One becomes mature in the moment when he begins to love more than the need to love: it becomes pour out fissile; He begins to give. The focus is entirely on the other. First, the emphasis is on how to get as much as possible. In the second case, the emphasis is on how to give, how to give more and how to give without putting conditions. This growth, maturity comes to you.
How can I become in need of love? Love - is a luxury. This abundance. It means so much to have a life that you do not know what to do, so you share. It means so much to have a song in your heart that you have to sing them, whether there is someone to listen to them or not. If no one listens, anyway you'll have to sing them, you'll have to dance your dance.
Someone has it, someone not. But that concerns you, something flowing, something pours. Rivers do not flow to you, they flow whether you're there or not. They flow, not for your thirst, they flow not for the thirsty fields; they simply flow here. You can quench your thirst or not - it's your business. In fact the river flows is not for you, it just flows. The fact that you can get water for your fields - is by chance; that you can get water for your needs - by accident.
Osho