How to untangle their problems?

The roots of all our problems or challenges, as well as our victories, rooted in deep-seated beliefs.
Whatever your problem - it can unravel. And yourself. To do this, you must have the audacity to separate themselves from the "me" - that is, to see that our beliefs are not us. This is the most important and also the most difficult. What we do (!) Know, often is neither true nor our conscious choice, nor in any way useful to us.

Man - this is a clean sheet, the first part of his life which was not written by them.
We come into this world with a completely white sheet of their own life story, which describes not only our experience (what we do), but also who we are (what we feel, we think and that rely on the decision-making). And the moral of the story is that our earliest records are maintained by parents, teachers, friends, and the whole environment and our children, still quite unconscious Ya
From the beginning we are not aware, we begin to broadcast an image of how we are seen by others, through the prism of his own first child, understanding. And we are the ones who see us around, through the prism of their own understanding.



It's kind of rules. We come here unconscious children and our task is to develop: to start to grow up, to grow wiser and realize. Not for nothing all psychologists in a voice say about the influence of childhood on all our further experience.
We create ourselves and our experience daily, every second, and even more correct to say, every moment.
Not only when we decided to register our life goals for the year and not just when the radically changed the type of activity or country. Not when reached (or not reached) in the sport, not when the birth of the child. And always. Every moment.
Create yourself not 18 years old, when officially become adults, and not 25 years, when the wiser. Create yourself with 15 years (remember their complexes), 7 years (think of your fears), 3 years (think you). We constantly create ourselves with ... camogo start. And many nasozdavali that dutifully stored in our subconscious, and manifests itself in the situation.
From the article "Why change something»
All what you believe - no more than a projection of the beliefs of people around you. As of childhood, as well as from today. In all this there is practically no you. If you look at a fact without fear of losing their identity, much will fall into place.
Example: In China, people have said that there is no God: for many modern Chinese of the major cities there is no God. In Thailand, by contrast, they said that there is. Total, there are no atheists priori. There's even a matter of faith it is impossible to deliver: "There is a God or not?" For Thais, of course, there is. Same Bali. In Russia, one time said that there is no God - born generation of people doubting, then changed their minds and decided that God is - our result at the current moment many believe, but with a different attitude to the institution of the church and their own need for its regular visits.



One might ask: who tells people about such things as the existence of God or lack thereof, for example? Who influences the minds? First of all - our inner circle. It generates all of our beliefs to a certain age of self-awareness (and not the global conspiracy that mereschatsya those who have nothing to do). Yes, in certain historical periods various governments to influence the minds, for example with their socialist manners and affected very seriously, but it is silly to think that the whole thing is only in power. They set the direction of thinking, and the people themselves begin to repeat and sow around itself and others. Modern Russian children in the family does not follow the global news and the faith of the Church (again, this is already an illustration), it simply copies what do his parents, and also relates to this issue. As an adult, he already knows his attitude to the faith if you do not think about and does not revise its view, live with it all his life, as affecting their families.
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Children do not have to educate, educate yourself - your kids will still like you.
Another example - food. Oh, my favorite subject - a dairy products. So, cottage cheese and beliefs.
Dialogue of the Russian family: "You have to have cheese, it is necessary for the bones».
Dialogue of the Asian family, "What is cheese?»
In many Asian countries do not know what it is. Even the words of the local language there. They do not eat cheese, sour cream, do not drink cow's milk (especially fresh). But everyone has a bone.
Understand correctly, this story is not about dairy products, not about God, and especially not about what is good and what is bad. I do not pretend to be someone else's beliefs.
This is just an illustration: our thoughts, beliefs, desires, faith - a 100 percent product of our environment, in any case, as long as we do not start to choose their own values, prioritize and plan towards the targets and filter beliefs.
This is the most important and also the most difficult.
All that we know - patterns of perception; everything we sincerely (!) love - often imposed; all that "wants" our body in a state of autopilot - nothing more than a habit that can be easily changed.
It has meaning only one thing: your beliefs helping you or pull down? You live the life that you want, or vice versa - drag burden of days on his shoulders?
Hold on to beliefs in the second case is very absurd, as well as allow to encroach on their faith when it is on your side and makes you happy.
How to work with their beliefs and to unravel their own problems?
0. You - this is not your beliefs
Item number zero, which is impossible without further work: understand what you - this is not your beliefs. To admit the idea that any of their beliefs can be changed. To admit the idea that inside you could germinate limiting beliefs.
We believe that what we should, in fact, millions of people around us do the same thing, and millions can not be wrong. That is what is your logic, and this logic is fundamentally flawed: the millions be wrong.
Osho
1. Recognize inspirational and limiting beliefs
There are only two kinds of opinion: those who pull us up, and those that pull down. Recognize areas of life in which you definitely have to shatter certainty simply. This is an area that you do not work, - where the most problems.
Soul (relationship with him inner balance and harmony);
The body (health, strength, power, beauty);
Case (implementation in a professional sense, money, creativity);
Relationships (love, friends, family, children).
What stalled where inveterate rake that appear every time you try to establish all?
Simple examples illustrate, (I want to say that everything in life is deeper, and the edge is thinner):
If you think that a lot of money not earned by honest means (persuasion), you will not earn any more or less significant money (the investigation);
If you think that all the "normal" dismantled (conviction), you will not be able to find a decent pair, and is likely to go on gnawing the soul of a compromise (the investigation);
If you think that it is necessary to listen to your body, but overeat on a regular basis (conviction), you will suffer from apathy, laziness and inability to do something more (the investigation).
That's what says on this subject, one of my favorite authors:
We have to understand that most of our beliefs are generalizations about our past, based on how we interpret the painful and unpleasant events of his life. The problem is the following:
1. The majority of us do not consciously decide what to believe.
2. often our beliefs are based on an incorrect interpretation of past experience.
3. Once we have acquired beliefs, then immediately forget that this is just an interpretation.
We begin to treat our beliefs as something real, as commandments.
Anthony Robbins
Conversely, if in any area you consistently turns out - then here your beliefs to work for you, at least until you are at the current level (sometimes to make a quantum leap - a breakthrough in a totally new stage, it is necessary to change the beliefs that worked well in the past reality, but did not allow radical changes).
2. Cultivate inspirational beliefs
We can not simply "change your mind" or something at once to abandon the convictions, even if noticed it inside (although it is half the battle). Beliefs are sitting deep and convey greetings from the subconscious in the form of our reactions to any particular event. But what we can really - it's inspiring to spread their beliefs and make fundamental that they eventually took over the reins of power in the matter, which we are trying to solve.
I was working with its internal limitations on such a scheme:
1. From the examples of people who were able to overcome the same problem as mine, constantly making sure that it is real, and securing such an idea on specific samples.
All you need to - to convince myself that the solution is close and accessible, on the principle that it could, and I can.
Interesting fact. In 1954, Roger Bannister broke the world record in the women's 1, 5 kilometers and ran for the first time in history in less than 4 minutes. By the time the historic (read: for centuries) stayed above the threshold of 4 minutes at this distance.
He overcame many imaginary belief on the subject of speed in this race, and what we see? Less than a year has 37 athletes have overcome this threshold. More - more.
Watch an inspiring example, but not through the prism of envy to their success, namely in terms of convincing yourself that everything is real and I get - a powerful tool in the hands of competent.
By the way, Sir Roger Gilbert Bannister live - he was 84 years old, a smiling guy. This is the question to be helpful or harmful run. Or is it yet another belief that creates your experience?
2. To work with inspiring belief through affirmations and visualization techniques. Fix them in the subconscious.
Say to yourself: "I can not ..." Just substitute in the affirmation that to which you aspire. Concentrate on what you do, how to mentally and verbally. We need to talk calmly, confidently and even ordinary - no pathos and discharge. It is necessary to bring the idea that the solution to this problem for you is available on the level of standards.
In general, with a useful way to talk through the "I", "succeed", "things are going." Our subconscious mind is like you are there to hang out on the surface, it tamps at what often repeated, and what is the power (as a rule, most charged thoughts have a fear or a burning desire to pleasure / happiness).
3. to act. Without application exit beliefs change.
Start to take steps towards solving their problem, but all the doubts and fears answer new beliefs that you grow inside.
The process of working with the conscientiously held beliefs - that, in what you choose to believe - is the process of cultivating the germs of their new views of the world, and together with it and a new life. They are capable, if only to take care of them on a permanent basis: as long as a new tree will grow strong internal force (it is years of work, but they are worth).