Offered my mom money to sit with her baby on a regular basis, deep down I believed she would refuse.

Who can help if there is no time for a child? Of course, grandma. It is a normal practice for grandchildren to come to the village or just to visit their grandparents. New place, new people. The hungry will not be left, and even the wisdom of life will be shared. In many post-Soviet countries, at least part of childhood was spent this way.



What to do if working parents also need a short break. After all, a child now, no matter what he says, is not cheap. And salaries are not growing, practically, in any way. So the decision to send a child to his parents is not just a whim. This, unfortunately, is a vital necessity.

It so happened that in the sixth month of the decree I was forced to go to work. To me, of course, this is unacceptable. A mother has to take care of a small child, because during this period there is a subtle but important spiritual bond between them. And if it breaks, it is not known what their relationship will be in the future.



The fact that at one point there were two important events: the husband was demoted at work. Thank God it wasn't his fault. The company he works for has its own internal problems. In this regard, our financial condition is significantly shaken.

On the other hand, my boss suggested I go to work earlier. The place I had dreamed of for a long time was freed up, but due to the huge competition, I would not have been able to get it later. I had to say yes. And two working parents and an infant are a combination that is almost impossible.



Peels had to seek help from his mother. She's pretty young for her grandma status. So even with such a small child can easily cope. Especially my own grandson.

She lives nearby, but you need to walk through several yards with your legs. And you can't call a taxi, and it's not that small for a woman her age. But what can we do?



When I asked my mom to look after my grandson, I was very nervous. The whole story of my husband’s work, the interrupted decree and so on, got me off track. So, to be sure, I offered my mom to pay for her time. A small amount once a month, so to speak, for work.

And she said yes. Deep down, I was hoping she would understand me. After all, babysitting your own grandson is a great joy, isn’t it? And she told me that herself. I was also sent to my grandmother as a child. Not so early. And they took me to the countryside: for the summer, away from friends and city comforts.



I was surprised at how quickly and easily my mother agreed to take money. After all, she understands that I had to go to work, including due to lack of funds. How can you behave with your own daughter? Of course, this is not the kind of money my husband and I would spend on a babysitter. I was wondering, this is a different level. I would say space.

Still, it's kind of unconscionable. She told her husband that he would not get into this situation. Helps and helps, like, a little money. But money is not superfluous. I'm the chief economist in my family. And my mother to my husband, mother-in-law? That's how he treats me.



When I expressed (cautiously expressed) my dissatisfaction with my mother, she replied that I offered to pay for her help. Besides, her pension isn't too big and all that. And then we even had a little scandal.

I asked her what I would do with her in the future. When will she become infirm to take care of her, too? Who's gonna pay for it? Or put her in a nursing home right away? Don't think about it, I'm not that angry, it's just that the questions, in the context of our conversation, were right. Well, she got hurt and left. As far as I know, she had nothing to say.

Nothing, really. It was not the first time we had a fight with her. But now it was very out of place. My mother doesn’t want to sit with her grandson anymore. And for the nanny we have, you know, absolutely no money. My mother refuses all my requests. It doesn't even count as her native descendant. What to do in this situation, what to do?



Peels Husband said I had to work it out today or tomorrow. Otherwise, I won't come back to work. Which means my career was crying. What am I supposed to do now? Please give me some advice. Important things are at stake.