3 SITUATION IN WHICH be best to know a person

Drop all dream of a perfect world and a sober look at the real facts.



Man's best to learn in three situations:
in solitude - because here he disclaims all ostentatious;
in a fit of passion - for then he forgets all the rules;
in the new circumstances - because here he leaves his habits.
~ Francis Bacon


The life of man - a string of ups and downs, successes and disappointments, joy and search the knowledge and stupidity. Living in each house is so diverse and unique that we sometimes boldly asserted: "On your life you can write a book." And this is true. Each one of us - a superstar for someone. For one person, and maybe for some, your life - it is the light that gives meaning to life, drives forward and gives purpose. Maybe that's you - someone's universe. Unavailability, alluring and sometimes brings pain.

How often in the last time, you can hear the phrase: "I gave him so many years, but did not recognize him this" or "I loved it so much, but she betrayed me." And you begin to wonder whether we know someone well enough, because there are times when you yourself do as not enrolled than ever before, just a couple of days ago. And do not blame the magnetic storms, external circumstances or "insidious" envious. All because of our naivety, stupidity light, imagination and the belief that people change, or that the loved one will be there always.



Pain - is the same variable state of mind and body, as joy, anger or jealousy. You can get used to the pain only on one condition: allowing her to be present in their lives. The most severe pain cause those who love and trust. It is their words hurt more painful actions maddening and indifference makes killing yourself mentally. Self-blame can not bring happiness, under any circumstances, only the guilt eats the soul, and the anger is killing the remnants of optimism and faith. After receiving "kick" is not worth living memories of him.

It should devote all his time and energy on something to start life from scratch. From myself I will not leave, even if you become a great actor. Your thoughts - your navigator, so it is better to put in a correct position.

Sometimes you need to look at a loved one from the side to understand that ideal people do not exist, there is only "their" and "favorite." So, give up all dreams of a perfect world and a sober look at the real facts.



Man is best to know:

1. In solitude - because here he disclaims all ostentatious.
Only by himself, we can take a sober look at the painful things, discard off the opinions of others and draw their own conclusions.

Our consciousness tells us in silence, for example, before going to sleep a thousand thoughts attack our minds, hundreds of questions, like thunder, break the silence of the night. Only in these moments we can say aloud what really want, what or whom need what we dream and to aspire.

Aloud the unseen speak only with myself, because the fear of "being heard" any worse than torture. All our fears have long overgrown with thick skin protective emotion, easy lies and perpetual self-deception.

Only loneliness and honest conversation with yourself will help to know ourselves without the usual routine of the secular, foreign influence and friends since childhood "is you can not afford».



2. In a fit of passion - for then he forgets all the rules.
Unfortunately, every one of us is cruel, every vessel is kept with anger and indignation.

During a quarrel one of us pouring fountain profanity, threats, insults, and, oddly enough, honesty. We know the "Achilles' heel" of the interlocutor, and especially we press on it harder.

We, as snipers, see the goal and do not know the obstacles. It is in these moments we bare the soul and mind.

It is necessary to be afraid of yourself in those few seconds, because sometimes we know ourselves so deep that we can not then it's just terrible "exposing" himself.

We choose how to live, what to do and with whom to chat. We write its history by hand, based on personal experience and their hopes, but passion open our previously Mysterious face, and they are not always a reason for pride.


3. In the new circumstances - because here he leaves his habits.
We - the people of the servants of the schedule and event travelers. In each of us lies its system merge with the circumstances.

People get used to everything, at any age and on any continent. Someone climbs up, clenching his teeth, and some drifting, as if this is the only way to survive.

And no one can accuse or praise, because the judges may be sinless, but each of us on the conscience of even one peccadillo, and "lit". And only a new location, a change of collective or "expulsion" of the comfort zone to discover the truth of our face. We all wear masks, and automatically change them at the right moments.

Since we are one family, with friends the other, in the team wear a mask called "good." We always want to be better than we actually are, but if we honestly admit to ourselves, then to the ideal we all go indefinitely.

But there is nothing wrong or death, because each of us is a man who loves and accepts all of our "technical error».

For the sake of such a man is to live, create and create.

Do not be afraid of mistakes, because they are created in order to be made. But remember that the limit of patience favorite, too, has its limits.