How to learn to cope with experiences

Yours is done. dream - here it is, Madrid, in all its glory. Walk on it, and the sky seems a little deeper, the sun is warmer and the air ... Oh, what air! So it takes a week or two: in a new housing has already been put in order, how to pay electricity bills is also clear, traffic interchanges have been found, the route is compiled. It's all about living and rejoicing. I don’t know why it’s so sad in the morning.





Many people think that moving to another country will forever change their lives, give motivation, allow you to start with a clean slate. Unfortunately, this does not mean that along with the new stage, migrants have psychological invulnerability. Editorial "Site" I tried to figure it out.How to overcome depression in a new place.





It is believed that since a person was in a country with a high standard of living, then he must be immediately happy. It is not customary in emigration to cry and complain about difficulties, you are in paradise! The blinders fall very quickly, the gloss of Hollywood films acquires absolutely shade. Here is just a short list of what an immigrant might face.

1. Sadness.
   One of the first feelings you feel after moving. Nostalgia is so strong that it is quite capable of provoking a prolonged depression, underestimating self-esteem, rewarding apathy. Try to be less alone. Go to the city, meet new people, call your family more often, do not remain isolated. This is the second item on our list.
   
   
   
   
2. Isolation.
   Separation from relatives and friends can emotionally devastate a person, lead to loneliness, and this cannot be allowed in any way: feelings can become truly unbearable. The hostages of the situation are introverts, who, due to the complexity of communication, find it harder to get to the surface. Go to language courses, find immigrants like you. Any activity is welcome.
   
   
   
   
3. Disappointment
   Disappointment after being isolated is a natural consequence. You really can be disappointed, because you dreamed about something else, and the “new house” in this regard you are not happy: ambitions turned out to be more than the possibilities of their implementation. But don't give up. Either way, you'll have to go through a period of adjustment. Tune in to it.
   
   
   
   
4. Fear.
   Against the background of general confusion, physical fear can arise. It can include fear of deportation, detention by the police, health problems. You suddenly realize that there are fraudsters here too: impure people who will try to defame you just because you are a foreigner and do not understand the local realities. We need to accept this fact and try to be more cautious.
   
   
   
   
5. Fight for survival
   God forbid that you have to fight or wander around shopping in search of discounted goods. Alas, this can happen to anyone. Money may not be enough for everything. As long as you just adapt and live on what you brought with you, it can be really tough. It's stressful. Treat it as a test that must be overcome at all costs.
   
   
   
   

Collectively, this is called Ulysses syndrome, a kind of need to constantly rebuild your life after moving and experience remarkable mental discomfort on this occasion. It so happens that a visit to a psychologist is required, but who to contact in a foreign country, especially if there is no money at all? Let's try to highlight. rule on their own.





If you have Ulysses syndrome.

1. Do not lean on pills and antidepressants that your local doctor may prescribe. You better play sports. In a new country, this will be a great way to deal with yourself and your thoughts, and at the same time to get in shape. Act!
2. Expired food is certainly good, but try to build your life in advance so that you eat well. Adaptation will require a lot of energy and therefore food.
   
   
   
   
3. You have to do something with your thinking. Who said it would be easy? Think of yourself and how you felt when you first got on the plane. What happened to them and why did everything change? What is stopping you from getting what you want? The answer is on the surface.
4. Some people tend to break all past ties, burn bridges. This can really motivate, give an additional impetus, but for this you need to be very stable psychologically: to sacrifice everything for the sake of your higher goal is expensive. Pretty selfish, but it might work.

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Some, on the contrary, keep all the connections so that you can at any time “roll back”. It may seem like a weakness, but communication with loved ones always carries a positive. Friends, family, they will always support you, which means that you will not feel lonely on the planet.





To conclude this difficult topic, I want to bring you to a simple question. Is it necessary to move to another country? Think about it again: what do you have now and what will you get in the end? Another thing is if you have no choice and you have to. You want a hint? Take care of that, How to overcome self-doubtThe country does not matter at all. Oh, I almost forgot. You can always go home and no one will judge you. Good luck!