How the ability to give affects relationships

The problem of allocation of financial resources in a pair is as old as the world. Money is an indicator of relationships. They show the level of care, trust and responsibility between a man and a woman. Of course, no one has canceled love, but millions of couples quarrel and disperse because of valuable papers. And at any stage of the relationship and with any level of wealth. Who should pay? Do you need to be independent or ask for money from a man?



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A lot of questions arise for men, even more for women, once they start a relationship, as their financial worlds collide. In addition, there are a number of stereotypes that, coupled with infantility and the advice of others, give rise to many conflicts in a couple, whether it is marriage or simple cohabitation.

Editorial "Site" I decided to tell you about the general rules of money relations between a man and a woman. And also about the typical mistakes of beautiful ladies.

The rules of monetary relations in a pair

1. The male forager
   In the twenty-first century, nature cannot be fooled. A man must earn and provide for his family. A woman is not forbidden to work, but you do not need to take on all the duties of a man, and then wonder why he is lazy. He just knows you're gonna fix every hole in the family budget. Some women go out of their way to equally replenish the family budget. Every couple has their own rules. But the main earner should be one person, and this must be stipulated and understood before the beginning of life together.
   
   
   
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2. Interchange
   The first rule may have angered many, but do not rush to think that a woman is a consumer, and a man always owes something. The main rule of life: to get something, you need to give something. So is the money. A woman is not a houseplant that does not leave the house and only cooks borsch. She must constantly develop, fill herself with the energy that she will give to a man, thereby inspiring and motivating him to go on, achieve new heights and not give up in difficult moments of life. The woman is the inspirer, the keeper of the hearth, the mistress in one person. A wise woman never saws a man or hysterics that she needs money for new shoes. By helping her man, she gets it.
   
   
   
   
   
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3. Dialogue
   You need to talk about money, goals, investments and other monetary aspects. For example, a man wants to invest in a business or buy a new home, and, of course, for some time you will need to moderate your appetite. It is important to say everything in order to plan your expenses, your desires and even basic purchases. Not to be silent, to do what you want and then to be offended.
   
   
   
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4. Learn to ask
   Some women live in eternal resentment that their men do not think about taking care of them and pampering. But a man cannot know all your needs and desires, so you need to learn to ask. No ultimatums, no rough tone. Start small and gradually increase your requests. Whether you ask for a bouquet of flowers or a car, be equally grateful and rejoice.
   
   
   
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5. Trust.
   Trust is the foundation of all relationships. You need to work on it, you need to earn it and not miss it. Then there will be no problem in the form of husband's stashes and you also do not have to secretly save for cosmetics or anything else.
   
   
   
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6. A woman does not have to give expensive gifts.
   Important is the banal attention and emotions that the gift caused. Don’t spend much on a man to match his status or assert himself. If you have such an opportunity, on health, but take loans or ask your husband for a gift is not worth it.
   
   
   
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7. Money is important.
   Money is important, but it’s wrong to focus on income. Equally good with a man should be in any case. Financial ups and downs are not scary. You can fly to the islands and bring emptiness with you, or you can enjoy a walk in the park. You just need to clearly understand that no one owes anything to anyone, and be a motivation for a man, and a man – to want to be a breadwinner. If you don’t have that, your chances of happiness and financial success are very small.
   
   
   
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Women's mistakes

1. Competition
   As already mentioned, there are women for whom to earn more than men and have a higher position almost the meaning of life. “I don’t want anything!” and “I don’t want anything!” are positions that should be abandoned. For male potential to develop, a woman simply has to shift finance on men's shoulders. Otherwise, you will destroy the man, and you will burn out morally.
2. "You owe me."
   In a healthy relationship, there is no consumer demand. There is an exchange: when a man invests and covers the needs of a woman, and she encourages his masculinity and makes him successful.
   
   
   
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3. Feeling freeloader
   Men, of course, value modesty, not mercantileness. But when a woman does not know how to accept gifts, help, signs of attention, she ceases to be feminine, she does not want to protect, provide and please. Feeling like a freeloader is the main fear and big mistake of such women.
4. Illusion
   If a man on first dates divides the check in half, it is foolish to assume that he will enthusiastically provide for the future family. Most likely, you and the crane, when necessary, repair, and nail the shelf, and you will work two jobs. Discussing the budget before the wedding.
   
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Romance is important, but in family life and many household issues, money plays a huge role. Therefore, you should not postpone the money issue for last. These monetary rules serve as the basis around which their personal relationship. For some, the norm is 50/50, for others – that parents help, and in some couples, everyone uses only their personal income.

We also talked about how to attract money into our lives.

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