Scientific benefits of kindness

PoleznoNekotorye be good behaviors, which can be called atypical, people unconsciously associate with the behavior of "the fool". But the science of objects: nothing stupid in this, and on the contrary, non-standard acts of kindness can bring great benefits.

1. The best way to quell the anger - just forget about nёmVsem known that restraining anger can not end anything good. General tips to curb anger are reduced to ranting to friends, consulted with doctors or falling in a hail of blows on the poor pumpkin, to which is attached a picture of your chief.

But when psychologists tried to figure out which of these methods most effectively relieves people with anger, they encountered a surprising discovery. The study showed that ignore their anger as long as it will not work - much more effective than all the methods listed above.

Psychologist Brad Bushman discovered this in an experiment in which he insulted the test volunteers as long as he did not have the confidence that he is about to start beating.

Thereafter, the subjects were divided into three groups. The first group was given a punching bag, scourged her and yell, presenting a face of Brad. The second group was also given a pear, and scourged at her, but at the same time think it was necessary to the improvement of their physical fitness. A third group was not offered anything.

Later, when the subjects were asked to describe their feelings, the first group reported that the beating pears had no impact on their mood. Subjects in the second group reported that the mood has improved slightly. But the best result in terms of suppression of anger was received in the third group, which did not do absolutely nothing.

In another study conducted by Jennifer Parlamis from the University of San Francisco, a group of subjects was asked to write a letter about your feelings and send them or someone from friends or a therapist. There was a third option - do not write a letter. The largest decline was noted in negative subjects who did not write any letters.

2. Talk to strangers make you schastliveeV bus we pretend to look at the screen of the smartphone, the zoo pretend that something is stained, and all it says is that every day we are making a lot of effort in order to deliberately avoid contact with other people.

The researchers decided to see what would happen if it is to break the taboo, the head of public transport a conversation with a complete stranger.

We did not remember the positive experience of interaction with strangers, and remember only negative. This, in turn, is the reason why we tend to avoid any social interaction h4> In order to strike up a conversation was easier subjects were strangers offering tickets for shuttle buses. It is obvious that after this conversation failed many passengers. The subjects were asked passengers do one of two things: either to go to the bus as usual, deliberately avoiding communication with others, or deliberately try to strike up a conversation with someone of them. After the passengers had to answer a few questions about how they felt.

When it came time to sum up, it was found that passengers who are forced to deal with someone from strangers, got a lot of positive emotions. For some reason, the social interaction with other people has brought them more satisfying than the passage of the next level of the game Fruit Ninja.

Another interesting fact is that this result is contrary to the expectations of the majority of passengers. Many of them are expected to be very awkward conversation with a stranger, and that at best, and at worst, they thought, with them will not talk at all.

Experts believe that this discrepancy arises from the fact that we badly remember the positive experience of interaction with strangers and remember only negative. This, in turn, is the reason why we tend to avoid any social interaction.

3. People who help others live a better life for five years, three universities conducted a joint survey in which they tracked 846 people and recorded how high was the level of stress in their lives (because of financial difficulties due to the death of loved ones, etc. ). Also it recorded how long the subjects spent helping others. Of 846 people who participated in the experiment, for 5 years, died 134.

Researchers began to study his notes, trying to figure out whether there is any connection between the untimely death and helping others.

Communication and actually found: Mortality among people, helping others, is much lower. The theory is that if you are constantly involved in community life, and to do it in a positive way, you can survive in this society for much longer. Because in case of stressful situations you have psychological safety cushion provided positive emotions from friendly social relations. Researchers believe that the mortality due to stress among people living with good deeds, lower by about 30%.

4. Humility helps less fearful smertiSmert - an inevitability with which sooner or later will face anyone. The way you go through life largely depends on how you feel about the concept of their own death. Most of us have resorted to an endless cycle of tricks that allow escape from thinking about death. Some of these tricks better, some worse.

But some people just are not afraid of it. What is the secret of acceptance of the fact of his own death without fear?

According to a study conducted by the University of Wisconsin, the secret has a lot to do with your incredibly bloated ego. Or rather, a lack thereof.

In five studies, experts have studied how humbling effect on the fear of death. Officially humility defined as "the willingness to accept themselves and their own lives, without any comforting illusions, accompanied by a low level of obsession with itself." Unofficially, it is defined as: "A humble person does not get into the bright yellow" Hammer ", even if he has the opportunity presents itself».

Volunteers handed out several questionnaires drawn up so as to gently remind the respondent that their death is imminent. In the survey, participants were required to accept (or vice versa - to disagree) with a number of highly questionable from a moral point of view of the ideas set out in the questionnaire. Researchers call these morally questionable situations "protective control of fear," and most notably it was manifested when extremely selfish people face to face with issues related to their own death.

But the test is not prone to wear T-shirts with the image of his own face, questions about the imminent death almost frightened.

The researchers suggest that personality traits such as racism, intolerance, and similar prejudices may actually be a manifestation of our inability to cope with the fact that we all die someday.

5. Good deeds help to overcome sotsiofobiyuNet's okay to be a shy person. But for many people social phobia - it is a problem, without which they would have been much better. Researchers believe that, fortunately, there is one way to reduce social phobia: Just do more good deeds and engaged in charity.

If you are doing something good for the people, the world will not only be a little better, but and you can benefit from this world some benefit h4> The One study of subjects suffering from social phobia, was asked to talk about how they feel after four weeks, during which they spontaneously show kindness. Acts of kindness thought anything: sticking door to a latecomer man could enter, help to carry heavy bags, or simply listening to the patient rants of a stranger on the subway.

After all this, the subjects will not only improve mood, but also social phobia decreased, and in addition, they have to get more satisfaction from their current relationship. In other words, if you help her grandmother to bring a heavy bag, you have lost the desire clogged under the table whenever someone simply asks how you are doing.

Of course, the results are ambiguous and, of course, experts still far from the final deliverance of people from social phobia. But the point is that if you are doing something good for the people, the world will not only be a little better, but you can extract out of this world some benefit.

And that's what we all long for, is not it? Such is the selfish reason to be good.



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