Gifts that kill

Not everyone is able to take the offensive words and cleverly "beat the filing." Unfortunately, the most weighty and longstanding remain words and actions related to the close and native people. In the future, this can significantly affect your life.

Mom, daughter says that "it will never find" decent "man" in almost all his life gave her an inferiority complex. Ex-husband, before leaving, awarded a sense of guilt and the conviction that you are "the worst wife in the world", and the former mother in law with pleasure added: "... and even the most clumsy and not feminine." You do not have to wait long to see in the "veracity" of their words. Huddling you move a citizen, "politely" told that you are "cloven-hoofed sluggishness."


Since you originally doubted that are eligible for a different attitude, it is easy to take these characteristics in his address. Any attention from those around you seems to be "precious gift." You store it carefully, taking as a part of yourself, and do not notice how to start using "other people's words." In a conversation with a friend, you confidential whisper: "... I'm the worst wife in the world." A new friend in a hurry to inform: "... I have always been ugly, and not feminine."

Now list everything that oppresses you, annoys, injures himself. Do you really think that you or someone said about this? Do not rush to ... Think of a situation that could "give" you those beliefs.

Confront another's aggression difficult, especially if you were born weak and fragile creature. But this is not a reason to become a container for the "foreign waste". Remember, everything that you hear, and humbly accept from others to you is irrelevant. You just became a "handy man" for dropping in your "garbage" that does not want to wear yourself. Such things are not accepted "give" without a beautiful wrapper. They cleverly wrapped in a "quivering care of you," "willingness to help", "to protect ...", "indicate ...". The gift can be so neatly packed that you can not always recognize what is inside, and gladly accept it. Be careful! If your ex-mother in law said that "you do not feminine," it is likely, it is this issue of concern to her life. It is true that only belongs to her! If your "former" said that "you are the worst wife in the world", then give him the "worst case scenario", and leave himself the "best". If your mom thinks you are "not worthy ...", then most likely, it is the voice of reason for his failed marriage.

Do not take on other people's problems as soon as possible to get rid of negativity. If you are pushed and insulted, then immediately "tie" to this man of his insulting words, and let it "thunder" of the whole transition ...

Regardless of the situation, learn to save own world pure and untouched. If you have managed to accumulate a "gifts", then do not worry, it's too late to bring them back. You can start doing right now ...

1. Think of a situation when you are insulted, offended or "presented" the belief that you are now carry. What do you feel now? How did it affect your life? Relax, take a deep breath ... exhale ... close your eyes ...

2. Concentrate on internal sensations. In what part of the body you keep your "gift". How did you feel it? Describe what it looks like, what emotions cause. If you increase it, your uncomfortable feelings are increasing, you are on the right track. After this test, go back to the original image.

3. Play back the image of a man who "gave" you the "charm". Look straight at him, exudes confidence in what you are doing.

4. Mentally remove yourself from a "gift" and give this man. Tell him: "I forgive you, but do not accept the gift." Do it quietly and without thought of revenge, reproach and explanation.

5. Observe how will change the image of man. What will he do with returned by "gift"? Thank him for the valuable experience, but let them know that you do not need more than that, let go his way, let him go.

6. Fill in the space of positive energy. What is the new way you're willing to take a seat? Describe what it looks like, what shape, size, how much you like it. It is important that he ustaivayte you absolutely everything! Experience a new sensation in the body. How to change your mood?

7. Go back to the previous situation with a renewed way. As it is now you behave? How have your reaction to the words and deeds?

8. Thank you. Placing his hand on the place where a new image appeared, tell him thank you for the fact that now he will always be with you.

Thus, you can "give" all that have accumulated over time. To further your life was in a happy stream immediately return "gifts" in the "generous hand" of your attackers and aggressors. Remember, negative attitudes of knee grow in us with great speed, and if you are right they are not freed, then some time later barely able to distinguish "foreign" from her. Take care of yourself and your life from outside interference, and even give you only pleasant, kind and helpful gifts!