36 questions that lead to love



20 years ago, psychologist Arthur Aron conducted a simple experiment in his laboratory. He suggested previously unknown male and female together to answer 36 questions. Then they need to have been silently watching each other's eyes for 4 minutes. After six months, participants in the experiment were ready to get married.

Choosing from all the world, who would you have invited for dinner?

Would you like to be famous? In what area?

Before you make a phone call you ever rehearse what going to say? Why?

How do you imagine a perfect day?

When the last time you sang with myself? And for someone else?

If you could live to 90 and keep a mind or a body of thirty years in the last 60 years of his life, which would you choose?

Do you have a secret hunch about how you die?

Name the three things in common, that is, you and your partner.

What in your life do you feel most grateful?

If you could change anything in the course of their education, what would it be?

4 minutes tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

If you could wake up tomorrow, acquiring quality or ability, what / how?

If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about you, about your life, about the future or about something else that you would like to learn?

Is there something that you've dreamed of doing for a long time? Why do not you do this?

What is the greatest achievement of your life?

What do you value most in your friends?

What is your fondest memory of?

The most terrible reminiscence?

If you knew that in one year you will die suddenly, would you change anything in your current life? Why?

What is friendship for you?

What is the role of love and affection play in your life?

In turn call the positive characteristics of your partner. A total of five points.

How close is your family? Do you think that your childhood was happier than most other people?

What do you think about your relationship with your mother?

Make three truthful offer, starting with "we." For example, "We are both in this room feeling ...».

Continue this sentence: "I would like to share with someone ...»

. If you were going to be a close friend to your partner, please, tell me what you think, he needs to know about you.

Tell your partner that you love him; Be very honest, say what you could not say the unfamiliar person.

Share with your partner an unpleasant moment of your life.

When and why did you last cry?

Tell your partner about what you already like it.

What is too serious about anything inappropriate jokes?

If you were to die this evening, unable to communicate with anyone, what not to say to someone, you would most sorry? Why you have not told them this?

Your home with all your property on fire. After rescuing loved ones and pets you have time to run into the house again, and save any one thing. What could it be? Why?

The death of one of your family members would have touched you the most? Why?

Share a personal problem and ask your partner about how he or she would have coped with it. Then ask your partner to talk about what he thinks about your choice problem.

This list is returned from oblivion twenty columnist The New York Times Mandy Len Catron (Mandy Len Catron), which recently decided to repeat the experiment of Dr. Aron himself and his familiar. The experience was a success and the participants really fell in love.

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