Mikhail Labkovsky: Worrying about something insignificant means being neurotic.

90% of our worries are about things that will never happen. – Margaret Thatcher

And Zhvanetsky offered “Let’s get into trouble as it comes.”This is the healthiest and most effective scheme.

Neither fear in advance, nor then be upset and mentally come back, which is exactly the way – as you arrive.

But that's not how it works.





- He's always worried about something. This is our normal state. At the same time, as we know, anxiety does not help, but greatly interferes with solving problems. We don't know what we're going to do if we stop freaking out and worrying, do we? There is a void inside, where is it? That's the problem.



- Anxiety is fear without an address.They are most acute at dusk – a scientific fact. Parents are worried about children, girls about boys, boys about money. Some people think this is how the world works. Nothing like that. This is how the world of neurotics works, who create hell in their heads every minute.



- Worrying for no reason or for nothing. That's what it means to be neurotic. In our country, that's the majority.



- How do neurotics differ from mentally healthy people? The fact that they, of course, are also nervous, but experience real emotions that have real weighty reasons is specific events, stimuli in the outside world. Neurotics, on the other hand, constantly generate the causes of their irritation in themselves.





- For anxious people, life is just a series of problems.They have to deal with the problems that need to be suppressed (alcohol, for example) or implemented (full hysteria). You look like that, and the day is over.



- A neurotic always needs that spoonful of tar in any, the largest barrel of honey. Discomfort, frustration, anger, resentment – feelings with which they are accustomed, they are always at home. And characteristically, they themselves do not know how to enjoy life and do not give others.



- When the psyche is sharpened under excitement, the occasion will not be: An unwashed cup in the sink, an undropped toilet seat, a dollar rate, a drunk on the subway... It's been going this morning. After all, if a person has a need for constant experiences, he needs to rely on some negative to “calm down” and say to himself: “I’m not just so worried, I’m worried about it!” You know what the switch is? You first fear everything and only then find something to put your fear in.

By the way, many, with all the desire and opportunities to live abroad, nevertheless, remain in the country – we have something to nervously delight, and in old Europe, there are no reasons for unrest to the usual level – and boring, sad and all that.



- Try to stop one day and find out for sure: What are you nervous about? How adequate is your response to existing stimuli? Or you are still neurotic and nervous, not because the child has an exam, the country is in crisis, but at work reduction, but only because you can not help but be nervous. As Sigmund said, “The extent of your personality is determined by the magnitude of the problem that can drive you mad.” So what's your scale?



- In addition, many in childhood formed such a stable and harmful to life emotion as self-pity. I advise you to think about the topic – what do you feel sorry for yourself now? Are there serious grounds for self-pity? Why do you feel like a victim? Or maybe it all comes from inertia?Maybe it is better to try not to feel sorry for yourself, but to act to eliminate the causes of your disorders?

If you realize that your psyche is constantly looking for reasons to shake up and eagerly rushes to any reason to panic when you understand how it works, you will have a chance to go into the category of normal people and remember that anxiety, anxiety, fears, neurotic reactions do not allow you to develop, grow, realize yourself - neither in personal relationships nor in work.



- When I was in high school, there was a poster in our class saying, “We’ll go a different way!” So we have been going some other way for centuries, perpendicular to the whole world. This posture, this huge resentment against the whole world, which allegedly turned against us, and this aggression, as a result of resentment, are all factors that seriously affect the psyche of an entire nation, an entire country. “Be vigilant – the enemy does not sleep”, “A chatterbox is a godsend for a spy”, “Did you pass the GTO standards?” Where can I relax?





Also interesting: People live in a darkened state of consciousness.

You have become your own favorite pet.



- The origins of anxiety as a way of life again and always lie in childhood. It's about parents and, of course, genetics. Our grandmothers, great-grandparents and great-grandparents, and I suspect all this goes back centuries, had to live with an eye and certainly none of them lived as he wanted. For us, this lifestyle is not natural. But someone has to start...



Author: Mikhail Labkovsky



P.S. And remember, just changing our consumption – together we change the world!

Source: labkovskiy.ru/publikatsii/radostnee-zhit/