How love begins and how we become meaningful to others

The question that most young and not very young people are interested in is: Why do people fall in love? each other? What is the reason and what can be done to increase your chances of loyalty from the opposite sex? Of course, there is no secret. There are no words, smells or sounds that could unconditionally fall in love with anyone.



But there's something we can do. Understand some of the things on which human relationships are based. Someone feels these concepts without any theory, just by nature understanding the essence of things. And some are lost, it is difficult for them to start a relationship and even harder to keep them. So the information written below can be useful for many broken hearts.

Why do people fall in love Start with the fact that people do not like us specifically. People love people. figureAn aura associated with someone. It is easier for the brain to focus on other people. This fact has already been proven by many scientists and does not raise any questions for most. But we'd like to dwell on it longer.



When we meet another person, we only need a few minutes to form a final opinion about him. Yeah, that's easy. This is practical in terms of evolution and real life. So, first impression very important. We look at a person’s appearance, clothes, listen to their conversation, and perhaps are guided by the words that mutual acquaintances can tell us. If there are any. The image decides a lot in this matter.

Over time, if the acquaintance went well, these charms can break down. There are people, especially young people, who at the first meeting like to pretend to be a completely different, fictional person. But the vast majority of actors are bad and easy to spot. Why do you have to play someone else’s role for a long time?



But if everything went well and after a few dates you decide to continue the relationship, the main driver of such a union will be the relationship. development image. Of course, only for the better. For example, a woman met a man who turned out to be some kind of boss. He has a lot of people, he has money and all the benefits. Interesting character? Yeah.

But without development, he turns into something definitely not suitable for anyone: a workaholic, constantly disappearing at work. He has no interests other than his work. There's nothing to talk to. There is no need to talk about rest, because he is busy 24 hours a day. By the way, the work is sedentary, so let's cross out the image of a muscular handsome man. A pretty tummy punching from under the jacket is what you can count on.



You don’t want to be in a relationship with such a person. His image (that is, he himself) is not developed. He's one-sided and uninteresting. The same parallel applies to a very beautiful but stupid woman. You can't take your eyes off her first. And then it gets boring and boring.

But to a good image you need to add and self-respect + respect for your own second half. This means that a person for complete happiness needs not only to develop as a person, but also to respect his partner. Banal and said a million times? Yes! But it works.

Now a few words about self-development after the end of the relationship. Former partners, spouses often continue to follow the lives of those with whom they broke up. And if they see that they are doing well, there is a good chance that they will want to try again. That’s because they see how the image they’ve loved in the past has changed. better. Whether to meet with such a person again is another question.



Many people who are abandoned after a breakup often reconsider their lives and spend a lot of energy in order to become better. Not for anyone else, but for yourself. And that's the only right thing to do. First of all, self-development is wonderful. And second, when we get better after a while, our image and our improved image will work for us. People will be attracted to us, and we will become more interesting in their eyes.

It turns out that not every gap brings only negative. It is better to look at the situation from the outside: if you, as a person, constantly developed all this time, were interesting, respected your partner and yourself, then everything is fine. You're not the problem. Just accept the fact that the person you love is not perfect and chose that fate. Let go and move on.



In fact, we can come to the following conclusion: self-development, calmness, full respect for yourself and your partner will make you an enviable groom or bride. Pay attention: many of your beautiful acquaintances still can not find a mate. While the “gray majority” babysit if not with grandchildren, so with children. Apparently, they have long known the key to a happy family life.