I found out that my mother has gained loans and now I am up to my ears in debt, I ask for help from my husband.

As a child, it seems that our parents can easily cope with any problems. We look at them as superheroes. As we get older, we realize that this is not the case. Sometimes our adult parents can do things that were hard to imagine. This is what the heroine of our history faced. She found out that her mother is in loans to the ears and urgently need to decide something.



Editorial "Site" He shares this story with you and asks for wise advice.

Recently, I noticed that my mother is not herself. Always thinking about something, hardly listening to me. Even his grandchildren talk without interest. Looks anxious and worried. She says it's okay, but I can see she's not okay. One day I sat her down and asked directly what had happened. Then she said that she had taken out loans.



I started crying and said that I took some money first, but could not pay it back. I took a second loan to repay the previous one. It was like a snowball. And now she has about a thousand dollars in debt. For a pensioner, the amount is solid. I was surprised because I don’t know what the money was for. And she said she just spent it on life.

It's hard for me to understand, though. My husband makes good money, we live well. I'm still on maternity leave, taking care of the kids. He gives me money for the farm, we live in his apartment, so you do not have to pay for rent. With that money, I help my mom every month. The husband does not mind, because he understands that a pensioner in such times is not easy.



But he doesn’t know my mother as well as I do. She's the kind of person who gets money. She's been like this all her life. Even her father, when he was still alive, always told her that she was a spender. All they could put off was the merit of their father. My mother was in debt all her life. She often borrowed money from me. Still returning.



It’s hard to understand because I try to save every penny. We may live well now, but things can change. The children will grow up and need savings. At the same time, she takes out loans to spend money on food and cosmetics. I asked why she hadn't said anything before the amount was so high. She grumbled that she didn't say it because I'm going to read it.



Only now I have to think about how to solve this situation. I decided to ask my husband for help. I thought he wouldn't say no, he always helped. But he said an emphatic "no." Like, your mom's in credit, and she's out of it. There was nothing to get into debt. And I know he's right. But I feel sorry for her. What do we do now? If I give her money, she'll do it all the time. But if I don't, she'll only get into more debt.



Editorial opinion The situation is really not easy. After all, debts tend to accumulate and get rid of them is not so easy. But the adult daughter does not have to constantly solve the problems of the mother. It is one thing when it is something important, but quite another when it is ordinary indiscretion and infantility. What do you think?