequivocal promises of aid, the disease will progress, and in some momment these requests have to hear. Duty in the emergency room will be provided.
4. The attention of relatives and friends
Illness - a way to feel special, worthy of attention. You discuss, talk about you. You become the "theme of the day." And the intricate and complicated disease, the more "Ohoven and poisoning substances".
5. Respect
The man carrying the terrible suffering, along with pity and sympathy, even his thoughts: "Lord, God forbid me that ..." evokes awe and respect
. If what you are doing at the moment, for some reason, not a matter of respect (especially of you), that serious illness will respect it. And the desire to feel like a "hero" has not been canceled.
6. The ability to not decide what you need to solve
When a seriously ill child, the idea of divorce have to be postponed.
Own strong disease will cause to postpone new projects, and change of occupation. Long-term care for a loved one - a good reason not to ask questions of personal life and career
. 7. The ability to pause, slowly, listening for myself
When illness life dramatically slows down and comes to the fore what was previously ignored and not noticed. Each your breath, every step becomes important.
8. "Last Will dying"
It wishes ailing person accepted to listen, and ill, you can finally get her husband to fix taps falling off and attach the handle to the door. Not to mention the other more global requests.
9. To see the world from the other side. The disease allows to get into another reality.
If you had a few hours at a time to look at the fabric folds in the shade, or to look at the figures of strange animals in the cracks in the ceiling - you know what I mean. When the only thing you can - it is to watch the clock in one square meter on the meter, the world appears to you completely on the other hand
. 10. Rethink your life
Serious illness makes us think about what used to prefer not to think.
When the prospect arises that perhaps this is the end, the whole lie about yourself and your life somewhere disappears, and you stay with the truth.
And at this moment there is a global system reinstallation.
Revaluation of his life.
Needs are those things that have to meet. The only question is in the process. If an adult for some reason are not ready to present their needs openly, then unconsciously turn on "body theater" and these needs will be met through manipulation of the body - that is, disease.
Congenital disease or illness to children 6-8 years-is the unconscious mother's order. The process to meet their needs at the expense of the child's illness. Starting from the possibility not to go to work before gaining personal female mission - "Moms hard-sick child"
. Accepting such things "in a forehead", without proper readiness impossible. Include strong psychological defense.
Therefore, there is a sense of awareness to gradually approach:
1.Set yourself the question: What allows me to get the disease? Make a list. Sincerely examples.
2. To name each item. Without the conviction itself, and with the recognition of their way to produce something very important for themselves.
3. Allow yourself to receive the same openly in a relationship, presenting their needs, speaking of them. Admitting yourself in them.
Disease out when there is no need.
Author: Irina Dybov
Some therapists believe that nearly all diseases basically have a psychological cause. But traditional medicine is officially recognizes seven diseases in which the psychosomatic factor is leading. They are isolated in the "Chicago Seven".
The disease appears as a way to meet the needs of that so it happened - otherwise it is impossible to satisfy
. So what is keeping the disease?
1. Take care of yourself without feeling guilty
Drugs all sorts of means of care, expensive tests, procedures, inspection - all this is provided to you, simply because you're
. Try the same amount to spend on the services of a stylist or a massage course. For several generations of women - this is unacceptable. There is always something that they need money.
2. The right to rest
The paradox is that most modern women, even as freelancers or with a free schedule still live by the principle, which states - "A woman has only two cases in which it can not do anything - it's pregnancy or illness"
<. br> And our whole system is built on this principle. A child can not go to school if he does not want. There is only one reason why he can skip school - it is a disease. Well, no nonsense if?!
3. The right to be cared for close
The ability to feel like a woman, which cared for.
As it is not accepted, we take care of the "strong, smart and successful," especially for those who can take care of themselves. "Took up the plow, do not say that a pound." Illness gives the right to receive the care and tenderness.
If we continue to ignore even close these unequivocal promises of aid, the disease will progress, and in some momment these requests have to hear. Duty in the emergency room will be provided.
4. The attention of relatives and friends
Illness - a way to feel special, worthy of attention. You discuss, talk about you. You become the "theme of the day." And the intricate and complicated disease, the more "Ohoven and poisoning substances".
5. Respect
The man carrying the terrible suffering, along with pity and sympathy, even his thoughts: "Lord, God forbid me that ..." evokes awe and respect
. If what you are doing at the moment, for some reason, not a matter of respect (especially of you), that serious illness will respect it. And the desire to feel like a "hero" has not been canceled.
6. The ability to not decide what you need to solve
When a seriously ill child, the idea of divorce have to be postponed.
Own strong disease will cause to postpone new projects, and change of occupation. Long-term care for a loved one - a good reason not to ask questions of personal life and career
. 7. The ability to pause, slowly, listening for myself
When illness life dramatically slows down and comes to the fore what was previously ignored and not noticed. Each your breath, every step becomes important.
8. "Last Will dying"
It wishes ailing person accepted to listen, and ill, you can finally get her husband to fix taps falling off and attach the handle to the door. Not to mention the other more global requests.
9. To see the world from the other side. The disease allows to get into another reality.
If you had a few hours at a time to look at the fabric folds in the shade, or to look at the figures of strange animals in the cracks in the ceiling - you know what I mean. When the only thing you can - it is to watch the clock in one square meter on the meter, the world appears to you completely on the other hand
. 10. Rethink your life
Serious illness makes us think about what used to prefer not to think.
When the prospect arises that perhaps this is the end, the whole lie about yourself and your life somewhere disappears, and you stay with the truth.
And at this moment there is a global system reinstallation.
Revaluation of his life.
Needs are those things that have to meet. The only question is in the process. If an adult for some reason are not ready to present their needs openly, then unconsciously turn on "body theater" and these needs will be met through manipulation of the body - that is, disease.
Congenital disease or illness to children 6-8 years-is the unconscious mother's order. The process to meet their needs at the expense of the child's illness. Starting from the possibility not to go to work before gaining personal female mission - "Moms hard-sick child"
. Accepting such things "in a forehead", without proper readiness impossible. Include strong psychological defense.
Therefore, there is a sense of awareness to gradually approach:
1.Set yourself the question: What allows me to get the disease? Make a list. Sincerely examples.
2. To name each item. Without the conviction itself, and with the recognition of their way to produce something very important for themselves.
3. Allow yourself to receive the same openly in a relationship, presenting their needs, speaking of them. Admitting yourself in them.
Disease out when there is no need.
Author: Irina Dybov
