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Moving abroad A dream of many young people. Agree, it always seems that where we are not, much better than at home. Someone really succeeds by changing residence. And someone faces unexpected problems, such as the hero of today’s history Artyom. What happened and whether the man found a way out of the situation, read further in the article.



When I was 28 years old, I went to work in Portugal. Throughout my youth, moving abroad was my dream, which I worked hard to achieve. My parents didn’t want me to go that far. But when I started making good money and helping them financially, it was like they calmed down. I got married abroad and never went home again. He kept in touch with his relatives online, sent them money and sometimes sent packages with gifts for birthdays and the New Year.



I met my love in Portugal. At first it was difficult for us to communicate, but over time I learned the language and everything fell into place. Caroline became my wife and gave birth to two children. I worked very hard to support my family. I never wanted my family to have to save money. That’s why I didn’t come home because it was expensive.



In general, our life was developing as well as possible, until a phone call rang like thunder from the clear sky. My parents never called my cell phone because it was expensive. We used to call on Skype. I was so scared, I thought something was wrong with the urgency. But it was a little different.

I picked up the phone and at the end of the phone I heard my mother’s voice: “Son, hello!” How are you? Look, here's the thing. My father and I had a meeting and decided to ask you if you want to go home. ?



I was confused and for a second I was speechless. The mother continued, You know, son, this is the case. My dad and I aren’t young anymore and will be 70 years old soon. It's hard without you. I'd come, live with us, help. And if you don't want to come by yourself, we don't mind moving in. We have nothing to lose here and we have never been abroad.

To be honest, I felt like I was being manipulated. My mom knew I wasn't coming because I just couldn't leave my family. So she suggested two options for me to choose their move. But that's absurd! My parents live well: they have their own large apartment and cottage, my father drives a car. Every year I help them with money so that they go to the sea or to the sanatorium in the summer. Isn't that enough?



If I tell my wife that my parents want to move in or that I need to visit them, she just won't understand me. I don't want to go anywhere! Portugal is my home, my children are growing up here and my beloved wife lives here. I am 43 years old and have my own life.

I tried to explain this to my parents gently. My mom started crying, called me an ungrateful son and hung up on me. I decided not to say anything to my wife: there is no need to bother her again on trifles. After that conversation, he didn't walk himself for days. I know I didn't do anything wrong, but I still feel guilty. How do you get rid of that feeling? Maybe we should go home.

Sometimes parents begin to manipulate their adult children and pressure pity to achieve the desired goal. The old saying, “We gave you life, now you owe us” still exists and comes out of the mouths of older mothers and fathers. But is it worth saying this to your children, who cannot put their lives on pause for the sake of their parents?



What, in your opinion, should Artem do in this situation? Boldly share your point of view in the comments!