Working abroad, I saved every penny so that my mother and daughter lived well, but now I regret it very much.

Some of us might. save and save For the sake of some higher goal, let it go and it will take a very long time to go. This, in fact, is not for everyone. To deny yourself the conveniences and some momentary desires, of which, as we know, life consists. Plans don’t always come true, so what?



People with good willpower are always confident in their motivation. If they need to save up for some real estate, be sure they will. Do you have to give up eating habits to lose weight? In six months, the desired cubes will appear on the stomach. The main thing is that the result is worth all the effort. Otherwise, it can be replaced by a deep disappointment.

For all 7 years that I spent at work in another country, I never allowed myself any short-term expenses. I have to admit, sometimes I did. I didn’t buy expensive clothes because I had nowhere to wear them. I didn’t indulge in some exquisite food, although, believe me, all the locals were just turned on it. I only drank coffee when I needed to get my blood pressure back. You can’t go far with a bad head, and coffee is a more natural medicine than pills.



That's how, slowly, saving every penny, I lived. From my perspective, it was very simple. Time = money. Conversely, the more money I saved, the less time it took me to earn the planned amount. I needed the money for my family. More specifically, for the future daughter.

Before going abroad, I left my husband who was not the right person for me. He lacked the firmness and rationality I valued so much in men. The father of a schoolgirl, a young husband, he could not earn enough money and at the same time allowed himself to linger with friends after work and waste his time on stupid hobbies. It was beyond my power.

After the divorce, I made the decision to earn my own living. Well, it is ideal to meet a man who confidently looks to the future and shares my life principles. Doubtful, of course, but what if? The child stayed at my grandmother’s, I rented the apartment to a couple I knew, and I left to turn plans into reality.



Working as a dishwasher in a restaurant is hard. Constantly standing on your feet, dishes accumulate an incredible amount. And that humidity is damned. Also, at first it was annoying that I could not support even the most simple conversation: I lacked knowledge. Over time, I picked up some of the right phrases and even managed to make them more or less meaningful sentences.

Then I had one man, then another. But I never met anyone serious. It turned out that Europeans are used to the good life and they do not have an internal hunger, as I did. Why would I change one mattress for another? No, you better keep eating your lemon cakes. I'll hold out on my own somehow.



At some point, I lost a tablet on which I contacted my mother and daughter. I don't know if I lost it or stole it. But it was two weeks before I found the right cheap model. As I said, it was necessary to save money, and the unplanned purchase of another device should not have knocked me off track and, especially, out of schedule.

My mother and daughter were worried about me. I was so excited to see my face on the screen again. It was important for me to know that their emotions were sincere and that it was not for nothing that I burned years and years of my life abroad.

But time passed. I didn’t use the money to make any investments to increase it. The risks were too high. In fact, about a third of the money I sent home, and most of the savings. It was safer and more comfortable for me personally. I told my mom to spend money wisely. So I was hoping that she would make at least a minimal renovation of the house, so that by my arrival there would be some changes.



My family met me at the airport. I was carrying a large bag with some gifts, food and clothes. Nothing, I decided not to buy expensive stuff. Nobody wants it. My mother hugged me tightly at the meeting, and then my daughter also connected. I noticed right away that they were well-dressed, and my daughter had a new phone.

When I got home, I asked my mother where it came from. Did they have enough money to rent an apartment? To which she chuckled and said no, they only live her pension until the next. Of course, there's something dripping behind the apartment and my help counts. But that's it. My granddaughter, my daughter, spends huge sums on trinkets and expensive shopping. She can even come to school in a premium taxi, only to hit classmates.



Then I decided to ask my daughter if everything that my mother said about her was true. The reality was even tougher. My daughter kept all the money that I sent to the two of them and sat down for parties, rags and the like. She pretended that was her style. And she was sure that when I arrived, her life would be even brighter. Why go to school when my mom brought money?

So no higher education, at least free, can even go. She's a zero student. And her character deteriorated completely in my absence. Even my mother couldn't help.

So I ruined my daughter with one decision, lost a lot of time and came to nothing. Yeah, there's some money left. But what to do with them if there is no knowledge? Business will probably burn out without dating and practice. I'm not going to build anything, why if we live in a city? And in the bank for a year there are tears, not interest. If he doesn't burst at all.



At my age, it's too late to find a man who would really love me and my daughter. My ex got married a second time. The tablecloth is safe. I don't know what to do yet. But now I will only make any decisions after I have thought them through. That's what life taught me.