My mother-in-law called and told me to leave the children and come home urgently, otherwise the marriage cannot be saved. Bashny.Net

There are many different opinions in the world, Why does a man cheat on his wife?. This and “sports interest”, fatigue from relationships, short-term weakness and much more. Some even argue that men are inherently polygamous and simply cannot. Well, let’s leave such statements on the conscience of such specialists.



However, if this has already happened, a woman should think hard about how to proceed. To leave such a man immediately or try to save the marriage, the family. Perhaps it would be very bad for the children if they took away their father at once. Or the man is the main breadwinner. And without it, a woman will be very tight. Well, there's a lot to think about.

After a full-scale invasion, my husband and I decided that I would move abroad. Not alone, of course, but with children. My cousin has been living in Holland for a long time, so staying with her was the most obvious decision. We were even given places in a good kindergarten. Moreover, the state helped with products and even with some money.

I don’t want to tell you much about my life in another country. I'll just say, yes, she's very beautiful. Everyone rides bicycles and smiles at each other. I was always afraid to go to Holland because of their frivolous attitude to certain substances banned in our country, but in reality everything turned out to be banal. It is used mainly by tourists. And the locals, as they say, just outgrown the whole thing. And their attitude towards such things is quite calm.



My husband and I talked almost every day. I was naturally very worried. We had one small but quite profitable business. And without me, he's kind of stuck. But what to do, you need to start from the situation. As you can see, she was not the best. Our mutual friend Elona came to the rescue. I introduced her to Tolia, my husband, and since then we have all become very friendly.

I also kept in touch with Ilona: I had to consult her about some incomprehensible points. Of course, she did not help for free, I believe that any work should be paid. My husband probably had his own thoughts on this. Six months later, I was contacted not by anyone, but by my mother-in-law. We have never had a special friendship before.

Well, yes. She told me to leave the kids and come home. Because if I don't, I can't keep my marriage. I could not believe at first that her hints could be true. But after thinking it over, I decided to make my wife a surprise and make a personal visit. At the same time, I will see my homeland, and work matters need attention.



Peels I stopped by my mother-in-law first. I handed over a package of food and asked for tea. At the table, in a personal conversation, she told me that Ilona, our friend, had completely replaced me during that time. Day shift and night shift. My mother-in-law does not approve of such things, primarily because she just does not want our divorce. She's worried about her son and grandchildren. Oh, come on.

I went to my husband empty-handed and was not even surprised to see my ex-girlfriend in our apartment. Thank God she brought her robe. If I took my stuff, I would have to burn it. I didn't. Just invited her husband to the balcony while Ilona got dressed and left our apartment. Silence, no scenes. We are adults, hysterics, especially now, just to nothing.



Tolya, in turn, was more verbose. He began to justify himself, to accuse me of indifference, of my passivity. It turned out that he and Ilona for a long time, more than two years, uneven breathing to each other. But they've only had it grown up a few months ago. In fact, I introduced them, I should have thought earlier.

In general, in order not to take up your time, I will only say that we clarified the relationship for about 2-3 hours. Sometimes with screams, sometimes with whispers. Tears dripped with hail, both of them. But for myself, I realized that my husband was not at all remorseful. He considered himself a victim. But I didn’t want to say it: pride didn’t allow it. I went to the hotel tonight. There was absolutely no desire to be near.

I told my sister everything in the room. She replied that she was very sorry. And I can stay with her as long as I need. As you can see, I had no desire to return to my husband’s apartment. So for a couple of days I went about my business and flew back to Holland.

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Our children are small, it is too early to tell them how the relationship between mom and dad is. So, of course, there are some difficulties with that. My husband sometimes calls me on video, says that Elon will not bother us again, and wants us to close this page of our lives, at least for the sake of the children. Even the mother-in-law is pressing on her side.

But sitting here, away from everyone, I don't even know what to think. Treason is a serious matter. And if I were not married, I would never forgive her to anyone. But now I'm married. And I have obligations. What should I do alone, divorced, in another country with two babies in my arms? And Tolya says that nothing like this will happen again.



I think about all this and I can’t come to any conclusion. The situation is not to be desired by the enemy. But we have to decide something, because the emotions have passed. Something tells me to just leave and start a new life here in Europe. But if I let my children down, that guilt will lie dead on me for the rest of my life. And for what, for my ego? I should have stayed at home from the beginning and none of this would have happened.