Sixteen touching manifestations of love

Years spent together leave a significant imprint on each couple. Often, both women and men relax over time and no longer indulge their soul mate with excessive attention. That's too bad!

The authors of the book “The Rules of a Smart Wife” Ellen Fein and Sherry Schneider advise spouses to always be on guard. In particular, married women should pay attention to several important points.

Love for a husband

Let him make important decisions.
You think you prefer to live in a big house, and he likes city life in an apartment. You're determined to raise three kids, and he needs two. You want to spend a vacation somewhere in Europe, and he loves Asia. Should you insist on your interests until blue? Yeah, if it's vital to you. In other situations, the reins should be given to the husband. After all, a harmonious relationship is much more important than always proving yourself right.
Watch yourself, but don't overdo it.
Of course, your husband thinks you're attractive, or he wouldn't have called you down the aisle. But that’s no reason to stop taking care of yourself. You do not need to look like a TV star every day, just have a neat look and apply natural makeup.
Let him be alone with himself.
Men often like to spend time alone with themselves. Therefore, you should not take away such an important opportunity to retire. When a tired husband comes home from work, do not throw him with questions, requests and tasks. Give him half an hour to come to his senses, or wait until he talks to you.
Support your spouse.
Even if he had a trivial problem, you need to support your husband. He'll certainly appreciate it. Also, do not forget to praise and thank your spouse for his help, even a small one. It is important for a man to feel needed, then he will be very comfortable with you.
Don't talk bad about his family.
Even if his relatives are the real devil. In that case, he knows very well about it. From time to time, the husband can allow himself to criticize them, but it is his right. You don't have to go so far as to put yourself in a bad light.
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Let the romance stay in the relationship
Even married couples (especially if they have children) need dates. Spend the evening alone. And it does not matter in what format your date will be: going to a restaurant or watching a movie. It is enough that no one will interfere with the romantic atmosphere of the evening.
Read books about harmonious relationships in the family
This may sound naive, but if you are interested in psychology literature, you will learn to better understand yourself and the person around you, which will help strengthen the relationship.
Don't complain about the kids.
Of course, it is worth telling your husband about the day of his little robbers. But do not go to extremes, for hours complaining to his wife that the son on a walk was smeared beyond recognition, and the daughter brought from school bad marks. Eventually, your husband will stop talking to you because he thinks you’re a bad mother.
Don't talk bad behind his back.
Silence about the problems that have accumulated inside, and then take the garbage out of the house is not a good idea. Before complaining about a bad husband to your mom or girlfriend, try to discuss all the troubles with him. You can be sure that half of the quarrels can be avoided if you find out the causes of the problems in time.
Don’t ask advice from single friends.
Often, such ladies have not yet tasted real family life and marriage seems to them as a continuous candy and bouquet period. So they'll be wild to hear about your next fight with your spouse. Girls will think you are in big trouble.
Become a true keeper of comfort in the house
Men are extremely strange creatures. Despite the fact that the garage or workshop can be a complete mess, they are very comfortable there. But when they come home, their notions of comfort change radically. Therefore, the wife needs to try every day to keep the family corner clean and tidy.
Do not argue with him in front of others.
This is especially true of dealing with children. You don’t have to force them to take sides. Remember that the problems of spouses should concern only the two of them.
Make him something delicious.
Men appreciate when food is cooked with love. Even if your cooking skills are far from the chef's.
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Accept what doesn't concern you.
Do not demand from a man detailed stories about all the troubles that have occurred on his life path. At the end of the day, they may find it uncomfortable to remember their failures or just embarrassing situations. Let him have the right to little secrets, because you have them too.
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Fixing a relationship, forget about screaming
For men, more important is not the information that a woman wants to convey, but what tone she said it. Therefore, when clarifying a relationship, it is better to forget about screaming, even if your cry is fair and very important. Try to explain everything in a calm tone, in which case you have a better chance of being heard.
Kiss him more often.
Couples who have lived together for many years often stop kissing each other. It's so important! At least once a day, kiss your spouse, this is one of the most touching manifestations of love.