About the reasons of misunderstanding and discord in the family between spouses, we often ask psychologists. But if there is another explanation – psychic? And it is not important here, what have we done to each other in a past life, for what sins was paid, what debts given or received... it is more Important to understand what to do if our marriage is similar to karmic...
The concept of "karma" comes to us from the East, although our Proverbs very well represent the essence of this concept: "as you sow, so shall you reap", "you reap what you sow"... Many of our meetings with people in everyday life is not random, but caused by our actions in past incarnations.
Experience shows that such karmic encounters in my life may be many. Coming into this world, we are surrounded by people who help us to implement our karmic task.
Usually it is our parents, marriage partners, children, friends, relatives, bosses, colleagues. In this series, often the greatest interest is the karmic relationship of men and women. Under them refers to the relationship between partners who knew each other in past lives and have experienced strong feelings, and while they still have some debts to each other. When meeting such people very often have the feeling that they seem to know each other a long time ago...
And again — "Hello!"One of the signs of a karmic relationship is when he or she, maybe both, carry such unresolved emotional States like jealousy, anger, guilt, fear, dependence. After failing to find once a constructive way, partners are attracted to one another and in the next incarnation. The purpose of this meeting is to provide each other the opportunity to resolve the issue. This happens by recreating the same situations for a specific period of time.
Having met again, karmic partners are in dire need to get closer to each other and after a while you begin to repeat the old scenario of their relationship, reliving old emotions and feelings. Thus, they get a chance to handle the same situation in a more wise way. The spiritual purpose of this meeting was for both lovers is to make a different choice and to exercise the highest qualities – humility, acceptance, compassion, self-reliance, willpower, the ability to control instinctive impulses, etc. What is acquired as can be understood from the type of karmic connection.
Indicator of karmic marriage are the following situations:
Marriage happened suddenly, the environment or both partners. The surprise is that these partners may be quite different in character, temperament, different social and financial situation, to have a big age difference.
Relationships marked by a certain fatality and determinism, for example in a situation of love-hate when it seems that life partners are fighting among themselves and yet without each other can not, or when the relationship doesn't change much, they seem to rush through tightly specified program. Fate simply constantly brings partners together, whether they like it or not. A striking example – the characters in the film "the Habit to marry".
Long-term alcohol or drug dependence marriage partner. Apparently, this "marriage penalty" unconsciously selects one of the partners. Probably because of the latent feelings of guilt in a past life "good" partner was in the role of problematic, i.e. it was the opposite, and now just recovering justice.
The absence of children in the family.
It is a measure of the closeness of the future for both genders through these people (after all, marriage is not only Union of a couple, but the Union genera). Such relationships are closed on themselves and serve for the understanding of both partners own traits and qualities, which should not be passed by the nature of the next generations. In a sense, this marriage can be called a "short circuit". As a rule, he eventually (years later or even almost immediately) is terminated. The future of this karmic connection depends on how each partner was "right" in their actions.
If the partners are "right" (not morally, but from the point of view of Fate and the Higher Laws) proved in these respects, for example not to swear and accuse each other of infertility and adopted a child from the orphanage, the couple can later appear and a child together. If the "right" tried to be only one of the partners, but did not receive support, life will give him another partner, which he will have children.
Partners in role-playing the triangle "Persecutor – Victim – Saviour", described by the famous psychologist Eric Berne. The "Victim" voluntarily enters into a marriage with the "Stalker", giving birth to his children and long suffering humiliation and insults. One of my friend who was in a similar marriage, in such words came the realization of the highest meaning of these relations.
Any health problems marriage partner in the next (life with a man in a wheelchair, mentally ill or an early (before 40 years), the death of a partner). In such a relationship partners tend to be of the highest quality, experience States of true care and love which do not would have happened in a more prosperous situation. A vivid illustration of such a relationship can serve as the films "Autumn in new York" and "the notebook".
Marriage is not only unexpected, but also quickly followed by a move to another city or even abroad, and break family ties.
The marriage arises after a brief Dating period (week, month) – something more than "opened" the eyes of each other. Such relationships are often marked "TRANS effect". They start so that people are not fully aware of the incident change, and only after a year or more starts to take the situation soberly and consciously. Prior to that, he is driven by reaction, to explain that to the end he can not.
Two finals karmic marriage
Typically, the longer such relationships go, the more karmic voltage increases, and eventually the couple breaks up. Theoretically, such a marriage can be extended by including the rest of your life, but only if both partners will move to another level of relationship. This means to pay attention to the psychological side of the relationship, to control your reactions and to more deeply comprehend their actions. In this approach, the pair becomes aware those "buttons", those causes that create the majority of domestic and foreign problems, and further each of the partners are deeply internally changing. But this level of marriage is very rare.
Such relations can be called healing. Their distinctive feature is the people love and respect each other for who they are, it is a great pleasure to be with each other, but they do not experience anxiety, jealousy or loneliness when the partner is not around. In such a relationship, you offer your loved one the support and understanding without trying to solve his or her problems in this life or brought from previous incarnations. Relationship filled with freedom and peace.
Of course, sometimes misunderstanding, but the resulting emotions are short-lived. Both partners are willing to forgive. Between them there is a heart connection. Both partners are emotionally independent. He or she does not fill a gap or void in their lives, but instead adds something new, important, vital, and inspirational.
And if your relationship a lot of stress, suffering and tears, but to break them you can not, try to understand that nothing obliges you to stay with that person. Strong emotions often are relevant to the deep suffering, and not for mutual love. The energy of love not as emotional, it is not oppressive, not exhausting and not tragic – it is extremely bright, calm and serene, joyful and inspiring.
Any relationship has given us for the development of self and souls to become beings of loving, free and creative.
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Author: Alexander Roy
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Source: proza.ru/diary/belchanty/2015-06-21