Disease is a way to get what you can’t get without disease.

Some psychotherapists believe that almost all diseases have a psychological cause. But classical medicine officially recognizes seven diseases in which the psychosomatic factor is the leading. They are classified as the Chicago Seven. The disease arises as a way to meet the needs that have developed, otherwise it is impossible to satisfy.

So what does the disease allow?

1. Taking care of yourself without guilt Medicines, all kinds of care, expensive tests, procedures, examinations - all this is provided to you, simply because you are sick.

Try to spend the same amount on a stylist or massage course. For generations of women, this is unacceptable. There is always something you need more money for.

2. Right to rest The paradox is that most modern women, even when they become freelancers or have a free schedule, still live according to the principle that a woman has only two cases when she can do nothing – pregnancy or illness.

Our entire system is built on this principle. A child cannot go to school if he does not want to. The only reason he can miss school is because of his illness. Isn't that absurd?

3. Right to care of loved ones A chance to feel like a woman you care about.

Somehow it is not customary for us to care about the “strong, smart and successful”, especially those who can take care of themselves. “You’ve taken the bow, don’t say you don’t.” The disease gives the right to receive this care and tenderness.

If loved ones continue to ignore even these unequivocal messages for help, the disease will progress, and at some point these requests will have to be heard. On duty in the intensive care unit will be provided.

4. Attention of relatives and friends Illness is a way to feel special and worthy of attention. They talk about you, they talk about you. You become the theme of the day. And the more twisted and complex the disease, the more “ohs and ahs”.

5. Respect. A person who endures terrible suffering, along with pity and sympathy even with thoughts: “Lord, God do not give me such a thing...” evokes awe and respect.

If what you are doing at the moment, for some reason, does not cause respect (primarily yourself), then a serious illness will give this respect. And the desire to feel like a “hero” has not been canceled.

6. Opportunity not to decide what to decide When a child is seriously ill, the idea of divorce will have to be postponed.

Your own severe illness will make you wait with new projects and a change in activity. Long-term care for a loved one is a good reason not to ask questions of personal life and career.

7. Ability to pause, slow down, listen to yourself With illness, life slows down sharply, and what was previously ignored and not noticed comes to the fore. Every breath, every step becomes important.

8. The Last Will of the Dying One The desires of a sick person are usually listened to, and getting sick, you can finally force your husband to fix the taps and attach the falling off handle on the door. Not to mention other more global requests.

9. See the world from the other side. The disease allows you to get into another reality. If you had to look for several hours at the folds of fabric on the lampshade, or look at the figures of strange animals in the cracks on the ceiling – you know what I mean. When the only thing you can do is stare at one square meter per meter for hours, the world appears to you from a completely different angle.

10. Rethinking your life Serious illness makes you think about what you used to prefer not to think about.

When the prospect arises that perhaps this is the end, then all the lies about yourself and your life disappear somewhere, and you remain with the truth.

And at this point, there is a global reinstallation of the system.

Overestimating your whole life.

Needs are things that need to be met. The only question is how. If an adult for some reason is not ready to present his needs openly, then unconsciously the “theater of the body” is turned on and these needs will be satisfied through manipulations with the body – that is, diseases.

Congenital diseases or diseases of children up to 6-8 years is an unconscious mother's order. A way to meet your needs due to the illness of the child. Starting from the possibility of not going to work to finding a personal female mission – “Mothers of a seriously ill child”.

To recognize such things “foreheadedly”, without proper readiness is impossible. The strongest psychological protection is included.

Therefore, it makes sense to approach awareness gradually:

1. Ask yourself a question. What makes me get this disease? Make a list. Sincerely with examples.

2. Live through every point. Without judging yourself, but by acknowledging this way of getting something very important for yourself.

3. Allow yourself to receive the same openly in the relationship, presenting your needs, talking about them. Admitting to them.

The disease goes away when it is no longer necessary. published

Author: Irina Dybova

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