Turkish mother-in-law rushes to babysit grandson, even baby wants to send her home

Moving is always hard. Especially if you move to another country with an unusual mentality. New food, culture, attitude to everyday things can easily lead to a stupor. And nothing can be done, because, as they say, “they do not climb into another’s temple with their own rules.” Marrying a Turkish is always a lottery. Who knows what that's gonna mean.



Though it's just words. In practice, sometimes you want to break down and go home to your loved ones. Except it's not always possible. Our story tells about a woman who married a swarthy foreigner and flew to his homeland. Having come to terms with all the differences between their cultures, she decided to give birth to a child. And here she was waiting for a real surprise...

Did you know that in Turkey, grandchildren are not engaged in mother-in-law, and mother-in-law? These are the pies. My name is Svetlana and I have been living in Turkey with my husband for 5 years. We don’t have children yet, and I think it’s early, and my husband supports me. Do not think that all Turks only dream that to get a harem exclusively of Ukrainian, Belarusian and Russian girls. There are men and very European views, like my husband.

But I'd like to tell you about my friend Vic. She is older than me, she is 32 years old, and she came to Turkey relatively recently. I met a Turk on the Internet, and they got really busy, and they got married a couple of months later. Salih, her husband, is 10 years older than her, and I wouldn’t say I’d like that party. But what can you do, age? Vika really wanted to get married, and Salih really wanted children.



In general, about courtship and wedding, I can not say anything specific. It was held in a close family circle, and I was not invited there. Vicki's husband is not the rich handsome girl 19-23 years old dreams of, in a white shirt, with a black bristles and a charming smile. No, he's a balding man, pretty tight, with a somewhat patriarchal temper. But he's not bad, he's such an education.

When Vika gave birth, she only spent two days in the hospital. They took her home so as not to spend a lot of money. She told me how she woke up in the ward because her husband’s brothers had made a mess in the hallway of the hospital. Greeting the woman in labor, seeing the baby and all that. A couple of thirty-year-old "boys" made so much noise that the whole hospital stood on his ears. But they did not even make comments, everyone is already used to it.



But the circus began when Vic was taken home to her husband. They lived together, but with the child they became three. Not for long. It turned out that in Turkey there is a custom when the mother-in-law comes to his son with his daughter-in-law and takes care of his grandson. Perhaps this tradition has some logical basis, but in Wikin’s case it happened differently. Her mother-in-law immediately set her own rules, although she could not really do anything. By the way, Salih’s patriarchal views disappeared as soon as his mother crossed the threshold of his house.

Just a few examples so you can understand. Yether, the name of her mother-in-law, decided to clean up. She herself is small, and the age is not the same, but climbed the stairs to dust in the closet. I took out the middle shelf and almost fell from there, right on the chair standing nearby. Vicke had to force the shelf, remove the chair and half the evening to calm her husband’s mother, because she now twisted her leg and generally “suffered for the sake of the family.” And that's the second day after the hospital.



No milk. Yether grumbles that here, the son found a Slavic woman too old for motherhood. I could have found a local, young one. How many of them ran after their son before they got married. Let me remind you, "son" over forty, and this is never a dream man from the cover of a magazine. Oh, come on.

Domestic questions were also difficult for the father-in-law. The diapers can not change, there is no help in the house: tired, you need to sleep. The child cannot be laid, he screams, and she only gets even more excited. It turns out that Vika is watching his son and an old mother-in-law. Anyway, the housekeeper as she is. What can I do?



My husband took some time off to help his mother. I didn’t pay for it, so I had to borrow some money from a friend. So they were interrupted for several days almost bread and water. The cost of a child in Turkey is incredible. And Yether stays at home and is not going to leave. He says if I get there early, the neighbors will laugh. She doesn't do anything, she just grumbles.

I recently saw Vika at a nearby shop. He says he sometimes comes here to take his soul, goes crazy at home. The father-in-law is going back in a couple of days, but it's not over yet. She plans to make such visits at least once a year. A month later, the Salih brothers are going to visit their nephew. Not for long, just for a couple of days. The ones in the hospital. Vika tries to think that she will not have a nervous breakdown, and quietly asks her mother to fly to Turkey to help with the child.



This is the sweet life of some of our compatriots. I'm somehow more lucky, and, in principle, I'm happy with everything. Maybe it’s because he’s so far away from his culture. But as you can see, it could be quite different. Take care of yourself and let everything be fine.

Very interesting and instructive story. Yes, the possibility of such a situation for some of our compatriots should be wrapped in a mustache. We wish Vika patience and all the best. Let her be all right.