Why you don’t always have to be the perfect wife Bashny.Net

I have two friends that I have been friends with since school. We don’t see each other as often as we used to, but we still have a lot to talk about and laugh about. Three married women, each successful at home and at work, but views of the world are different. Because of this, we live in different conditions and different lives.

This weekend we met in a cozy cafe, and the conversation came about. good wives. Is that what it means to be a good wife?





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And then one of us with a smirk said that marriage is a bribe given to a housekeeper to consider herself the mistress of the house.

We were surprised by Elena’s statement, because looking at her house, it is safe to say that she is a good wife. Groomed and neat, Lena observes order in the house at the level of army standards.

We are silent about cooking: the first, second and compote in various daily variations. Children ironed, fed, surrounded around the clock motherly attention. And the husband is always in ironed trousers, does not chuckle during meals, gives earnings to his wife, does not drink beer, undergoes an annual medical examination.





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Only, looking at Lena, you can't tell what's in front of you. happy and joyful woman. Sudden, with a drooping look, tortured by home life. This woman used to have burning eyes, but now...

Unfortunately, our society has formed a clear stereotype that the wife owes everything and the whole world - everything but herself. Many women who want to be good wives lose themselves.

Today's edition. "Site" I decided to shed some light on the subject. good and bad wivesThe question is: Why is a happy woman a bad wife?





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Delicious and varied food, perfectly clean floors, well-groomed children, ironed clothes of her husband, and also you go to work and look like you should be 100. And it is desirable to have your own hobby and do needlework, for example, embroidery. At the same time, the wife must necessarily feel and radiate peace, peace, happiness.

The modern society represents portrait It's like an honors girl. For some reason, in this scenario, it is believed that she simply must be happy, always in a good mood and, most importantly, should feel it sincerely.





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Now let's turn to practice. In the eternal quest to meet the criteria of a good wife, a woman eventually breaks down. She turns into a nervous and irritated spouse.

A normal woman simply cannot do all of the above. Let's just estimate the time: ironing takes an hour, the minimum cleaning of the apartment - about 2 hours, to prepare food for 3 meals a day for children and husband - a few more hours. If you work, add another 8 hours.

And check your son's homework, go to the shower, go to the store, visit the mother-in-law who is always suffering from pressure? And it would not hurt to eat, sleep, wash your hair and paint your nails. Oh, and have sex with your husband! Mission impossible.





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So my friend Lena, in a constant quest to meet the criteria of a good wife, stopped feeling happy. From such loads, any normal woman eventually breaks down.

And if you take off the masks and look at yourself, you can understand that in this situation, you will willy-nilly begin to turn into an angry, nervous, aggressive bitch who continues to pull on his shoulders the impossible and internally hates everyone for whom this sacrifice is intended. Including myself! For not knowing otherwise, but tired.





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But Ulyana considers herself a bad wife. And all because she lives in a chaotic way.

Only this does not mean that she does not observe the rules of hygiene at home, does not prepare and does not engage in the development of children. Just in her closet you can find forgotten for six months and already dried mascara. On the Uline dresser may well lie a baby sock, a bottle of mineral water and a women's magazine, gently covered with a layer of dust.

And sometimes the refrigerator is empty or spoiled food. She orders pizza for the whole family if she is too lazy to cook a full meal. She allows herself to walk in her pajamas for half a day and lie on the couch on Saturday, watching her favorite TV show. It's just that she doesn't sacrifice herself for the sake of wifehood!





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A happy woman knows how to be genuinely lazy, adapts to the situation, seeks comfort, not perfectionism. Such a wife is kind, well-groomed, glowing with happiness. She allows herself to be real. And that's what I want to be!

A man next to such a woman feels his importance and necessity. Therefore, in the house of an imperfect wife, children’s laughter is always heard, and her man is happy.





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On the altar of perfection we can put our health, appearance and our sincere feelings. But is a picture of a happy family worth the sacrifice? Maybe it is better sometimes to close your eyes on certain things and limit yourself to a suitable, comfortable and comfortable one.





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Agree that happiness is a philosophical concept and everyone understands it in their own way. You can’t fit everything into one pattern and make everyone happy.

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The experience of many years of psychological practice shows a clear discrepancy between a happy woman and what it means. good wife.

What do you think about it, do you consider yourself a good wife by conventional social standards? I will be glad if you share your opinion with us in the comments, and do not forget to discuss this topic with your friends in social networks.