The pain to be lived Bashny.Net

Rapid time. Quick change of feelings. No places to stay in pain.

People go to psychologists often with one purpose - to kill the pain immediately. To quickly stop feeling - and running again in life, in work, in family. As robots. To live and not to worry. To live and not to interfere with obsessive thoughts. To live and feel.

Because the pain - it's about feelings. This indicator. Where a violation of integrity, there is pain. Where the wound, there is pain. Where the wound, there can not be healthy. If the body is alive, it reacts to pain trauma to the disease, to malfunction.




There is a solution: to become a cyborg, then you will not get sick. Never ever. But then the sunset is not to please, and the wine does not taste good, and the cat is not touches. This, too - about feelings

. The wound does not heal instantly. Let analgesic ointment anoint. Let's impose the bandage. But the wound did not heal before will work all the protective and repair mechanisms. Blood can not be forced to fold quickly and cells - to regenerate faster. Everything happens at its own speed and in their time.

The same - and with the psyche. She needs to work out all the steps. Do not hold the special (non picks open wound), not speed up (to smear one remedy after another immediately). It is necessary to give yourself OTBOLET.

Losing hurts. Parting hurts. Message with poor content hurts. Unanswered Post hurts. Harsh words hurt. Dislike hurts. Ignoring the pain. Jealousy hurts.

We must not run away, do not escape, and live. It is necessary to be sick. As during the flu, it is necessary to lie down in bed, sipping tea with lemon. We must take this pain and this state. Recognize and name what you feel. "Yes I am jealous". "Yes, I'm afraid to lose, afraid to death." And feel. Cry. Angry. Pour out anger. Suffer, looking at photos.

Write stupid letters. You can not send, but to write. Devote a portion of time to live the pain of the situation. To stay in it. Not lubricating. Not switching. Not being distracted. Especially make time for conscious living pain.

The psyche itself include protective mechanisms. If you will not interfere with it, include. Relaxer - and come apathy, indifference. Then will come a calm understanding of what happened. Then - the acceptance of the situation and the desire to move on. This is what you wanted right away, immediately, at the very beginning.

I understand the strange recipe. But you know: the effect of any analgesic is over, and the wound is no longer sick, heals only when

. Author: Lily Ahremchik