A husband will stick to his wife if... 5 shams of treason for him and her.

It's sad that so many families are falling apart because of adultery. Someone finds the strength to forgive everything and live together. But still, cheating is a symptom. unhappy marriage. It clearly indicates that the needs of one or two spouses are not being met. We are not talking about intimacy at all.



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He is the author of “His Needs, Her Needs: Building a Marriage Without Infidelity.” Willard Hadley. He conducted an experiment involving several hundred couples and identified the basic needs of men and women in marriage, in the satisfaction of which the spouses consider each other irresistible and do not even think about cheating.

Editorial "Site" They will tell you about 5 pairs of needs of spouses, satisfying which you will strengthen your family better than any amulets.



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1. Tenderness and physical intimacy
   For a woman, tenderness and care are very important. Simple hugs, kisses and flowers for no reason inspire her. She tries to be well-groomed, interesting, fun... Men have a need for intimacy. For them it is important both physiologically and psychologically. Often there are couples in which the wife complains about the lack of tenderness, while she often denies her husband intimacy. Therefore, it is very important to meet these 2 different but interrelated needs. A happy woman is a happy man, and vice versa.
   
   
   
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2. Communication and your man.
   It is very important for a woman to talk. She can talk with incredible enthusiasm about the usual trip to the store, and it is very important for her not only to be listened to, but also to get feedback. Couples communicate a lot at the beginning of a relationship, but then there is a kind of silence in which a woman feels unnecessary. Hudley claims a woman needs about 2 hours of attention to her interests a day. For a man, a woman should be a good companion for rest and entertainment. Often before marriage, women happily get involved in the hobbies of a partner, but then send him with friends or refuse to make a company. For marriage, this is very bad, because men attach great importance to the ability of a spouse to be a true friend, in addition to the fact that she is a beautiful woman. You can talk during fishing or football.
   
   
   
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3. Honesty and beauty
   Another couple of absolute opposites. It is important for a woman to be honest and open in a relationship, even if it concerns trifles. If a man hides information or cheats, his reliability for a woman is destroyed. A woman may feel unsafe. Male need is the external attractiveness of the wife. This need has two aspects. The first is the opportunity to present an attractive woman to society. It is important for men to have more expensive watches, a cooler car, more deals, and a more beautiful woman next to them. The second aspect is that in a love relationship it is difficult for a man to value his wife only for spiritual qualities.
   
   
   
   
   
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4. Prosperity and comfort
   It is important for women to feel protected. In this case, the financial situation plays an important role. Money is never a lot, but there is a very specific amount, which is enough for life, when there is security and confidence in the future. A man’s need for peace and comfort is so great that they often fantasize about his wife greeting him with joy and love at the door. And there is laughter, joy, cleanliness and order, family dinner, stories of children, fresh bed ...
   
   
   
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5. Examples to follow and admire
   It is important for every woman that her husband be a wonderful father. He should be a real role model for his son or an ideal man for his daughter. You won’t get all this from a man unless you admire him. A man wants to be proud of himself. The most important thing to admire sincerely, let it be something small and insignificant, but something that causes true positive emotions. But it should be admiration, not an appreciation of his actions.
   
   
   
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Try to listen to each other, listen to each other, and maybe change something in your relationships and behavior. The main thing is to understand that everyone is selfish. Everyone has their own interests and hobbies that don’t have to be exactly like you. You need to try to find a compromise, and then there will be an idyll in the relationship.

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