"I found something to worry about." What can you say to people with depression?

Depression is a serious mental disorder that affects a person’s thoughts, feelings, and behavior. People suffering from depression often face misunderstanding and stigma from others. In such moments, words of support can make a huge difference, but not all statements are useful. Wrong phrases can not only not help, but also aggravate a person’s condition.

Why are the right words important?
A depressed person feels vulnerable and isolated. His inner world is filled with negative thoughts and feelings of helplessness. At such moments, the words of others can serve either as support or an additional burden. Psychologists say that it is important to be attentive to what we say, so as not to devalue the feelings of a person and not aggravate his condition.

“Words of support must be sincere and empathetic. Wrong phrases can cause feelings of misunderstanding and loneliness. – Dr. Maria Lebedeva, psychotherapist

Phrases that should be avoided
Some common phrases that people often say in an effort to support can be counterproductive and even harmful:

• "Just get it out of your head": Depression is not just a bad mood. Such a comment can make a person feel incomprehensible.
• "Everybody's gonna be worried about you." While this statement may be sincere, it can trigger feelings of guilt and increase depressive thoughts.
• "You're too worried": Reducing the severity of a person’s experiences can lead to his further alienation.
• "Try to be positive": This implies that depression is caused by a lack of positivity, which is wrong and can be offensive.
• "You can get over it": While it is supportive, for some people it may sound like pressure and an expectation of immediate recovery.

How to properly support?
Instead of negative phrases, it is better to use statements that demonstrate understanding and willingness to help:

• "I'm here for you." A simple and powerful statement that shows you are willing to support.
• "You're not alone in this." It helps people feel they have support.
• "Do you want to talk about it?": It offers an opportunity to open up and express your feelings.
• "What can I do to help?": Demonstrates willingness to provide concrete assistance.
• "I believe you can do this." It maintains a person’s confidence in their abilities.

Tips for Supporting Someone with Depression:

• Listen without judgment and let's understand that his feelings are important.
• Avoid giving advice if you are not asked for it.
• Encourage them to seek professional help.
• Be patient and do not expect rapid improvement.
• Watch your emotional state so as not to burn out.

Expert opinion
Psychologists emphasize that support of loved ones plays a key role in the process of recovery from depression. However, it is important to remember that support is not a substitute for professional help. Experts recommend combining emotional support with an appeal to a therapist or doctor.
“Support for loved ones can make recovery much easier, but it should go hand in hand with professional help.” – Dr. Sergey Ivanov, psychiatrist

Stories from Life
Many people share their stories about how the words of loved ones affected their condition. Some note that the right words helped them feel understood and supported, while others experienced the negative effects of being careless.

Conclusion
Supporting a person with depression requires sensitivity, understanding and awareness. Avoid phrases that may devalue his feelings, and seek sincere expressions of support. Remember that your attention and willingness to listen can be an important step towards recovery.
“True support is not only words, but actions that show that you are there and ready to help.” – Marina Kovaleva
If you or someone close to you is experiencing depression, don’t be afraid to seek professional help. It is important to remember that depression is a disease that can be treated, and the support of others plays an important role in this process.