“Of course, I could take my granddaughter with me for the summer, it is not difficult for me. But... The answer of this wise mother-in-law is worthy of imitation!

Who's Grandma? Modern grandmother This is both a nanny and a housekeeper, it is a source of endless pampering and gifts for grandchildren. And most importantly, the grandmother is a symbol of wisdom, love and indulgence. But grandma is for grandchildren, but for my husband, his grandma is his mother-in-law. And beloved, which, unfortunately, is not found in all families.





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Mother-in-law-in-law relationship They have long been the object of many jokes and can even cause divorce. It seems that it could be easier: two people, although not relatives, can find a common language, at least out of love for their loved one - daughter and wife. But that's not always the case. What is jealousy, possessiveness, the desire to protect a loved one?

But my good friend Olga believes that this is human stupidity and lack of reasonable approach in relationships. And I agree with her. The situation in her family is an example of mother-in-law He helped build an almost perfect relationship with both his son-in-law and his children.

Olga’s husband speaks sincerely about her mother with great respect and warmth.





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One day I asked her husband a question: what is the secret of his good relationship with his mother-in-law?

He said, When I got married, I looked at my future mother-in-law. I had heard too many stories and complaints from my friends about bad mother-in-law in my time, and thought that was the case with everyone. Especially since my wife's mother was single at the time of the wedding, and I expected her to be bored with interfering with our family.





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It really happens. Relationship tension It can also occur if the personal life of the mother-in-law is not quite arranged. Unfortunately, in this situation, a woman feels lonely and perceives her daughter’s family as her own. She either enrolls her son-in-law as sons, or she transfers to the shoulders of young spouses the duties that, in theory, a man should perform.

But a friend's mom did something different.

“Time passed, the mother-in-law did not flicker on the horizon. Of course, she called her daughter every day - I regularly heard her wife chirping with her on the phone, but this was limited!





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“Then a baby was born, and I thought maybe now she would spend the day and sleep in our apartment to teach the mind. But my mother-in-law also disappointed me here - she bought a stroller, brought a whole suitcase of diaper-crawlers and again quietly disappeared.

She, of course, helped to sit with the child, when his wife needed to urgently go to the clinic or to the dentist. But this was the only thing! – said the husband of a friend with a smile.





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And in May, after three years, Sergey offered Ole to go somewhere on the sea to relax. And leave the baby to her mother at this time. "She's alone anyway, let her granddaughter be happy!" he said. To which Olya grinned and asked her husband to talk about it with her mother.

And in fact, here is the secret of the ideal, in my opinion, the relationship of the son-in-law with her husband, which I learned from this story of Sergei: I come to my mother-in-law, not even for nothing, but with candy. She smiles, welcomes, brews tea. I tell her that it would be nice for her granddaughter to spend the summer with her grandmother while her parents rest a little and gain strength at sea.”





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The mother-in-law listened to her daughter’s husband and responded to his proposal with these words: “I, of course, could take Alenka to my summer, it is not difficult for me.” But tell me, my dear son-in-law, when will you have another chance to take your three-year-old daughter to the sea? Just this year. Because in a year it will be a four-year-old baby, which is a little different.

And you'll forever lose a whole summer of communication with your daughter, fusing her grandmother. Would you give me that jewel so easily? Fifteen years later, your own daughter will not want to go to the sea with you, because she will be an adult and have friends of her own.

She'll grow up fast, and you won't even have a memory of how you first started, holding a hand, a delighted crumb in the surf waves. How he first put a shell on her palm and built a sand castle with it for the first time.

It's your right first and foremost! And it is your daughter's right to remember that it was her father who showed her the sea for the first time, not some other person. Don't deprive her of that!





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"Believe my experience," she continued, "our children are with us for a very short period of our lives." And every moment spent with them is unique.

And then Sergey thought hard. He remembered being his constant all summer long. sent to grandma in the village. I remember how his father very often did not have time for him because of heavy workloads. And then he was knocked down by a stroke and it turned out that Seryozh really has nothing to remember about him.





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This conversation happened a year ago, and that same summer, in July, Olya, Sergey and their daughter Alenka went to the sea together. And this year they're going back together!





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“And my mother-in-law I love and respect, because this is really a wise woman!” – said Sergey, and I remembered. My husband, too!

So my family this summer. will go to sea in full force. By the way, we will also take our grandparents with us, because the time spent with the family is the most beautiful and invaluable, everyone should remember this!





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Scientists have proved that the maternal grandmother is the most important person in the life of a child. She does not just transfer the necessary knowledge, experience and gives him love, warmth and care. It turns out that the connection with her is much deeper! Read this article and find out why.



Tell me about this. storytelling To your friends on social networks, let there be as many happy families around as possible! Take care of each other and be wise like this woman.