Son calls stepfather father and doesn't want me to go back to ex-husband

What if your ex-husband wants to return to the family? It is a difficult question, especially if a woman has a different spouse for a long time. But Tatiana, devoted to her first love, did as her heart told her. How her adult son reacted to this, read further in the article.

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My mother warned me not to get married at 18. But I didn't listen to her. Who listens to their mothers at this age? I was in love with my classmate. I dreamed of living with him all my life. I was sure it was forever.

2 years after the wedding, I became pregnant. My mother told me again what a mistake I was making. But I didn't listen. I loved Anton with all my heart. In the beginning, we lived in the soul. Of course, we were not in school. I had to find a job to support myself.



Then we had a son. The worries became even greater, as did the cash costs. Little by little I began to notice that my husband was moving away from me. He went missing more often at work, and he didn't show any interest in me at home, if you know what I mean.

I was hurt, but I thought it was temporary. Like, the child will grow up and everything will fall into place. But our son was growing up, and my Anton was becoming a stranger to both of us. When our baby was 2 years old, the husband came and said that he was going to another.



“I've been cheating on you for a long time. Sorry. I know I did the wrong thing, but our wedding was a mistake, he said. I swallowed my tears and let Anton go. What else could I do?

Then she moved back to her parents and listened to her mother’s lectures almost every day. “I told you so!” she kept repeating. I can't find a place. What to do, how to put your son on his feet? And most importantly, where do you find the strength to live?

My close friend supported me. But she knew I couldn't do without a man's shoulder. About six months later, she introduced me to a beautiful man. He was 5 years older than me, ran his own business and lived in his own apartment. That's what I dreamed of.

I liked Lesha right away. He gave me confidence and stability. I didn’t expect a serious relationship because I had a child. I haven’t been divorced yet, to be honest. But Lesha started paying attention to me. He became friends with his son almost immediately.



We started dating more often, and after a few months Lesha asked me to get married. I knew I had no reason to refuse him. I felt like I was behind a stone wall. And I went down the aisle again. This time it was more conscious, but less happy, because memories of my ex were still popping up in my head.

Nevertheless, I started a new life. Anton disappeared from her once and for all. He did not pay alimony, and I could not bring myself to resolve this issue through court. He did not see his son either, and very soon my child began to call Lesha Papa. And to him, he was a wonderful father.

What to do if my ex-husband wants to come back and everything was wonderful until one day my ex-husband wrote to me. At that time, our son was already 15 years old. And in all these years, Anton never contacted me. He asked me to meet him, and I couldn't say no.



Anton said that he quickly broke up with that lady and since then he had no women. All these years he's been blaming himself for leaving me. And now I finally realize that I want to come back. The ex calls me to him, wants to resume communication with his son.

Something broke inside me. My most cherished dream has come true. I was ready to move in with Anton on the same day. But my senses told me I had to talk to my son first. “You do what you want, but I will not leave my father!” protested my Pasha. He even started crying.



I wasn't ready for that. But she could not go against her feelings. She confessed everything to her husband and left. I’ve been living with my ex for a month and my son hasn’t been in contact with me since. I want to fix it, but I don't know how.

Life Wisdom: What does this story teach us? They say you can’t go into the same river twice, but Tatiana seems to have managed to do it. It turns out she just used her second husband, didn't really love him. And her son was genuinely attached to his stepfather. Why should he live with a man who left him and hasn't appeared on the horizon for more than 10 years? I fully understand the boy’s position.

But what to do next, Tatiana, I suggest you decide. Write in the comments what advice would you give to this woman?