Rebellion against everyday or 7 ways to understand what you want REALLY

If you still do not do what he likes and does not go beyond a dream, fasten your seat belts, because these 7 exercises for you to become a real breakthrough!



Freedom is beautiful. But she and painful because it requires us to set their own goals. Whether happened to you is that you're reading an article about how to achieve goals, and feel confused, because You do not understand, and what actually do you want? Literally no idea what to do with my life?

If you still do not do what he likes and does not go beyond a dream, fasten your seat belts, because these 7 exercises for you to become a real breakthrough.



The book "What dream" - a continuation of the bestseller "Dream on," Barbara Sher. It gives practical tips and exercises on how to overcome self-criticism, to overcome the negative mood, get off the beaten track, trust your desires, again to believe in the long-forgotten purpose to identify their talents and gain enthusiasm and, finally, to find their way in life.

So let's see, why do not you know what you want. And then try to do something about it.

1. Throw away the "Broken compasses»
... Learn. Get married. Earn. Rise through the ranks. Establishments children. Buy a house ...

In our mind often live other people's expectations. Silent installation. Broken compasses.

Wish family and entourage give meaning - good or bad - all of our activities. Even if we think we do not care.

Take a blank sheet of paper and write down the names of all family members and people close to you. That is, list everyone who was important to you in childhood and adolescence: teachers, coaches, neighbors, cousins, older friends. Under each name write down what kind of life this man wanted for you. If you are like most people, you'll see how these expectations take convoluted twist: they are many, and some may be completely opposite.

These expectations put us in an impossible situation obviously, tying his hands and feet.

In this list, there is a setting to realize your unique potential? Who insisted that you were looking for their own, original "I", no matter what the cost? Very few see such a wish on your list.

Leave the broken compass. You need not justify someone's expectations, and to do something from which your heart sings.

2. Live a time with the aim
For the next hour you prefer an active movement to its goal. Set a timer for an hour and devote themselves to this purpose. And only when you hear a tone, you can stop.

"Devote yourself" in this case means that it is necessary to stop the discussion. Discard all "as if." Enough to plan! The future is determined!

What is your closest ambitious goal? Act comedy shows, or buy an island, go to the remote job or join the Kibbutz? What are the first steps to be done in this direction? Call the Treaty to do, buy, promise. Active. Right now.

3. Get to know your monstrous internal resistance
And if the purpose of the work from the previous exercise has caused you trouble, it's great! Your resistance is ready to go on stage. Each time, as soon as you have the passion, you stop yourself - and do it in the language of negativity: "Stupid. It is useless ».

Take the paper with a pen or voice recorder - as you like - and note that says the voice of resistance. This little creature harmful considers that protects you, struggling to deprive you of enthusiasm, when he feels the danger - and the danger it feels every time you pull on the desired. It will try to block the road, causing a feeling of guilt, shame, inadequacy or hopelessness. But his every word is the secret of liberation.

4. Use the five ideas to find yourself
Find autobiographies of famous people who did the same than you. And biographies of people who were involved in a completely different from what you are.
Learn something new. What fit - to manage a balloon or breeding goldfish, or find 10 ways to prove the Pythagorean theorem, or collect ancient mask. Part of the brain that you have exploited too often rest until the other will work, abide virtually inactive.
Just trust instinct. Take what you want, but it is interesting for you, and go on all the boring - even if you do not know why this is interesting or boring! Like a flower turning towards the sun, you will begin to grow in the direction you interesting things.
Give yourself a working target. "Working goal" - a goal that could change. About how the working title of the movie or a book. Work in progress, and the name of pre-conditional, which can be changed when you are finished. In the case of a career is also suitable. This is the case flukes.
Think of yourself a perfect family. Family in which you would support and understanding from birth. Present in detail how you energetically support each family member. By allowing yourself to see what could be your family life, you will treat yourself differently.
"You are wonderful, but not strange»

5. Behave as if you are very brave and never fail
Imagine two things. Firstly, that you are very brave man, and nothing can stop you. This fantasy of you on the shoulder. And secondly, imagine that you never fail.

What would you do if you had the courage and know exactly what will succeed?

Write your answers on paper. This is important.

6. Perfect day
Everyone has heard about the "perfect day." Do this exercise again, but this time pay attention to the moment 2.

A key scene. You already know what is your dream. Now close your eyes and imagine a favorite moment in his imagination. What is it going to happen? What is the key scene in the film of your life? When you enjoy the imagination, open your eyes. Describe in a few words what he saw.
We enjoy success. Once you come up with what to do, pofantaziruet as you rest and relax in your ideal life? Look forward to the rest of fantasy at least for five minutes.
7. Make a 95 year plan
We must start from the beginning of life and treat the past years as if you deliberately planned them - were born in seven years, we went to school, in the twenty - moved to Moscow. Keep up to date, and then move on - to the future: in 57 years, you went to Antarctica in 65 began to grow orchids and wrote a great novel in 85 remarry. Do not stop until you reach 95 years!

Take a few sheets of paper and divide it into four columns:

Age. It will record the number 5, 10, 15, 20 and so on, up to 95 years. You can split these into smaller intervals.
Main event. It means to be born, go to school, to move - and all that happens or can happen in the future - all that seems important to you.
What I have learned. Write the most important thing you learned or will learn in every age.
The most amazing thing I saw. Maybe you do not remember the past perfect, but the momentum of trust: he would not give to go far from the truth.
When you get to the future, you have to let go of the freedom of the imagination, but try and do it. It's worth it. After completing the exercise, write down what this imaginary path in the ninety-five years have taught you in relation to the meaning of life.

Once you begin to grope its way, you will be at the forefront of large-scale historical change. Inside you lives the true genius - one of a kind, inquisitive, with a huge potential. As soon as you go to the dream, you wake up and everything will be filled with meaning.

Children's zeal, enthusiasm and recklessly you along the way!

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